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Weirdbeardgame ( Weirdbeardgame@lemmy.ml )  to Asklemmy@lemmy.ml · 3 years ago

What's not a sign someone's an asshole, but is often misinterpreted as one?

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What's not a sign someone's an asshole, but is often misinterpreted as one?

Weirdbeardgame ( Weirdbeardgame@lemmy.ml )  to Asklemmy@lemmy.ml · 3 years ago
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  • Carlos Solís ( csolisr@communities.azkware.net ) 
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    3 years ago

    Unrequested advice. Sometimes it is warranted after all.

    • The Cuuuuube ( Cube6392@beehaw.org ) 
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      I tell people this all the time. But I have to. It’s like… If I don’t, I won’t know if I’m still real.

      I was on the train once headed into the city. A dude getting off the train looks me dead in the eye and says “never trust unsolicited advice” and then stepped through the door.

      That was it. That was the entire interaction. Completely blew my mind. I did ultimately decide it was legitimate advice. But still, it was wild being told not to trust the advice I was receiving.

      • probably ( probably@beehaw.org ) 
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        The fun thing about that is the dude gave you paradoxical advice. If you take theiradvice and don’t trust unsolicited advice, then you are trusting unsolicited advice. If you don’t take their advice then you are following their advice by not trusting unsolicited advice.

        • The Cuuuuube ( Cube6392@beehaw.org ) 
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          Right? It’s why it blew my goddamn mind. I wonder if someone dropped that bomb on him the same way a long time ago and now I’m supposed to pay it forward

          • CallumWells ( CallumWells@lemmy.ml ) 
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            I think you should pay it backwards instead ;P

        • SapphicFemme ( SapphicFemme@lib.lgbt ) 
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          That is the rare actually good advice i think, because no matter what route you go, it is proven logically good.

      • Carlos Solís ( csolisr@communities.azkware.net ) 
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        Well, the dude forgot to state “never trust unsolicited advice - except for this one”, typical mistake

        • The Cuuuuube ( Cube6392@beehaw.org ) 
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          That man knew exactly what he was doing. He’s still probably out there. Causing minor bouts of chaos along the commuter network of the greater metropolitan Washington, DC area

      • button_masher ( button_masher@lemmy.ml ) 
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        I resonate with your “won’t know if I’m real” feeling.

        Something happens to you and it’s actually useful lesson. If a tree falls… How can you not share?

        That’s a great encounter… Would be fun to give chaotic good nudges to strangers.

      • SapphicFemme ( SapphicFemme@lib.lgbt ) 
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        never trust unsolicited

        I already don’t like it, so this is good to remember.

    • AggressivelyPassive ( agressivelyPassive@feddit.de ) 
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      And some people genuinely want to help, without implying the other person is stupid, weak, incompetent either.

    • Serpardum ( Serpardum@lemmyonline.com ) 
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      Unrequested advice is always taken for criticism. Don’t do it. Ask first. “May I give you fome advice?”

      • richieadler ( richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one ) 
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        And if they say “no”, listen.

        • SapphicFemme ( SapphicFemme@lib.lgbt ) 
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          Very rare in ny experience :(

    • SapphicFemme ( SapphicFemme@lib.lgbt ) 
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      It’s worse after you vent to someone and they give you it. Especially when it was unwanted.

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