That sounds absolutely glorious! 😍✨

really just a bunch of nerdy queer neurodivergent folks standing around and chatting about nerdy gay shit

Chiming in to confirm the hell out of this ^ and more!

Obviously every community has its individual style/tastes/etc, but in my extensive experience when you get a bunch of people together who are practiced/invested in negotiation it creates a wonderful sense of safety.

I havent been out in quite some time, but a few years ago cuddle piles werent uncommon! Piling together like cats is deeply fulfilling sensory input - just as fulfilling as bondage, impact, etc. types of play you expect to see there.

To answer her question: constant vigilance 🫩

eebies and neebies to sleeby:3

The most powerful banishing spell is “ill put this here where i wont forget” and the most powerful summoning spell is buying its replacement 🪄✨

+1 to this, the Plaid Shirt Of Plausible Deniability™️ works for all genders

spaghetti code

Not the only one! Got a Galaxy phone that has such weak vibration that I switched back to audio cues. Mostly video game noises, some sound effects. When having an active conversation, I put it on vibrate so the sounds dont get annoying.

Maybe if more people used AI so mindfully, we wouldn’t be in the slop hell we find ourselves in 😭

“if you say guns kill people one more time, I will shoot you with a gun and you will, coincidentally, die”

• night vale rifle association bumper sticker

I have since learned that for me, this is difficulty with transitions combined with sensory aversion, which can be accommodated for!

For the transition, I put on a high reward podcast before even beginning to head toward the shower. Shifting from X to Y is challenging, but shifting from enjoying a podcast while X to enjoying that same podcast while Y reduces the contrast and makes it easier.

For the sensory issues, battery operated bar lights instead of the overhead light, soap that I look forward to smelling even though it costs a little more, and an IKEA folding seat in the shower (sometimes standing is hard)