In Colombia we have this tradition of making “old guy” dolls that are burn on new years eve with messages from all the things we want to left behind. When my cousin changed his name, we named the old guy with his dead name and burned it.
I’m totally doing this when I come out with a name change. Freakin epic. 🤘
Is it cultural appropriation if I steal this?
Because I’m definitely stealing this.
Mind your local laws regarding burning things out in the open. But i think it would be super cool if people started adopting this. I don’t know how similar the tradition is to the colombian one, but in ecuador the doll is called the “old year”. It’s stuffed with old newspaper and sawdust, clothed in old, unusable pants and shirt and wears a papier-mâché mask of whatever you want. It’s common to put a mask of a politician
Same, but we don’t usually involve politics.
I think it’s been adapted enough to be safe.
My (white American) family has something similar, but probably has a common origin:
On Jan 1, we will have a fire. Fireplace, fire pit, even a candle. We then write our regrets on paper and burn them. It’s private, and you don’t have to share what you are burning, but you can.
We’ve been doing this since I was a child.
Cool, i didn’t know this tradition was also done outside of ecuador. Do you also burn it out on the street and jump over it?
Don’t remember the jump over part. It’s funny talking with people of Equador, it’s like eeey we do the same thing here! Everytime.
We burn el viejo in Mexico too :) no jumping, it used to have fireworks inside
When someone I know changed her name, her parents decided that they would use a new name but it wouldn’t be the one that she wanted, it would be similar. So my friend called their mum Carol, instead of Caroline, and the problem quickly solved itself.
In some families, this would lead to a cold war where they just keep using the wrong names for each other until death.
Future generations grow up thinking those are their actual names because it’s what they’ve always called each other.
lol when I asked my gay brother to put effort into my name and pronouns he cried and said I was emotionally manipulating him
Ah yes, the Leslie Jones method
I do have some questions about who hired her because I think she yelled at 4 out of 6 people at that table?
Leslie Jones providing an equal and fair treatment to all, regardless of whom hired her - I’m down with that.
What you’re training them to do is disown and disinherit you both. At least, that’s the outcome I’d expect.
154·11 months agoOh, so you should let them hold abusing your sibling over your head for money? You shouldn’t stand up for the weak if the powerful might not reward you for it?
You are why the world is on fire. Millions of boot fellating cowards like you.
it’s the boomer way
Imagine being a coward cause you might not get mommy and daddy’s money when they die
Also, imagine not loving your child enough to respect them as a full independent person.
If they were that much inclined then they shouldn’t have deadnamed/misgendered in the first place, even after being told so many times.
If they were gonna disown for that, then they’d have done that either way anyways. Might as well get some nice improvement by removing that deadnaming and misgendering.
If they’re willing to go that far, they’re not parents worth having. Good riddance.
You say that like it’s a bad thing.
Lmao, as if they will leave you anything. It’s not rare for parents to decide to blow all of their money on travel around the world and leave their kids with nothing. Their generation is proud of pushing their problems onto their kids and leaving nothing behind.
Oh no! Anyway…
Don’t threaten me with a good time.
Why should you fear maybe not getting money some time in the future over what years of misgendering does to your sibling?
Hmm, if only there was a name for the type of situation that occurs between people where one side is tolerating abuse purely for monetary compensation. Also, potential - not guaranteed. They could be broke AF at the end because of the amazing healthcare system.
But sure, tolerate the abuse, transphobia, misgendering, deadnaming, and what not - because they are your parents and you may get some coins for it. Yeah, no.
If your (birth)parents/family/friends are that shit - you don’t need them. There’s a whole community that’ll welcome you as you
a whole community
Not necessarily, but you’re still better off without dead toxic weight. Need to lose it more, even.
Well it’s the outcome you’d deserve.
If it was due to malice and not forgetfulness, why didn’t they just confiscate the air horn?
Narcissists are all about their appearances to others. The same people that abuse and overpower in private do everything to seem like the nicest people in the world to others. They can just “oops I forgot” to the deadnaming, but taking away the airhorn by force in front of the rest of the family would show the animal inside that they make their entire lives about hiding.
