Das ist ein Strohmann Argument. Wie begründet sich dein Vorwurf überhaupt, dass die Rote Hilfe so pauschal werten wurde? Ich kenne kein Indiz, dass die Gesamtheit der Politiker:innen abgelehnt werden würde; im Gegenteil, die Rote Hilfe vertritt im Zweifel auch diese Menschen. Wenn sie generell den Rechtsstaat ablehnen würde, würde sie doch nicht explizit Hilfe auf rechtsstaatliche Wege anbieten. Sie wendet auch keine Gewalt “am System vorbei” an, da bringst du einiges durcheinander. Natürlich kannst du es fragwürdig finden, dass es Anwälte gibt, die mitunter Straftäter verteidigen; aber damit stellst du rechtsstaatliche Grundprinzipien und -rechte in Frage. Du erreichbar das Gegenteil von dem, was du möchtest.

Die Rote Hilfe ist ein Strömungs-übergreifender Verbund. Kaum ein anderer deckt eine solche inhaltliche Bandbreite ab. Der Roten Hilfe also große inhaltliche Positionen zu unterstellen ist daher absurd. Oder gar Gewaltfantasien auf sie zu projezieren. Ich verstehe, wo diese Fantasien herkommen, aber du solltest überdenken, was du zur Roten Hilfe tatsächlich weist, und was du die nur zusammenreimst.

Even assuming sarcasm, I struggle with this comment.

Well go have fun, we don’t need to kink shame. It does feel odd to have a degrading post here, but thank you for putting up content warnings 💜

As a sincere suggestion: When you’re not horny, it’s probably smart to consider whether you want to contain this kink to the realm of fantasies only, before finding yourself in a situation irl.

Du interpretierst das falsch. Eine Kritik an der konkreten Umsetzung des Rechtsstaats ist keine Kritik am Grundprinzip des Rechtsstaats, ganz im Gegenteil. Es ist eine Forderung nach einem Rechtsstaat, der seinen Versprechen und Verpflichtungen tatsächlich nachkommt. Das ist wie wenn man korrupte Politik kritisiert, und damit aber nicht eine Abschaffung von Demokratie fordert, sondern mehr Demokratie. Linke, einschließlich “Linksextremer”, fordern idR keine Abschaffung von Grundrechten, sondern eine tatsächliche Einhaltung dieser. Etwas, wozu dieser Staat oft nicht willens ist, aus Klasseninteressen.

weil er es für unangemessen hält den Rechtsstaat Klassenjustiz vorzuwerfen

This post describes the construction of an Aho-Corasick automaton for the simultaneous matching of substrings within a sequence. I’m fond of this algorithm because it constructs an automaton from an existing tree data structure in a rather pleasant way.

Well they are, depending on your serious you interpret them. Thanks for pointing out that the intent might’ve been not as obvious as I intended, I’ll edit it to make the joking nature more obvious.

No pressure. But for the record: People can both be trans lesbians and keep their penis. That’s neither invalid, nor medically, impossible not rare. I don’t know of any place where that’s illegal, either.

Psst, don’t spoil the obvious next chapter to @StabbingSky@lemmy.zip

[jk 😜]

That’s… Ridiculous. The whole post. Unhelpful, fear mongering, technical misinformation, and all of this without mentioning a sensible reason to begin with. “A person I know had a pretty significant issue that could have ended badly […] They got an email”. Yeah wow. A clear demonstration of misunderstanding DNS, cookies, autofill, and several other computer concepts (By an @programming.dev account??)

I’m not saying that exor should feel ashamed for not knowing better. A “can someone explain me what’s going on?”-type of post would’ve been better.

Omg that shadow will burn itself into my brain. Yes please! Do I need to wait for HRT or can I bribe the sun? 🥲

I hope the future will bring you more of those, more community and support.

Do you sometimes ask others for help? I know some of my friends and I often struggle with this, but I would help to build stronger and more bidirectional relationships. When it’s not overdone, friends are often happy that you think of them when needing help, or if they can provide help.

(Disclaimer: I only have experience in monogamous relationships)

I’m sorry for your pain. First, have some internet hugs. 🫂

Unclear boundaries and expectations can lead to feelings getting hurt, as you’ve witnessed, without anyone being completely at fault. To a certain degree, those expectations and boundaries are malleable.

Be sure to be transparent about your feelings, your expectations and your boundaries with your partner. But in the process, try to avoid causing misunderstandings. “Just being transparent” can lead to the other person feeling attacked if they read incorrectly between the lines, you’d want to avoid that. For some couples, this is easier when done in writing (messaging), for others it’s easier when talking. You’ve got to figure out what works for you two.

Try to tell her that you don’t blame her, but that you struggle to navigate those feelings and that you seek her support. All three things are important! You shouldn’t need to handle those feelings alone, when you’re in a partnership. You can state how you feel, but you shouldn’t govern how she does. Ideally, you reject what can be done in both of your ends, to make each other comfortable, if not happy.

