In popular culture as well as in personal stories told by many people there’s often mentions of spontaneously having sex in random places and sometimes with random people: in cars, in clubs, in bathrooms etc. But how do people do that without taking shower beforehand? Penetration is imaginable - if there’s no strong bad smell, it might be tollerable, but what about oral sex? Sounds vomit inducing.
Horny brain can override a lot of better judgement.
@Parvus@lemmy.ml there is much that needs overriding.
i spend 75-80% of my time; outside of work and sleep; inhabiting establishments where spontaneous/random sex are the primary attraction for people to come and (besides bath houses or some sex clubs) they’re the same as any other social gathering spots.
it same social club like setting; same conversations/dancing/etc.; same thing all around except for the only difference being a dramatically more permissive attitude for public displays of sex.
women are extremely rare in the places that i inhabit, but i do know for that fact that both men-only and coed spaces operate by almost identical rules when it comes to the sex hygiene – show up with in good hygiene and you must be experienced enough with both penetration and fellatio to know how to prepare yourself accordingly if you seek either one. (ie. you’re not welcome if you don’t know how to clean yourself enough to be public; or to be penetrated; or don’t know how to give head without vomiting – grown and fully functional experienced adults only).
the only thing that’s different between these establishments and any other social clubs (again excluding bath houses and some sex clubs) is the entry price tag for most straight men.
If your or your partner’s genitals are vomit-inducing half a day after your last shower and putting on fresh underwear in the morning, you might have a medical issue that needs checking out.
I don’t think all these stories about having spontaneous sex are from people who had a shower half a day before the sex.
Also, condoms help. I’ve found having raw sex frequently makes the smell and taste a lot worse, a lot faster. I think it’s cause you get two very different genital smells mixing?
If a penis is too dirty to go in my mouth, it’s too dirty to go in my pussy. I strongly believe everyone should live by that rule!
To echo others here - if everyone involved showered that morning and otherwise wasn’t sweating a lot during the day, it’s fine.
But even after peeing once there’s some urine left. Is it okay for you?
Yeah as long as they’re wiping after pissing and keeping it relatively clean, I’m ok with a little bit of body funk.
It’s nice people can be so accepting. Thanks for sharing your experience!
I have ARFID and taste is a huge factor so I can’t live by that rule lol. But, normal people without eating issues, absolutely this rule.
This might be a reflection of your own hygiene. People are always surprised that I only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant because I look and smell so clean. Ive had orgiastic sex camped out in the woods where no one had access to bathrooms or showers and honestly it was no smellier or grosser than sexing people in a place with showers.
Good diet and doing laundry properly goes a long way but honestly some people are just nasty as fuck with their genitals and no amount of access to running water will change this. There’s unwashed pussies and dicks you will put in your mouth that taste wonderful and there are people who’s junk will smell like yeast and rotten meat even though they just took a shower
Sex is a little nasty anyways. If you’re not comfortable with other people’s taint you’re just not gonna be able to have as much sex. Not all taint is equal but it’s all taint
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I ate out a woman who’d been dancing all night in pleather pants.
Sometimes you just do it.
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Reminds me of that old college humor skit with Batman.
And the taste gets diluted very quickly with your saliva anyways. The intense flavor only lasts for the first ~half a minute
I mean if both of you are daily bathers and not sweating all day, there is no issue. If anything a tiny bit of smell can be nice, really let’s the pheromones do their work.
Hmm it’s interesting how different people’s perception of things might be. To mirror my question to other people who shared a similar opinion: but even after peeing once, there’s some urine left. Doesn’t it cause issues?
No, urine is generally cleaner than sweat, unless the person is dehydrated.
Wow didn’t know that, thanks
Lol. How did our ancestors manage to have sex before showers.
Develop a bit more hygiene and libido.
Well our ancestors didn’t wipe their asses and sometimes drank urine. Should we continue those practices, too?
I think you will find that people vary widely on their personal taste and tolerance in these matters.
Just as some love foods that others find completely offputting.
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My ex-gf (RIP) (she’s not dead she just doesn’t like me now) did not rly wash her hair. Nevermind about that. Historically sex has often been terrifying. We have got it so good you have no idea
CW: S.A., the most horrifying shit i have ever heard, do not read this
Before the October Revolution marital rape and giving birth too frequently with a poor diet followed by manual labor (serfdom was incredibly crushing after serfdom was supposedly abolished too, nobody really got lashes for treating their wife this way) was so common in Russia that women would regularly suffer uterine prolapse. I even heard that midwives would use peeled potatoes to try to physically hold the vaginal canal in for healing after prolapse. We truly have a lot to atone for, collectively. How long do you think until we balance out the suffering that’s been caused? How do we know this isn’t hell? Maybe it doesn’t have to be for too much longer.
If you can’t say no on those conditions, do you think telling your husband that he stinks like a fucking dog would stop him? Stalin, where are you? It’s so dark in here. We need your help still
Marital rape after giving birth still happens at such a high frequency that labor and delivery nurses have systems for when a male partner forces himself on his birthing partner while they’re still in hospital.
STILL IN HOSPITAL
my fucking eyes
People didn’t even shower daily a few hundred years ago. Hornyness makes anything possible.
That said healthy people don’t get that bad usually.
I’m more curious about how people have sex that spontaneously in random places?
It takes up to hours to get into the mood and any random place is likely uncomfortable and distracting enough to lose the hard earned mood.
Less about forcing a mood, it’s more about following when it does hit, exponential bonus points if you’re an exhibitionist.
Also, chemistry is huge, here. People work really weirdly in the head, so if, say, there’s a positive feedback loop in the dynamic, it can be explosive.
Clicker training is also valid. Or really any kind of training, which is likely what “pheromones” really is: horny people get stupid, funky unique smells happen, now you’ve built a taste for it.
Like literally just read about any kink ever.
And, if you aren’t feeling it, maybe try something or somebody different. Or maybe you’re ace spectrum, that’s totally valid, too.
Also, shame is a powerful thing. It causes people to do things and to not do things.
Basically, all people are weird, and that’s okay.
Yeah over the years I’ve found tha people are different and of course there’s nothing wrong in that. No ill will towards anyone on either end of the spectrum.
It’s just always surprising to see someone with a complete opposite of my experiences as i tend to forget about it completely and only reminded of it by outside influence and even then it takes effort.
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Hats off, i envy you.
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Fair, i can see the downside of that, but having a permanent spank bank is a rather good benefit.
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I totally agree, on/off switch would be the best option.
For some people it’s a lot easier and faster to get in the mood.
Yeah i know, but it still suprises me. I envy those people.
If you have a condom, penetration might be less icky.
I don’t know you, but for me, pussy doesn’t start tasting too bad until like 2-3 days without a wash
Lol
