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“I have had sex with X number of dudes” - doesn’t sound all that gender neutral.
Same with ‘guy’: “how many guys have you kissed” isn’t asking the same question as “how many people have you kissed.”
“How many dudes do you live with?” isn’t gender neutral, if you think it’s just an intimacy thing. How many dudes were at the party? It isn’t intimacy, intimacy is just an interesting way of making homophobic men confront the “dude isn’t gender neutral” argument though.
So, what’s actually happening in that 2nd panel? By all means, use dude how you like, just be honest about it.
I have, a couple of times, made men live their “dude is gender neutral” truth. Turns out telling people they are married to a dude, went to a party and kissed that dude one time, asking about their 2 dudes they have for parents, isn’t such a great time for them. Just be honest about it.
There’s also just the basic fucking courtesy of not using certain terms to describe someone if they ask you not to. If you address people of all genders as “dude” and a trans woman asks you not to refer to her that way, the correct response is “okay I’ll do my best not to refer to you with that term,” not “actually I use dude when referring to women sometimes so maybe you should just stop having a problem with it.”
It’s embarrassingly simple to come up with post hoc arguments for why refering to women as dude is fine actually.
Much harder to introspect and determine where that behaviour stems from, then acknowledge the place it stems from is toxic, and start changing. Harder still to unlearn a habit I put 30+ years into learning.
“I’m a dude, he’s a dude, she’s a dude, we’re all dudes. Hey!” - “We’re all dudes” from Good Burger.
Do you love fucking dudes?
You ever hear about nuance and context?
Yes.
He/him was used as a gender neutral term in instruction manuals. Do you believe he/him is a gender neutral term. In the right context is he/him is gender neutral?
If you read through the thread you’ll find a link to an article about he/him being used as gender neutral in certain contexts, and how we’ve learned since then.
He/Him is a pronoun. Dude isn’t.
Read through the thread.
Dun wanna.
That sounds like a ‘you’ thing. You do you.
“I’m a dude, he’s a dude, she’s a dude, cause we’re all dudes”
Yeah i think of this all the time its stuck in my head permanently. But also, its very easy to just respect anyone not wanting to be called dude.
Way to (carbon) date yourself, it’s “bruh” for the fellow kids now 🧑🦳
It’s not that old, bruh
What’s mine say…?
And theeeeeennnnnnnnnnnnnnnn?
Ah, i was gonna say “brown.”
Dude is fairly gendered. “mate” on the other hand…
What I’m getting out of this conversation is that language requires context. Dude can be used gender neutral, but it depends on context and people’s beliefs. When used as a greeting it’s gender neutral, but there are cases where it’s not.
I’m a dude, he’s a dude, she’s a dude, we’re all dudes!
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'sup, scro?
What??! There’s no “dudette”? 😱 My whole life has been a lie.
I thought it was dudes and dudettes.
Didette never really took off and just needlessly gendered dude. I much prefer gender neutral dude.
Meh, I prefer buddy, friend(s), folks, comrade(s) or asshat(s) depending on the context.
Dude is universal no matter the context though. Also, if you only have dude saved in your volcabulary it frees up space in your brain for more facts. Such as, for every snake there is one snake penis.
The final part of your comment has me questioning the possibility of female incel snakes.
Worse actually. Males have two penises, so the incels are twice as incelly.
I ain’t your buddy pal
I ain’t your pal, friend!
So, “dudette” has fallen into the waste bin of history, eh?
Sorry dude
I will believe this when straight men say they “fucked a hot dude last night”. Until then you are fooling yourself and just not wanting to adjust your behavior.