Maybe an open relationship is in the cards for you, if she communicates transparently enough for you (“at least let me know so I don’t get worried about you”)*. Or you want to know her partners. (Now: this might be surprising) or maybe you can look past it, but explicit prefer it to be maximally intransparent to you, so you don’t get triggered (“wherever you do, don’t let me know”). Or maybe if boundaries are set (e.g. “sex is one thing, but…”). Or you somehow manage to relax about it (check input from others on that one??). Maybe it’s not in the cards, and she’d have to adapt to monogamy for you to feel comfortable. You two don’t have to know the answer right now, you two can figure this out together, as a couple.

If this relationship is important enough for both of you, and if your expectations and boundaries are compatible, you can get this to work. If they’re incompatible, if you two want vastly different things from this relationship, if your relationship is set to fail long term, then there’s no magic bullet. Give couple’s therapy a consideration, personally I’ve had good experiences.

* note: if you can, avoid demanding (too much) control over her. I’m not saying this describes you, but if you want to know what she does and where she is all the time, and who she is in contact with, you’ll easily raise red flags in your own.

You would still need to know what you’re looking for, whether that’s an ID (repo name / full IRL) or some (unspecified part of a) repo header. It’s surprising why someone of your skill level asks such an odd, unspecified question. Why do you being up a random idea and ask the community any that’s good or bad? Shouldn’t you offer some arguments as to why you think it’s good from the start, unless it obvious?

The only advantage I can think of would be to more easily find forks or even the same content on different hosts without having to know / verify possibly differing the repo names. But that brings is to the largest downside: security. Git hosters over namespaced repos with configurable access control. Your idea would be susceptible to impersonation, unless you being signing and some novel way to manage trust and verify signatures. Quite some hassle with little benefits 🤔

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Einigkeit und Recht und Einigkeit für den deutschen Schurkenstaat, der noch nie seit seiner Gründung in der Welt was Falsches tat. Genozide, Hartz 4 und Frontex, Waffen in der Hinterhand. Brüh im Lichte und vergehe, ach, du deutsches Vaterland.

Für die Volltext-Faulen.

That’s fine. It takes some time. Sad feelings are valid. You are valid, even when you’re sad. I won’t tell you to stop feeling sad. The past relationship and the breakup are a part of you, like a scar. Take a deep breath. Allow yourself to heal. Things will get better, and for now, it’s enough to reasonably internalize this, even when the mood hasn’t yet.

Sounds like you’ve already taken some great steps!

Of course you’re genuine being trans, you are you! You don’t need to stress yourself about “transitioning IRL” or outing yourself. Nobody forces you. Whatever you read/hear about other trans people is not a checklist for you, but inspiration, a mere suggestion. You should do what feels right for you, when it feels right for you. If outing yourself to coworkers or family doesn’t feel right (yet/ever), just don’t.

You don’t need to push yourself to bravery. At some point, the consequences of outing yourself might simply feel minor compared to the consequences of not doing so. You might say “I’ve been called a ‘he’ my whole life without feeling dysphoric, it can stay that way”; but with each dopamine kick of being called a girl also comes that graving when you’re not.

If you think you’d like the benefits of HRT, you can start that before/without outing yourself. If people call you out in your grown chest, they might already be more susceptible to accepting you as a woman. Alternatively go “can we not talk about my body”.

Maybe we’ve all misunderstood your question and you meant to ask if presenting yourself as cis is not genuine? Hmm, well strictly speaking, at least to a certain degree: yes. But it’s not malicious, and it’s socially accepted.

1. you can decide how you want to present yourself, and you can decide how you want to be addressed. You may decide differently in different contexts (this of not exclusive to gender fluidity buy also applies to closeted trans people). It is valid. Women can just be, they don’t need to wear dresses and yell out “in a woman” to be genuine.
2. If being honest is putting yourself in danger of discrimination, you are allowed to be dishonest to the extend necessary to protect yourself. Let’s invoke what I call trans-privilege (or queer-privilege, or broadly anti-discrimination): Given the circumstances with society, discrimination, law, and the some culture around the act of outing oneself, you are not expected to be immediately transparent about queerness. You are given leeway to do that on your own terms, to decide the if, when and how. You are allowed to keep introducing yourself as cis with whatever pronouns. It is your right to decide on this, it is not malicious. I don’t think I’ve ever noticed anyone anywhere opposing this privilege/right, so take it for granted and don’t feel bad about it. Like, I don’t think even conservative idiots have a problem with lack of trans outing.

Yeah, I read that as French and was annoy to post a translation in the comments, but realized it’s totally not needed. Though some people simply give up before even trying, I guess those can suffer.

Breakups can be brutal, I feel your pain. Take it slowly, let it sink in. You are allowed to feel shit. It proves you are a loving person, capable of feeling emotions. 🫂

Well I initially wanted to write about how pornography that let’s you associating with another character take might help to avoid/reduce triggers, but I am honestly not knowledgeable about the subject of abuse. Maybe other enticing media helps. Besides well known porn videos, there’s also stories (ranging from romantic to explicit, from physical books to online fanfic to… interactive AI “assisted” writing), comics/manga, anime (pervert/suggestive is called “ecchi”, explicit is called “hentai”, if anyone reading this needed to know), heck maybe even drawn R34 pictures might help. Generally, I think society should grow a healthier relationship to pornography, but as I said, you made clear you’re not ignorant about that subject.