Yes.
I have a friend who is extremely intelligent, endlessly curious and was raised in a locally well-established and notoriously generous and civic-minded family. So he was raised in that milieu of sincere kindness and generosity, and whenever he’s come across anything that interests him (which is seemingly something new every week) he seriously researches it until he understands it.
So it pretty much doesnt matter what the topic is - he knows something about it, but his personality has been shaped so that he’s attentive and considerate rather than pedantic and self-absorbed. I’ve lost track of the number of times I’ve seen him engage in obviously mutually enjoyable conversations with complete strangers over… pretty much anything.
I vacillate between thinking that it’s remarkable that he’s the way he is and that it’s remarkable, in a different sense, that that’s so uncommon.
No
Okay
In technical fields? All the time. It is super rare for someone to ignore your arguments or resort insulting you during a discussion.
Yes, I literally teach classes on how to do this, and why it’s hard
I struggle to get basic thoughts out of my head and into words. Do you teach this class online? I’d be interested in looking into it.
We do deliver the course online
Is there a DM option on Lemmy? Happy to send you a link but don’t want to be advertising on here.
Do you have any preferred references, or past lectures on this topic? It sounds very interesting
It turns out the trick isn’t talking, but listening.
Go on…
There’s an abundance of material to study, I’d suggest starting here. https://books.google.com/books/about/Counselling_Skills_and_Theory_5th_Editio.html?id=ua9VEAAAQBAJ
- intensely_human ( @intensely_human@lemm.ee ) 10•2 years ago
I’ve met tons of these people. I think it’s sad the rarity this question presupposes. People like this are all over the place.
Yes, and I think I learned, in general, how to focus on anything by observing them do it. She was my first major, unattainable, love. She was just zeroed in, always, and I knew I had to learn the skill. I still can’t do it to the level she does, but it’s a remarkable skill to work on. Even at amateur levels, it’s extremely useful.
Absolutely! And I’m finally gonna marry her in less than 2 months.
Yes, but only other autists.
Yes, I few people.
An old classmate of mine was fascinated about space and space exploration and could go on and on about it. It never was uninteresting to listen to.
Also a friend of mine. He’s a pretty smart guy and has opinions on a lot of things. He also knows a lot of things about different topics. We can talk about anything and it will be an engaging conversation. I love that guy.
I have met few people that can even accept my experience without trying to twist it into their own.
This is so relatab… uh…
Hey, it is not good that you experience this.
Yes, and a lot of people but hardly straight off the bat. It takes a few rounds of small talk before engaging in something meaningful. In my experience, the more creative the person, the faster they will engage in a meaningful conversation, with musicians probably being the fastest ones.
- Fizz ( @Fizz@lemmy.nz ) 2•2 years ago
What is a deep conversation? I am not the most socially adept fella so if someone could clarify this would be much appreciated. My best guess is that its asking about the very personal details of someones life.
No idea, I’m not capable so I’m not sure I have a test for this…