Howdy, this came up on my all feed. I wanted to first of all congratulate you on your journey.
As far as changes to your name, if I recall correctly, it was pretty simple when my wife and I got married. She wanted to change her last name. I think she had to go to the social security office. Given, this was all a few years ago.
It takes about 8 years for them to mature to get a fruit. Those things are picky too, but gosh do I love Paw-Paw season.