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I notice men are having a hard time knowing they aren’t supposed to comment here - I wonder if the sidebar language is ambiguous. I know it says “Women only”, I wonder if something more explicit might help?
e.g.
Rules:
- only women are allowed to post & comment (trans women are included)
It’s possible this wouldn’t help at all, but it might be easier to scan and be more explicit in case someone does notice the sidebar?
Guess I wanted to see what others thought.
Yep I’ve noticed that. Funnily enough lots of the ones that don’t realise are hostile, which is a huge coincidence 🙄 . I’ve added it more visibly on the rules hopefully that helps.
I personally have experience moderating a community designed for one specific group of people. My advice is use heavy handed moderation, some people may call you a tyrant or a mod abuser but thats whats needed to keep a community like this clean from those who would rather speak over the memebers.
That’s a good tip and yep, I’m ban heavy. They can downvote me and say what they want, but I’m NOT allowing misogynistic shit to harm members.
I think that unfortunately no amount of tweaking the sidebar or rules will help. People who come here and don’t realise the rules are probably jumping straight into individual threads from c/all and reacting without ever even visiting the front page of this community. You would hope that the fact the community is literally called “Women’s Stuff” would be enough to make these people reconsider jumping in to attack but here we are. I have a feeling that this is what every women-centric community has had to face on this platform so far.
Personally, it’s something that makes me still feel hesitant about chipping in with anything here, even though you’ve said non-binary people are welcome. Because there’s already enough people invading here and warping the purpose of this community, and it’s still early days with not enough activity from women yet as it is.
You’ve got something good going here though. And something that Lemmy needs. So I hope that you keep fighting off the riff raff and building this place up. Even just as a lurker, thank you for this space where I can read some good conversations with healthy insights (and pick up tips on dealing with sunscreen woes lol). It is highly appreciated.
Yep the name is a clue! They’re usually drawn to the feminist posts as well which is no surprise. We’ve been unlucky the last few days we’ve had a few anti feminist men, but usually we’ve been fine.
I respect your decision to not post, but don’t ever forget non binary are 10000% welcome 🏳️🌈🌈🏳️🌈
Thank you. Your acceptance really does mean a lot 💜 Don’t let anyone make you think you’re any less than an awesome person because it would be lies.
And yeah, at least it doesn’t seem to be a constant problem in every thread. There definitely has been a noticeable little wave of it in the last couple of days though. Maybe that’s a good sign in a way though. Means that the community is picking up steam and showing up in c/all more often. I just hope it doesn’t become too much.
Me too! We’re all on top of it though, so hopefully we’ll be ok. And that’s really kind thanks ❤️
This community seems nice, lemmy needs more spaces for women :3
Thanks Kittenz! We’ve been blessed with a lovely bunch of women posting
natter sounds like a delicious sugary spread, probably has chocolate in it, and some kind of nut - hazelnuts, peanuts, etc. 🤤
Omg yes! Like this beauty which is so delicious I can’t have it in my house
omg that’s obscene, lol
Yep!
and yes, you could label a jar “natter” and fill it with that spread and I would be like, “yes, this is natter”. amazing.
I’d buy that
What does natter mean?
I don’t know - from context I assume it means like “chit-chat”, looking it up:
(colloquial) To talk casually; to discuss unimportant matters.
We did some heckin learning! Thanks!
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That book looks solid! Doom listening is a good idea, it’s far less inflammatory and you’ve got better control of it
Just finished Twilight last week and now nearly half way through New Moon. I’m pleasantly surprised at how good they are so far. Not great, but good enough to pass the time. I might skip book 3 though as I heard there’s some harsh stuff in it…
I’m hoping this gets me back into reading again.
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Reading the planetfall series. It’s weird. I like it!
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I think so. There aren’t a thousand characters and points of views and locations and stuff. It’s quick and interesting. Apparently can be read in any order but I’m just starting at 1
