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DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone )  to 196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 5 months ago

Ace rule

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Ace rule

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DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone )  to 196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 5 months ago
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  • BloodMuffin ( BloodMuffin@lemmy.ca ) Banned
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    Removed by mod

    • DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OP
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      Real

  • Jorunn (she/her) ( WillStealYourUsername@piefed.blahaj.zone ) 
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    There is no ethical chasing

    • DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OP
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      Ok after rereading my comment i need to elaborate a bit because it sounds psychotic - I dont have a real gender preference i just call myself an ethical chaser because I think its funnier saying it that way because it also includes trans people

      • 🦄🦄🦄 ( Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org ) 
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        That’s not what a chaser is. That is quite literally the opposite of a chaser.

        • DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OP
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          Might be but ive been told by trans people and saw post from other people calling anyone who likes trans people(no matter if they like cis people aswell) a chaser so i just started labeling myself as such

          • 🦄🦄🦄 ( Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org ) 
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            Ok, then lemme clear this up :3

            A chaser is someone who wants to have sex with a trans person, because the person is trans, regardless of their character, etc. Most chasers are only interested in trans people that haven’t had gender affirming surgery, so it’s double icky.

            • DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OP
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              Oh so they just want to microdose being gay as a fetish!!! Ok thanks for explaining it to me because I have shitters as friends and they turn everything into a meme.

              • 🦄🦄🦄 ( Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org ) 
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                How would it be gay?

                • DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OP
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                  It wouldn’t be but to some cis straight people it counts as being gay(Im comming with the mentality of a third world country so i genuinely might be wrong its just how i heard people here talk about it . Im from Kosovo)

    • DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OP
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      I know but what if - I dont give a fuck about gender??

      • luciole (he/him) ( luciole@beehaw.org ) 
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        *hits you with pan*

  • Soulg ( Soulg@ani.social ) 
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    Seems kinda by definition not ace then?

    • kayzeekayzee ( kayzeekayzee@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
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      Describing sex acts and doing sex acts are two very different things. At least for me anyways.

    • rockSlayer ( rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
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      Not all ace people are sex repulsed.

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        I didn’t say anything about repulsion; but if you sometimes want sex, then how can you be ace? That’s frankly a genuine question because I thought that was literally what being ace was about.

    • DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OP
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      True but i dont even know at this point. Ive lived thru my entire 29 years of having no romantic or sexual feelings towards any person or gender and then theres the last 2 months where ive just been horny on main every other week for no fuckass reason i dont know at this point.

      • JennyLaFae ( JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
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        Injections every two weeks? Possibly hitting a sweet spot on your levels.

        • DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OP
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          Im not on hrt… Im not even trans, at best im agender but im still debating that :(

          • JennyLaFae ( JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
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            Same, but with the addition of “I have trans friends who are trying to forcefem me”

            How sure are you? :3 /jk

            • DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OP
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              They’ve been at it for the past 4 years so pretty sure. I said in an earlier post that i dont feel like any specific gender at all so theyve been thinking that i might be NB or agender but theyre still trying :3

              • JennyLaFae ( JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
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                To be more clear the joke was insinuating “are you sure you’re not on hrt” not “are you sure you’re not trans”

                • DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OP
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                  My bad gang im the big tism xD

      • n0xy ( N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com ) 
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        You are horny but it’s not directed towards anybody specifically?

        • DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OP
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          Yes its not pointed pointed towards anyone.

          • n0xy ( N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com ) 
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            I have that with some fantasies. It’s somewhat scary, since if I ever tried them out, the person I’m doing that with would be basically disposable.

      • TotallynotJessica ( TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
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        tbh, simply discovering stuff about yourself/opening your mind to other possibilities can unlock a lot of hidden desire you didn’t know you had. Regardless of what flavor you are, you definitely come across as queer in some way

        • DerShendi ( DerShendi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OP
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          Yeah true and im open about it so im not shoving it down im just even more confused than i was before. Also im here on this website so ofc some fruit is flowing down my veins

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