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 alyaza [they/she]   ( @alyaza@beehaw.org ) MA to LGBTQ+English · 2 years ago

After decades of declines, lesbian bars are having a renaissance

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After decades of declines, lesbian bars are having a renaissance

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 alyaza [they/she]   ( @alyaza@beehaw.org ) MA to LGBTQ+English · 2 years ago
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From Brooklyn to Oklahoma City, a dozen new venues owned by queer women have opened their doors since 2020.
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  •  megopie   ( @megopie@beehaw.org ) 
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    I can understand why, they provide a better longevity as a safe space for the queer community in general. Like, I found that many gay bars have a serious longevity issue, gay guys come, straight woman who don’t want to be hit on come (some try and hit on the gay/bi guys there… which is just… a whole thing) then a bunch of straight guys show up because they hear there are lots of women at the place (and get upset when gay guys hit on them…)

    So like i can see how lesbian bar would circumvent that, given the prevailing gender norms, you’re probably not going to get a bunch of straight guys seeking refuge from predatory woman coming to lesbian bars, and thus a bunch of straight women fallowing them and diluting the space.

    I’m not trying to put blame on any group here, but like, trends driven by a series of innocent individual choices do be happening.

    •  María Arias de Reyna   ( @delawen@floss.social ) 
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      Straight guys don’t go to seek refuge to lesbian bars. They go to disrupt the space and see if they can convince some sapphic woman to sleep with him.

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        Doesn’t tend to work out so well for them usually.

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          It does though, because their goal is to disrupt, and that’s what they do, whatever else happens

          •  megopie   ( @megopie@beehaw.org ) 
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            I mean, I think most of the time the goal is that they’re horny and see a lot of feminine presenting individuals in one place, and they’re to stupid, ignorant or sociopathic to understand.

            They may puff up their chests and make a scene when rejected or told off but that’s probably an ego protection reaction on their part.

            Perhaps I’m to generous, perhaps they go there just to make a scene, but I don’t really get what they would get out of that. Maybe they do it to impress their friends? It just seems like there are easier places for them to do that though.

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    Yay! We need so much more of this. Our local lesbian bar is one of the best places to be, period.

  •  Blahaj_Blast   ( @Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
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    I had not really considered that lesbian bars existed. I’m well aware of gay bars, but never really thought about it. I’m glad to hear they’re returning! I’m also glad to see they’re more inclusive too!

    •  Gaywallet (they/it)   ( @Gaywallet@beehaw.org ) MA
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      My fav bars in the area are lesbian bars, they tend to have a lot less straight people than gay bars lol

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    Did they finally install those fire exits Homer was so worried about the lack of?

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    •  Ada   ( @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
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      Meh, it’s nice to have a space that feels like it’s designed with my needs in mind, rather than being an after thought (and that’s the best case scenarios)

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  •  AnalogyAddict   ( @AnalogyAddict@beehaw.org ) 
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    Probably because those of us in the more flexible areas of the Kinsey scale are leaning away from men in light of everything.

    •  MadMenace [she/her]   ( @MadMenace@beehaw.org ) 
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      Queue that headline from 6 months ago, “Most Young Men Are Single. Most Young Women Are Not.” Hmmm I wonder who the women are dating? 😏

  •  LegionEris [she/her]   ( @LegionEris@feddit.nl ) 
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    I need a lesbian dab bar. I don’t really like to drink socially, but I’d go do fancy dabs with other gay women.

    •  MadMenace [she/her]   ( @MadMenace@beehaw.org ) 
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      SIGN ME UP

  •  sculd   ( @sculd@beehaw.org ) 
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    Great news I really enjoy my time at lesbian bars and I hope there are more of them.

    They are cleaner, more friendly and make you feel safe.

  •  KyuubiNoKitsune   ( @KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
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    I’m going to say both, that’s great and I wish. I live in one of the most “gay friendly” cities in Europe and there’s barely a gay club.

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    Thank God

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