I know a lot of people but I find it really difficult to maintain contact with most of them. I can manage a few in my close circle and some acquaintances but definitely not more than 20 people.
It doesn’t take much time for the gap to widen and before you know it they’ll start treating you like a stranger.
So I was thinking whether there’s something like the for relationships.
Maybe finding out the optimal time interval can help me set reminders to connect with a few people now and then.
Well this was just a though that randomly came to me. I thought I’d ask the wonderful people over here.
Snowplow8861 ( @Snowplow8861@lemmus.org ) English6•8 months agoWho needs 20! Lol. Says more about me than you.
pixelscript ( @pixelscript@lemmy.ml ) English6•8 months agoI don’t, tbh.
Not out of any principle. I’m not, like, eager to be rid of past friends or anything. But if they slip away, well, it just be like that.
I’m more than content to Ship of Theseus my way through life’s transient relationships. You keep some longer than others. New people take the place of long missing ones. That’s just the cycle. It’s fine. Just hang on to the ones you can, and that’s enough. You can’t keep them all around forever.
I’m always receptive to meeting old faces. But I’m not discoverable on any public socials, and I don’t live where most of my old friends were. (And neither do they, for the most part.) So opportunities for it are extremely rare.
Elise ( @xilliah@beehaw.org ) 2•8 months agoI wouldn’t overthink it and just go with whatever feels right, so organically. Friendships constantly change and shift and that’s OK. When I can’t get what I need I’ll go out and meet new poeple.
Call me Lenny/Leni ( @shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee ) English1•8 months agoI only have a few people I can do it with, and it’s difficult because they moved when I did.
JWBananas ( @JWBananas@startrek.website ) English1•8 months agoNot often enough
bunkyprewster ( @bunkyprewster@startrek.website ) 1•8 months agoI
Devi ( @Devi@kbin.social ) 1•8 months agoThe easiest way for me has always been social media. If you have them on there you can both keep up with each other, comment occasionally on each others stuff, and then it’s more organic to be like “hey, I haven’t seen you in a while, do you want to go for a drink?”.