What really scares me is that I don’t meet the classical medical criteria for ADHD, but I relate to these memes like a motherfucker…
Mental health is never an on/off thing, my friend. It’s a spectrum and you could potentially still be relatively high on the spectrum but not high enough for a full diagnosis. Nobody is stopping you from incorporating some more ADHD friendly techniques in your life too :)
People forget shit, most adapt to finding a way to help overcome. I would have to assume everyone can relate to this.
Same. I have to set a reminder or do something the moment I think of it or I’ll be nothing but guaranteed to forget it completely.
Y’all still trust your brains? Lol
No, but I often happen to forget that I’m terrible at remembering stuff.
Oh I see. I just gave up haha and now whenever I hear a task I need to do/anything I need to remember I just write it somewhere.
Something along the lines of “your brain is made to think, not to remember trivial tasks”
Have you met our lord and savior, Obsidian?
Lol I have! But I also couldn’t bring myself to cheat on Joplin
Thank God for auto pay
My memory really only seems to function properly for keeping track of large sets of complicated variables, like writing lore or designing a rule set or coding. Ask it to remember something simple and it’ll completely throw it out the window. Which, okay, it’s a pain in the ass, but I can really do that first bit in a way that I watch other people struggle with.
I may operate like a confused blob spreading in all directions, but every little piece of that work is a chunk of a bigger picture that I can see clearly. I may be flitting from task to task within that work and advancing ideas as my brain spontaneously shifts focus, but when they’re all tied to the same end result they all advance the work in an organic and automatic way.
When I let myself work that way, that’s when I really feel what Bukowski meant by “Don’t try”.
Yes, it takes me literally forever to leave the house in the morning. Sure, numbers without a specific meaning and immediate use swim around in my head like alphabet soup. Okay, I literally can barely tell the difference between one hour and six hours if I’m not using some sort of event to track the time.
But my awareness in the moment is pretty on point. I’ll catch things other people won’t. I’m great at spotting the silhouettes of animals out in the dark and I notice erratic drivers from a mile away. The same things about my memory that make me terrible at getting my day going or that make it hard for me to keep up to date with people or deal with paperwork also make me way more observant than I would be otherwise. They’re also the reason I can track these massive piles of inter-related data and not feel overwhelmed. My memory works differently, but it’s pretty useful for what I need it for.
We’re different, and sometimes it sucks. But a big part of the reason it sucks is because society isn’t built for our particular variety of human. That doesn’t mean we’re not beneficial to ourselves or our species, and it doesn’t mean we’re broken. It means we work differently and we have different capabilities.
For some people it may make sense to medicate to make it easier to keep track of things, and some people may not have or may not have found applications for the way their memory works differently; we all have to find what works for us.
But I also think that we don’t necessarily have to frame our experience of our own brains around apologizing for not being what society expects or overly pathologizing our own variation from the perceived norm.
I am Bipolar 1. I am currently experiencing a hypomanic episode and your statement resonates so much that I’m going to look for more resources about ADHD. Thanks for sharing your insights.
I’m the same way. It’s as if my brain is very good at holding connected ideas and forming complex models, but hopelessly bad at holding unrelated information. Like, I can hold an entire schematic in my head all day but can’t remember a random zipcode longer than a few seconds.
Based on this diagnosis, I have ADHD, despite not having trouble concentrating on things, just hard to remember things.
Is it possible that I have ADHD but only while driving? Opening the door of my house often triggers what I supposed to get on the way, kids included.
That’s normal human memory behaviour. Although adhd people online would like to think it is only happening to them.
This is when you discover checklist and day planners
Sadly not a very good solution for many suffering with ADHD and, no offense, one that a lot of us are really tired of having pointed out. We are aware that they exist. If they magically fixed us we wouldn’t be here.
I have ADHD and am simultaneously working full time and doing graduate school and keeping lists/day planners is essential for me. I have a million things going on in my life and I would be completely lost without them. I honestly don’t buy that they are “not a very good solution” for a lot of people with ADHD. If you have a smartphone in your pocket, you can install a checklist app on it. You can keep notepads at home to write down daily/weekly/whatever tasks on it. And you can buy a yearly planner-style book where you can write down daily and monthly tasks in advance and as they come up. Being prepared for life takes work.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t buy it. You don’t represent everyone with ADHD because it’s not the same for everyone. You should be well aware of this. You sound a lot more like people that don’t believe in ADHD at all than someone who suffers from it tbh. It’s ludicrous of you to insinuate that people just aren’t working as hard as you.
TLDR: The more severe the ADHD to more you need to externalise but at the same the harder it is for you to use the tools.
Can confirm, I have severe ADHD and because of that even externalising things to notes/planners/reminders etc. does not for me because I can’t keep track of anything or remember to write stuff down, remember to read it etc. And because I have severe ADHD I need to externalise more things than people with mild ADHD so the difficulty to use that stuff increases exponentially as you look at more and more severe ADHD cases.
I hope I got my point across because I can’t think right now.
Thought pop-ups in my head, I need to research about it. I alt tab, click in search bar… and I stare dumb at the blinking cursor… mind blank. Have to catch it fast, light speed, or it’s gone.
Sometimes it might not be days later but weeks or months that I finally remember. At least it feels that way, I’m a bad judge of the passage of time.
And sometimes it’s every couple hours always when in the middle of something else, and days later I still haven’t managed to remember to do it at a moment i can actually do it.
Always when I need more toilet paper rolls in the bathroom
When I look for something I have to mutter it repeatedly so I remember what I’m doing. Just repeating to myself “phone, phone, phone, phone, phone…”
Or you set your keys or wallet on a counter, and entire time you stare intently at it. not breaking eye contact, only way you won’t forget.
Smart watch with constant reminders. I basically sleep day and night with mine. Can’t function without it.
Do I have ADHD
Nope, all these memes are relatable because they’re just regular people things.
I’m not ADHD. I’m not ADD. I’m not even borderline. But I can relate to almost every meme in this sub, because they’re never specific to the disorder.
My solution to that is to write it down on my phone! So I get my phone out, fight with the unlock system to recognise me, go to the app, and completely forget what I was going to write down. Voice control helps a bit, create note blah blah blah avoids the delay and the forgetting, usually.