- HousePanther ( @housepanther@lemmy.goblackcat.com ) 17•1 year ago
Please seek help because I don’t like seeing good people in this place. If you need help, please call 988. You’re worth it.
I guess that’s the American help line? To anyone that struggles with residency in Germany, there’s the Telefonseelsorge. To bring up the courage and reach out is hard, but no one will ever judge you!
- HousePanther ( @housepanther@lemmy.goblackcat.com ) 10•1 year ago
Yes, I apologize for the assumption that you are US-based. The 988 help line is the recent addition to our system. Instead of summoning the police which makes everything worse, this gets mental health assistance.
- Borgzilla ( @Borgzilla@lemmy.ca ) 13•1 year ago
My homies: Marcus, Seneca and Epictetus.
- Wxnzxn ( @Wxnzxn@lemmy.ml ) 13•1 year ago
I am blessed to have two friendships that I have been able to maintain even through times of depression and paranoia, mostly because they are stubborn and forgiving enough to stay with me and reach out, even when my delusions of having to isolate from everyone because I am too horrible and bad to deserve friendships kick in. It’s a privilege I know isn’t guaranteed in life and I am so damn lucky that the mess I have comes with them.
If you are going through tough times and don’t have anyone at the ready, I know it can be hard, don’t give up. There’s the professional stuff like therapists, emergency hotlines, self-help groups and, yes, sometimes even strangers on the internet can be enough to give you a necessary mirror to at least lessen any delusional self-hatred and hopelesness that can creep up. Reaching out can be hard and seem impossible, but it is possible, and it is worth it - you are worth it.
- red ( @red@feddit.de ) 12•1 year ago
Who do you reach out to
Nobody
and why
Asperger’s
- red ( @red@feddit.de ) 5•1 year ago
Okay, technically I’m reaching out to my homie depression
- Dubious_Fart ( @Dubious_Fart@lemmy.ml ) 11•1 year ago
No one, because the only people in my life either wouldnt give a fuck, or would try to basically turn it into a competition (“Oh, you have X? I have X too, only worse. And also Y.”).
So I internalize it and push it all down into a tight little ball in my lower abdomen, until the day comes where it becomes a cancer and consumes me.
- Borgzilla ( @Borgzilla@lemmy.ca ) 0•1 year ago
Do you know where that tight little ball in your lower abdomen should go? Down the shitter. You don’t have to internalise it. You are your own best friend.
- Dubious_Fart ( @Dubious_Fart@lemmy.ml ) 1•1 year ago
What else am I supposed to use that blasted appendix for, if not this?
- Pretzelise ( @Pretzelise@aussie.zone ) 9•1 year ago
Nobody, because I’m afraid to upset/burden anyone by making my problems theirs. It’s caused issues in the past for me so I think my best bet will be finding a therapist lmfao
- Ibis ( @binchicken@lemmy.sdf.org ) 8•1 year ago
It’s worrying how many of the answers are “nobody”. Not surprising based on Lemmy’s main demographic being men in their 20s-30s, but damn.
I freshly graduated secondary school and still have a tight-knit friend group that I can lean on. Even as we drift apart, I hope I can still maintain this type of support network in the future, although I’m not too optimistic.
- livendie ( @livendie@beehaw.org ) 1•1 year ago
All the friendships I’ve had have died away. At this point it’s not even worth the trouble. Have fun while it still lasts.
- ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠 ( @Nemo@midwest.social ) 8•1 year ago
Nobody. I have to live in such a way that I don’t reach that point… including reaching out to others well before the breaking point.
- klemptor ( @klemptor@lemmy.ml ) 7•1 year ago
I reach out to my husband, who is super awesome and usually can help me put my problems either into perspective or out of my mind. I’m usually good at changing my mental channel, but sometimes I struggle and I’m grateful that he knows how to help.
When I’m not at my breaking point but am having a crappy day, I reach out to my dog. She’s not very cuddly and she’s dumb as a box of hair. She’ll sniff my face (focusing on the eyeballs, god knows why) and then turn away and cold shoulder me. But if I try to get up and walk away she’ll follow me like velcro. It cheers me up in a bizarre way :)
- CrazedLumberjack ( @CrazedLumberjack@lemmy.z0r.co ) 6•1 year ago
I’m super lucky to have a couple of close friends who I know I can call on. When my dad was dying of cancer at the end of last year, they both took turns coming over so I had company as a distraction 3-4 nights a week. After he passed they even took time off from their jobs and traveled out of town to his funeral while refusing my attempts to pay for their hotel rooms. I’m eternally grateful for them and I don’t know how I would’ve made it through that without them.
Man, those are real friends right there. I’m sorry for your loss.
- queermunist she/her ( @queermunist@lemmy.ml ) 6•1 year ago
“reach out” 😂
Sorry, second language! What would be the correct phrasing?
- queermunist she/her ( @queermunist@lemmy.ml ) 8•1 year ago
Oh! Sorry, you used the right phrasing.
I was being self deprecating, because I don’t have anyone to reach out to! 😅
Oh my bad! Damn, that hurts to hear 🥲 hope you‘re doing okay.
- 🇰 🔵 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️ ( @Kolanaki@yiffit.net ) 6•1 year ago
The internet. Really the only place I have if I am at that point. My family never understands and half the time I don’t even think they listen to me. They don’t even give platitudes or anything. Usually just a glazed over look and a shrug.
- smstnitc ( @smstnitc@lemmy2.addictmud.org ) 5•1 year ago
My bartender. They’re great listeners. Sometimes you just need to get it all out to someone that listens. They don’t need to provide advice or anything.
I yell into the void. In reality I don’t have a person like that.
- meellow ( @meellow@lemmy.rollenspiel.monster ) 4•1 year ago
My cats, husband, close friends and then therapist. Why I cuddle with my cats during hard times should be obvious, also husband. But when it’s really bad I definetly text or call my therapist and cry on her voicemail.