I’ve designated one room in my house to be an Airplane Mode room. Technically it has WiFi but whenever I’m in it I behave as if my phone didn’t have any reception. Believe it or not, actively pretending that your phone has no WiFi works better than just passively putting on airplane mode. I always get a sense of calmness when I enter.
What artificial limits do you impose on yourself that ultimately enrich your life?
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After a long, unhealthy relationship, I ended up in a very promising relationship.
It took many years if half truths to her, and then full disclosures, and eventually, a full and total disclosure of my past, my desires, my weaknesses, the whole lot.
She barely flinched. She saw me for who I was / am.
From that moment we bonded deeper than I’ve ever thought possible.
Nobody could hijack us. Nothing could try to surprise us and derail / damage us. Shame was thrown out the window. There is none. We know everything. We meet as honestly as is possible each day.
Do it. I highly recommend it. However, there was a right time. If we’d done it too early, we wouldn’t have worked.
So with that backstory. Always telling the truth to my partner. No matter how scary it seems.
Truth, truth, truth.
So you are into pegging. We know brah!
It’s tots normal my man. We all are, we all love it. You were just living under a rock.
Good thing your woman has patience.
Happy for you and your dom gurl!As someone who has a lot of trauma and is going through something similar with a new partner, it’s so freeing just having someone get me.
Whenever there’s elections I wait for somebody to mention the result in conversation unprompted and find out that way, to stop myself from doom scrolling
I ignore the results until they’re all in as well. The time to worry and do things is before the ballots are cast.
I don’t drink at home. I’ll let loose when I’m out with friends but at home I don’t drink. I had a period of my life where I was very close to becoming an alcoholic. It wasn’t until a recovering alcoholic (using extremely broken English) suddenly seemed very concerned with me and told me I could talk to him any time that I realized where I was heading. A couple years later I messaged him to tell him how important that moment was to me. I don’t even know if he could read English well enough to get the point but I hope he understood.
1 hour every night i can do anything i want that includes no electronics. I usually just sit and think things through and it has helped a lot with my anxiety.
No caffeine multiple days in a row. I often enjoy it, and I don’t think it’s really that bad for you, but I don’t like the way it adjusts my personality and state of mind if that makes sense and it’s easy to get addicted enough to start feeling like crap if you don’t have any.
Same here, I don’t drink a lot of it compared to many but I still try to take a month long break at least once a year to ‘reset’ so it feels good again instead of needing it to just get through the day.
It’s not as bad as nicotine, but part of what’s happening is your sleep quality is declining from going without your substances. Even without cutting into the later day it’s best to avoid drinking coffee or a lot of tea all the time.
I like coffee flavour and the habit of it. But every once in a while I quite drinking it for months, and waking up in the morning feels so much better. There’s no morning grogginess, or oveall tired feeling, just wide awake instantly and ready for the day. Caffeine really does make us dependent even though it is subtle
Actively look to “give glory” or kudos to people around you.
On a practical level, be it an opposing force opponent, or even someone on your own squad - like a family member - looking to give glory encourages me to engage with my environment on a real level when I’m drifting off or getting lost. I’m trying to connect with the intentions of others while still trying to achieve my own. These don’t have to be lose-lose situations, and they shouldn’t be either.
If I can compliment someone on a tactic or a response committed under stress, I’m trying to say I see the other person. I’m also saying honestly that the action was valid, and others can understand my position without guessing. In a world where some feel they have to live by deception or seek glory for themselves exclusively, simply validating someone else gives strength and encourages others to tough out their positions in the face of toxicity.
You’re also forcing a change of perspective, and refraining from dwelling on the faults of others or yourself.
Even if the kudos goes to the opposition, I’d rather compliment someone I believe I can work with, and build mutual respect.
I never use escalators. I always take the stairs. It is usually faster, and the little bit of extra cardio is always a good thing
Eat no meat products. You can call it vegan but I feel great.
Go outside at least once a day when I don’t need to be outside.
If you’re thinking about something that takes less than 2 minutes, you should just be doing it. I will admit I got this from one of those productivity guys
no problem solving in bed when you should be resting. if something pops up, identify it & make a note (mental or otherwise) to address it at a later time.
My alarm is across the room from my bed. It’s been a long time now, but I definitely felt better after I started doing it.
I brush my teeth whenever I come in from outdoors (even if that’s multiple times a day). That way, it’s doesn’t block me from going straight to bed once I start falling asleep in the evening.
You don’t eat at home?
I’ve swapped brushing before bed to brushing after coming in
Refusing to use social media like Snapchat, Instagram & Twitter. Major downside is my generation is mostly using them so I know fewer Zoomers on the Fediverse but honestly, I would take that over me comparing my body to guy’s fitness picture and feeling insecure about it. Also, I barely interact with people I know in my high school and I to some extent, wish to be forgotten from them. Some really have messed with my mental health, that’s all I will say.
Yeah I find like spending time on discord servers/WA chats etc. is much better than scrolling feeds
Have fun
