- nyonax ( @nyonax@lemmy.zip ) 24•1 year ago
Lots of video games.
- Call me Lenny/Leni ( @shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee ) English14•1 year ago
I endure, painfully.
- Call me Lenny/Leni ( @shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee ) English2•1 year ago
Whatever that is it just shows up as a square on my end.
It’s a [hug] emote.
…Does it have to be a healthy coping mechanism?
- CorruptBuddha ( @CorruptBuddha@lemmy.dbzer0.com ) 11•1 year ago
I picked up a sport this year. People are surprisingly friendly.
- banana_meccanica ( @banana_meccanica@feddit.it ) 10•1 year ago
I pretend to have imaginary friends in my head until it seems like real enough and the day passes.
There is a singular niche community that I involve myself with where I pop in and make highly desired items to give away for free.
It makes me feel like people care about me for a while. For now, that’s good enough for me.
- Newtra ( @Newtra@pawb.social ) 5•1 year ago
Though my lizard brain demands me to be around other people, most of the things that bring me genuine life satisfaction are just easier to do solo. When I’m at purely social events I also get this sense of dread that I could be making better use of my time.
The voice in my head is making contradictory demands, so I’ve learned to not feel bad for circumventing it. I have my own goals in life, instincts be damned.
I find that listening to people casually talking is usually enough to satisfy the lizard brain, so I listen to a lot of stuff in the background: YouTube video essays, Twitch Just Chatting streamers, etc. When it gets particularly demanding I’ll try engaging with the people, but usually I just let my subconscious listen while I’m focusing on more important stuff.
- Blóðbók ( @sudoreboot@slrpnk.net ) 4•1 year ago
Watching others having fun together oddly helps me a bit. I might binge a youtube channel like Corridor Crew, for example. Sometimes I even prefer being “a fly on the wall” because I don’t have to participate and be drained of energy. I also don’t have to worry about feeling rejected or offending anyone (and thus no “social hangover”).
- Kissaki ( @Kissaki@feddit.de ) English4•1 year ago
Sit through it
Distract
- JoYo ( @JoYo@lemmy.ml ) English4•1 year ago
I recognize that everyone that has abandoned me will at some point lose everyone and everything that has ever mattered to them.
- hruzgar ( @hruzgar@feddit.de ) 4•1 year ago
bro 💀
- 𝑔𝑎𝑙𝑎𝑥𝑖 ( @galaxi@lemm.ee ) 3•1 year ago
Depends. Is the loneliness a byproduct of choices made for happiness in other aspects of your life, like moving to a new city or being picky about your social circle? Are you choosing to stay in and not interact for certain reasons? Or is the loneliness caused by things you can’t control, like people leaving or mental health issues?
If it’s the former, I say embrace it and work on focusing less on how you think your life should look. Pay attention to the things that you love by yourself. Take in the moments any moment where you notice you’re having a great time and don’t have to stop due to someone else. Imagine you just got done with a 12 hour road trip with someone who talks too much and breathe in the silence and peace of the moment. Listen to rain or cars rushing by. Sometimes, I find that loneliness can be caused by feeling like you’re missing out on something but maybe wouldn’t even make you happy. There are lots of people who feel lonely in their families or friendships or relationships.
If it’s the latter, I’d work up to a more comfortable and satisfying level of socialization. It takes time. In that process, you’ll hopefully find yourself leaning pickier and finding out what works and what doesn’t. Be selfish. Learn to spend time with people and then decide for yourself whether you want to keep spending time with them. Treat your energy and presence like precious rubies. They are! Invest in who matters most to you and keeps you feeling good after you leave. This will build your confidence and belief in your worth and motivate you to keep working on the things that keep you from happiness. Ending loneliness isn’t a goal you get to, it’s a side effect of choosing people who see the real you and doing the self care of letting others in. :)
- nyakojiru ( @nyakojiru@lemmy.dbzer0.com ) 3•1 year ago
Doing an effort and force myself to be with others . With the time and being patient , it heals .
- Nurloc ( @Nurloc@feddit.nu ) 3•1 year ago
Alcohol… Feel like ive been overindulding in it for a few years… but what else to do?
- aname ( @lauha@lemmy.one ) 1•1 year ago
This is one of the worst ways to deal with it. Alcohol causes depression which only makes situation worse.
- Canis_76 ( @Canis_76@feddit.nl ) 3•1 year ago
I gather unto me, as much of this nectar as I can whilst not harming too many friends and family. Then I enjoy it.
- June ( @June@lemm.ee ) 2•1 year ago
For me, my loneliness was really rooted in my self-loathing. When I was able to deal with that, I was able to deal with my feelings of loneliness.