• CadMunt ( CadMunt@aussie.zone ) 
    9·
    10 days ago
    relationship catharsis

    Today my ex wakes up in Tasmania with her sister on the holiday that I broke up with to avoid. We broke up for many reasons, but I’d checked out and couldn’t face feigning relationship investment for a full week. We had a nice chat the other day, she let me have it on a few fronts with good points. I seem to lack emotional availability, I didn’t have anything to say to that :). She’d acknowledged what wasn’t working for her. I feel we were both hoping the not working stuff would work but it wasn’t going to. We met at bad places in our lives and were good for each other during that time. It’s a shame that it didn’t work but it’s nice that it happened. Less traumatic than messy youthful breakups. I should try again.

    • Seagoon_ ( Seagoon_@aussie.zone ) 
      6·
      10 days ago

      hugs

      Holiday with my ex was the worst most awkward time.

      we rented an airbnb with the young Seagoons at a place near lorne

      I did not want share a room and didn’t

      but I basically never went on holiday for a very long time and part of the reason was because holidays are a special time and i didn’t want any special times

      re emotional availability, I had to look that up, had no clue what that meant. I think it is in a lot of ways pop psych speak and can mean anything or nothing. It can also be a vague way to attribute blame. Unless someone recounts real actions I’m going to say it’s a pretty useless thing to say other than as a statement of how someone feels about communication

      So it’s a tricky one. My ex didn’t say much and I don’t think I would have liked it if he did, there was nothing there but distrust and malice from the get go , but I might have run much much earlier if he did.

      me, i stopped sharing with him when what I would share became points for him to abuse and mock. So not sharing was not a bad thing on my part. But as rule I was still open and kind to him.

  • StudSpud The Starchy ( StudChud@aussie.zone ) English
    6·
    10 days ago

    Tried to strip the red out of my hair, and it’s turned a weird pink-ish champagne-y colour with my natural colour prominent near the scalp. I was expecting a coppery look tbh.

    Letting it heal a bit before going to home bleach it. I found a vegan bleach (!) so gonna give that a go. Then, most likely on the weekend, I’ll try to dye it pink and purple and see how it comes out.

  • Seagoon_ ( Seagoon_@aussie.zone ) 
    5·
    10 days ago

    Still so mentally tired while at the same time trying to get difficult things done ( that’s the point of abuse, eh, to degrade ability 🤨 ) but it’s been great to have the young Seagoons 😭

    and Bill Cat is better everyday

    So I’ve been reading a book on how to heal after gaslighting, it’s very interesting as well as healing, I can feel my rational mind get better all the time . It’s called "What if I’m Wrong? ( You’re not) " by Dr Peter Salerno. It’s all science based.

    • Pilk ( Pilk@aussie.zone ) 
      10·
      10 days ago

      It passed from exposure to the heat/sun. It seems mum had some trouble keeping up with the chicks’ movements.

      Detailed description from the Dr Victor Hurley

      Well, it is quite sad to confirm what we all already know. One of the nestlings has died. Sorry, I have been in the field out of phone range all day to report sooner.

      From a brief review of the tapes it appears the nestlings spread out in all directions and this overwhelmed F24’s ability to keep on top of things. With one in the gutter (a new occurrence for this year) and one at the extreme end of the nest box, F24 suffered from the “Vegemite Syndrome”, which is just a matter of being spread too thin!

      From my experience, that far corner gets really hot with no air circulating and these nestlings are too young to efficiently moderate their own body temperatures. If this one did in fact die from heat stress it will be the first out of 78 since 1992 to succumb this way. It was a short life and it filled us all with joy whilst it was here.

      The adults now have three young to focus their attention on and I am confident they will have this in hand through to fledging.

  • Tofu ( bacon@aussie.zone ) 
    4·
    10 days ago

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