you have several good points but this ruined a good message:

where several people have failed her in a serious matter.

where did you get that from? an elective operation can be postponed if there are no doctors or anesthesiologists who can operate or if an emergency arises and somebody from the ER must be operated within minutes. She was told several times the new date for her fathers operation, she was told the hospital is not operating at full capacity due to doctors calling in sick but she didn’t want to hear it, she even tried storming the nurses room.

If my coworker gives in to every entitled relative who yells at her and treats her this way, either my coworker will resign or take leave due to depression, a coworker who was simply doing her job to the best of her abilities managing the 20 something operations that had to be readied for Monday next week. And she gets abused for that? And you condone the karen? This part of your post seems very tone deaf. My coworker didn’t even do her pause. It is her the one who deserves empathy, respect and my support, not the karen.

As a matter of fact, next time something like this happens I’ll stop working and be there for her ready to call in security and the cops. f*ck the karen.

I don’t know if you’re aware how nurses complain of being treated like crap, burnout, losing the empathy they had when they first started working, but people like this karen are the reason why. You only need one to ruin your day.

What do you call somebody who throws a fit if she doesn’t get what she wants?

your answer is some kind of zen level wisdom I still need to master.

Happy that you can, but apparently I cannot (yet?)

does this also work with women? most nurses I work with are women and are simply incapable of being silent more than 2 minutes.

they may be offended in short term. but in the long you will have more respect.

they WILL be offended and proceed to furiously talk behind my back and destroy my credibility

I’m very introverted and to me any kind of question about me is a prying one: my age, where I was born, how long I’ve been living where I am. I simply don’t get why I have to tell my coworkers about this, nor I understand why they get offended if I don’t answer the question. If I’m fired or I quit I’m not going to see them ever again. Who cares?

I’m a nurse and at my hospital there are rituals that bore me but anyone else finds, apparently, great: after report, talking time, usually 30 minutes. They talk about boring stuff, are loud and obnoxious, I simply don’t understand why adults act like this. I read to pass the time, but have to be there with them because we’re officially working. This happens at least three times per shift: once more to have lunch (for whatever reason we ALL must have lunch together, even if it means not having your own chair) and after charting, where, once again, I must remain with them because that’s officially working time. If I leave, have a seat in the pause room and start reading, I get yelled at, no matter than I can also hear the bell from there.

It gets very boring. God my new job cannot start soon enough.

I don’t have the luxury of having my own working station.

I’ve started to do extra chores just not to have to hear them. It also reduces the chance of them asking me about me.

I’m in my 50s, always feel like an alien, and still think I’m 19yo.

don’t let anyone take your inner child away. Don’t let society change this about you.

I’m guessing that wasn’t what you wanted to hear.

it’s ok, the book is already helpful. At this point I have no expectations about society anymore. It’s survival mechanisms what interest me.

I’ve at some time adjusted my field of work to be 100% remote, and now I’m seeing how to change even that. I’ve eliminated Interactions with undesired people almost completely.

then “all” I have to do is to keep looking for jobs where I almost never interact with people…

I assume that’s an old pillowcase?

I’ve worked in jobs with plenty of downtime, but have never worked in one where I could just wander off to exercise or read a book openly. I was expected to be finding things to do or to at least appear busy and engaged.

good point, this changes the calculus

I don’t know if you’re complaining but if you are, I don’t understand you. I want to be you.

earning money doing almost nothing is meaningless? You earn money for doing nothing! and you cannot be fired, so…

do these jobs you got later pay you better?

right, 2014 mbp, 11.1, 8 GB RAM

thank you very much for your helpful post

calm down

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thanks

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