I wish this was accurate. There would be a lot less fascists.

This is absolutely a major contributing factor, but there’s more to it than this. Everybody is lonely, pretty much regardless of gender. This issue hurts everyone.

And it is also caused in part because of how fucked up we’ve designed our society. It’s nearly impossible to make friends as an adult because

• we’re all working too much to have the free time for it
• there are (effectively) no third places where you can hang out with the expectation to meet people without the expectation of spending money
• to get anywhere you generally need a car, highways and roads divide and spread everything which makes walking or biking difficult
• social media is run for profit, not for the sake of actually connecting people
• these above issues feed into the issue OP is pointing out. If you are lonely and your life isn’t going too well, then you’re gonna seek answers for this complicated issue. And fascists are all too willing to take advantage and provide simple answers. It then turns into a self feeding cycle.

I’m sure there’s a bunch of other reasons too, but those are the ones of the top of my sleep deprived head. Even if all the above awful values men have disappeared, the above problems would still need to be fixed.

So if I’m a lonely guy it can only be because I’m a sack of shit. Cool cool. Love that. Great for the self esteem.

The fascists go for a predatory numbers game, hitting up as many women as possible while hoping they find ones vulnerable enough to get roped into an abusive relationship. It’s a strategy that breaks down against women who socially reinforce self respect amongst each other. Of course, this isn’t unique, as fascism similarly recruits vulnerable men who struggle with self respect. It’s abuse and cruelty all the way down.

So. Counterpoint to this, in that I think those guys should just keep doing what they’re doing.

The bar is so low all I need to do is show up on a date and not say anything racist and I’m in.

In fact: y’all should go even harder with the douchebaggery.

Every time I see this meme format I’m a little frustrated and sad.

A long time ago, Cosmo did a bunch of studies on dating app users. It published a bunch of their results and people have been miscounting it ever since to serve their assumptions.

On dating apps, when one woman matches with one man, 90% of women match with 10% of men. This is largely a result of the app populations, which were and are mostly men. Unless you’re okay with your girl dating ~9 men at once, dating apps will only match a small percentage of men, because that’s how maths works.

When asked to judge dating app profile pictures (no other profile information), women judged men’s pictures lower than men judged women’s. This is as much a factor of the profile pictures we choose as anything else. In addition, men’s match preferences had a strong relationship with their attraction ranks. Whereas for women the relationship was weaker, and the content of the profile was a larger deciding factor. But people hear about the judging profile photos thing and go ‘women are more critical of appearance than men are -> women are shallow’.

When asked ‘what age are [men/women] most atteactive’, women tended to answer close to their own age (with a drop off around 50). Most men said 20-25. But most men saying still typically matched close to their own age. Much like the women with profile pictures, they were trying to answer a direct question with what they believed was a critical, scientific, ‘objective’ answer, rather than reflecting their own dating preferences. But now women fear (or believe) that any men will not find them attractive as they age.

There’s a lot of interesting things in those findings, if you acknowledge it is specifically measuring dating app users, had nuanced findings, and was not scientifically robust in the first place. It’s broad conclusions DO NOT apply to the population as a whole.

And I ache a little each time I see its conclusions reduced and misused to justify misanthropy. Much like the myth of ‘the alpha wolf’, it’s misinformation that refuses to die.

I really feel like this is an idea that needs to die. Plenty of abusive and hateful men seem to have no problems with getting the type of relationships they want; this just inadvertently promotes the idea that one needs to be a ‘nice guy’ in order to have a relationship. Not every guy who leans left succeeds in wooing a woman, and right wingers complaining about where the women are at are probably in circles with primarily left-leaning women and they need to go look in a church or country concert or something.

Instructions unclear, turned into an insufferable Marxist and now I don’t have anyone to talk to

Please, don’t be dismissive of a real problem just because people you (rightfully) hate are disproportionately more affected.

Yeah you’re right, I’m only alone because Im garbage, thanks for that reassurance.

Well, I’ve been a filthy commie since middle school and I still have no bitches. How do you explain that?

Sadly, there are as many right wingnut women as there are men.

I could wish this where fact, but it fails to take into account that beyond punches you also need social grace and appearances surpassing Ralph Wiggum…

People forget that women can have like, ultraspecific preferences. Women above a certain age tend to be married, the rest not interested in relationships at all. Then there’s the Lesbians having relationships with each other. This still does not account for the difficulty dating as a man. I guess most do find a partner, but it’s harder, so feels like there’s somehow less women available.