Pour one out for traa

  •  Evkob   ( @Evkob@lemmy.ca ) 
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    Woah. So far, I’ve been super brazen about this whole reddit fiasco; I told myself that if this is how they want to go, then I wish them a painful downfall.

    But seeing a community that played such a substantial role in my self-discovery close down forever… It’s hitting me in a way I honestly couldn’t have predicted. This subreddit, along with /r/egg_irl, forced me to confront things that I had pushed down since childhood.

    This really feels like the end of an era, as silly as that may sound.

  • Nice. This and 196 were the friendliest shit post communities I had encountered on Reddit and it’s tough saying goodbye. But I’m glad they’re not gonna put up with the platform’s shitty changes.

    Btw maybe Beehaw needs a little gay shitpost community jfc~

  • I hope a lot of those communities move over this way, I’d hate to lose such welcoming places.

    Just because you have to change venue doesn’t mean your community has to disappear.

    Community is more than a place, it’s a feeling, it’s a people.

  • Damn… That’s an important mental health resource. Humor is a decent defense against both depression and authoritarianism: by means of it one gets through many a dark night. Thankful we are a wonderfully resourceful group but I will dearly miss traa meet chasers and the rest.

    Apparently some are trying to make https://raddle.me/f/Trans happen? The fediverse has interested me for a while but it took another controversy to push me into becoming a newbie again. I’m still figuring out how to lemmy :) So far Beehaw seems to be a fabulous place and I’m glad you’re all here!

    • Traa was the main meme posting place, so it going down is pretty big news. Honestly, it’s a tough world for a lot of trans people, so a lot of us hang out online. Personally, I don’t have any friends irl who are trans, even though a good portion of my friends are bi or gay, and they often dont have the same experiences. Trans people are only like 1% of the population at large, so it makes sense when compared to the much more substantial populations of lgb folks

      Of all of them, I think i’m going to miss tgcj the most.

    • There’s a lot of things wrapped up in “trans”; lots of identities fall under trans as a term, but don’t necessarily relate to one another. I’m a trans woman, while my experience relates in some ways to transmascs and to agender or enby folk, in many ways it does not. This kind of subdivision is, I think, less evident for the L or the G in LGBTQ+ because they’re more specific things.

      Along with that, Reddit is (was) one of those places where it was possible to build a supportive community of anonymous individuals, somewhere it’s safe to be yourself without putting your real identity against that presentation. For a lot of us, it was the first place we were truly us, and it really sucks to see how it’s being torn apart right now. A bigger concern especially now, while things are as batshit insane for trans kids as they are, is that these communities will now be harder to access even if they do stick around after the 30th - so where do the people who don’t have the safety or freedom in their offline lives to express themselves and work through their identity go then?

        • Your reply is disingenuous at best here.

          1. Trans people are a minority. Despite the public media attention currently, there just are not that many trans people.
          2. The minority status, as in literally not many people existing as in other groups, means trans people automatically feel more isolated, even in welcoming communities, because there are not many other trans people.
          3. Losing a large community where it is easy to connect, relate, and catch up with other people like you is awful. Just look at how many of us are here from reddit, and imagine if it were the 80s and all our parents were still anrgy at us for “Being on that %@#$ computer again! It’s just a fad anyway!” Now think of that, but it’s not just a hobby or a career path, it’s who you are.
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          i don’t know whether you’re a reactionary, you’re trolling for attention, or you’re incapable of reading the room, but it doesn’t really matter either way. since this is at least the third obviously offensive, insensitive, or just plain rude thing you’ve said today that’s been reported i think it’s pretty obvious this is not the instance for you. i wish you luck in finding a space you vibe more with.

        • What? There may be a lot of trans-friendly spaces online, but there are, if anything, even more spaces that are actively hostile to trans people, and it’s not always easy to tell which is which. And even safe spaces for trans people tend to get raided regularly.