29 and still confused af
https://social.treehouse.systems/@bri7/115789310926455235
whole thread is really good
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God, you can come out at any age, your 20s isnt too old. Your 30s isnt too old. Your 70s isnt too old.
Stop this shit.
youre totally right their 30s is not too old.
my 30s on the other hand…
I saw a woman on reddit a couple of years ago that transitioned at 70 and shes so happy. You got this ❤️
I remember at 21 feeling like I’d been alive for a long time. The first couple decades go slooow, before the blur starts.
Before the blur? 👀
The blur of ageing
Blink and you’ve missed it.
Only in retrospect
From where I’m sitting, a 55yo who came out eight years ago, the biggest thing I deal with is grief.
I tried to come out at 23 – young for the 90’s! – but chickened out in part because of some gatekeeping and also fear. So. Much. Fear. Even then though, my voice had dropped, my beard come in, and and and…
But I was young and hot and around beautiful slackers who would have loved me regardless, and now I carry the grief of 33 years of coulda-been.
That’s the price of transitioning in middle age, for me at least.
You might think that an old like me might be resentful of the opportunities available for trans youth today. Absolutely not! Seeing young adults who never had to go through the “wrong” puberty, that gives me so much hope and joy!
I grieve now for the kids who are seeing that hope deferred.
I guess what I’m getting at is that any age you transition at, there may be lost time to grieve, but more than that, it’s something to be treasured beyond value.
I celebrate each and every one of you 💕
That along with “I’m 19. Is it too late for hrt? Will I ever pass?”
Especially 2 posts down from “I started hrt at 50 and here’s my results after 1 year” and it’s one of the most attractive people you’ve ever seen
Yes plz :( I’m almost double that and want to curl up into a ball and self combust.
Hey, it’s never too late to be yourself! There are so many examples of happy trans people who didn’t transition until later in life. (I have to remind myself of that all the time 😅)
I know it’s tempting to mourn the lost time, but what’s far more important is the years ahead of you. You can do this!
I dunno what state you’re in AU but transgender victoria offers good support if you’re not in community
took me so long to find community that actually welcomed me
I started at 38 and im so happy. Its never too late.
Aaah that’s gonna be me tooooooooo!
Just starting that process a few days ago has put me into this weird state where I keep bursting into fits of laughter and smiling stupidly. I’m actually hoping this feeling wears off a bit before I go back to work and get drug tested or something.
29 and confused gang ❤️
hell yea
We’ll get there or maybe we won’t but it’s ok as long as we stay true to ourselves!!
A couple years ago, I met someone who said she only could understand her sexuality/gender and have the freedom to express it very recently, in her 60s, and now she faces prejudice both for society, and also from a large part of the queer community, due to her age. This was so sad :(
I hope it’s actually a small part that does this, but human perception makes it feel much larger.
People can talk about their own lived experiences however they want
Thats not a lived experience they are pointing at though. Its a a fear based on the focus on youthful beauty instead of seeing the beauty in every age.
Society does this to us and enforces it at every turn.
It wants you to think there is no path to loving how you look past youth and thats just not true.
Most trans people transition as adults because we wont let kids be their true selves.
Yes trans folks first puberty was wrong but its not unworkable at 20, 30,40, or even 80.
With a therapist, sure, but don’t bust in to a public space with problematic harmful shit and expect a pat on the head, a pat on the back as I show you the door maybe lol
you mean like when that b**** f**** n**** f**** my b***** a***? like that? smh
Some people are lucky with their appearance, and some have been dealt utter garbage. So yeah, obviously there will be people who struggle with just HRT after wrong puberty destroyed their life, and others who start with 50 and look gorgeous because they always had more feminine characteristics (or masculine, for the men among us).
I also started with 19 (after they’ve made me wait for 3 years 💀), but I’m a 1.90m (6.2 ft) tall tank who started off with a voice like Hulk Hogan. If some randoms on the internet can’t deal with me venting about my problems and ugly appearance despite being “lucky” (as if) then that’s a god damn them problem.
Anything after 12 is too old to prevent damage. Calling 21 super old in this context is god damn valid.
You need to reframe this in your head, if you think of yourself as wrong and damaged you’ll struggle to find peace within yourself.
you’re not damanged because you don’t align with cis-heteronormative and white-supremacist ideals, there’s nothing about you that is inherently wrong
As an aside, you’re body still changes a lot between 19 and your late 20s
it’s funny I struggle with a lot of this, but if I see someone remotely like me - tall, deeper voice, body hair -I will fawn over how amazing they are. It’s a lot of work to break these old patterns of self disrespect and self loathing
be kind to yourself x
I am already 33 and well aware of how bodies change over time, thanks. To imply that a wrong puberty isn’t inflicting huge damage is just sugarcoating deluxe. It causes lots of potentially problematic issues like beard or breasts that often have to be removed to not cause permanent dysphoria (i.e. make you sick). That is a kind of damage by definition. So can be body structure and voice, depending on the individual. Only the individual can tell what’s right and what’s wrong.
So, for sanity’s sake: do not try to define what is right or wrong (damaged) about someone else’s body. There are a lot of things that look different with a fresh perspective, but to claim that everyone (incl. me) can simply make what permanently pains them look better that way is the same shit people who don’t want us to get proper help say, just rainbow-coloured. Dysphoria looks like shit from every perspective and doesn’t care about social norms.
Word to my friend who transitioned in her fifties
30, amab enby, still questioning and doubtful. Christian conservative household fucked me up good
I came out when i was in my late 20s, started hrt a year later, and after 5 years of hrt i still get transpeople asking if I’m going to start, and what I want out of transitioning, telling me ‘how feminine’ i am.
I did this all on my own isolated and in secret in a conservative community, the first person I came out to, my first openly queer friend, outed me to the jordan peterson fans I was living with (it’s so funny, how we don’t talk anymore)
I could scream, very grateful to people for constantly reminding me how little some people value me or my experience, they’re like: if you don’t transition in the womb your a worthless hunk of meat, get srs or you’ll never amount to anything
sincerely, read a fucking book, stop browsing 4chan, touch grass
urgh
I came out as a woman at 55. Best thing I’ve ever done.
I am really glad I never encountered this type of bs when I first started without first being innoculated by other trans people who were starting older than me…
I started questioning at like 20 or 21, and fully realized a year later, and then I got on hrt at 23… I went from not having any ability to imagine a future in which I would be happy to actively living happily with the start of some actual goals in life in 2 years, and now ,about 18 months into being on hrt, I am being told I am beautiful often enough that I’m almost starting to believe it…
