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A 4 panel comic. In the first panel, a character stands on a cliff, addressing an audience, and says “trans kids should not get puberty blockers”. In the second panel, the audience, armed and labeled “cis people”, looks content. In the third panel, the character on the cliff says “they should get hrt so they can go through the right puberty at the same time as their cis peers”. In the fourth panel, the audience, still labeled “cis people”, looks angry at the character.
if you’re cis and seeing this: keep your concern trolling to yourself.
At this point I’m my life I’m almost just half resigned to call myself a bitch with a beard. It’s overwhelming to think about all the aspects at 43 and all the challenges of starting some kind of hrt. They gave me so much therapy and medication in my youth, not much I was agreeable with or seemed to be incredibly helpful. I sometimes wonder how my life had been if they took into account inquiring about my identity, and we all had a break through at a session, and tried some blockers or hrt or something. I also wonder how much of my psychological state of affairs is a symptom of a life of not realizing exactly how repressed I was. It’s like they threw everything else at the wall hoping it would stick, but not once did anyone ever even think to touch base and explore that maybe the symptoms they wanted to help me with were a result of some kind of gender dysphoric identity crisis I didn’t necessarily comprehend I was in the midst of.
Like looking back now. I’m like fuck. There was probably a lot of telltale signs in my eyes. It was like I’m the obviously gay friend that’s coming out to current self and, in my self is like yeah I figured. And then my past self is shocked. Like how did you know. I would have thought some adults would have noticed something. But it’s like here. Takes him speed and some antidepressants bub.
What you’re describing is yet another form of violence that these sorts of practices inflict, which is the refusal of self-recognition to trans/gnc people. This is a very common thing, and understandably so, because being forced to be cis when you aren’t is incredibly traumatizing and harmful to one’s mental health. Every disorder I have, I exhibit symptoms as a woman, and always have, which meant that I wasn’t diagnosed with major learning disabilities at a young age because I didn’t show symptoms that matched my gender at birth. Cumulative negative health effects are a major problem for trans people who so often experience depression, anxiety, and PTSD alongside negative effects from not only being refused gender-affirming care, but also even the self-understanding to recognize who they are and what they need.
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that, and it is important to remember that it is never too late. I also started when I was older, and I’m being serious, I felt happy for the first time in my life within two weeks of starting HRT. I didn’t even realize that I had been experiencing derealization for most of my life until I was on HRT long enough to actually feel connected to my body and the world around me. That isn’t the case with everyone – and please do not think it hasn’t worked for you if you start and don’t feel “fixed” after two weeks – but I point this out because I also spent a very long time knowing I was trans and thinking I didn’t need the HRT, or that I didn’t need to make a big deal out of it, but a few injections was all it took to start healing from decades of trauma. Hope you get whatever you need.