Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.
    •  Feydaikin   ( @Faydaikin@beehaw.org ) 
      4•8 months ago

      Depends what you mean by “commitment”.

      Some think it means marriage and children. Which is understandable being hesitant about. Both are big steps that require some “scrying” into the future.

      But I don’t have the impression there’s as much of a problem with simply commiting to a relationship and being a couple.

      •  Magiccupcake   ( @Magiccupcake@startrek.website ) 
        3•8 months ago

        Marriage is the ultimate sign of commitment, making your relationship legal and/or spiritual while declaring it in front family and friends.

        Men who are against marriage are seemingly against commitment, but I think that comes out of a strong desire for commitment and stability.

        Children are whole different issue from marriage admittedly.

        •  Feydaikin   ( @Faydaikin@beehaw.org ) 
          4•8 months ago

          It’s dependent on a few different things. The country you live in and such.

          Some years back there was a wave of ‘catfishing’ stories in the media. “Get married and lose 49% of everything you own” basically.

          That’ll make anyone hesitant to sign a marriage contract.

          •  bermuda   ( @bermuda@beehaw.org ) English
            3•8 months ago

            plus you’ve got societal expectations for marriages. honeymoons, church marriages, the recitals and all that can cost big money. even just the photography. It all costs a bunch of money that some people just don’t have, and they’re too hesitant to burn bridges over it. Sure, you can elope in secret right? But that’s a bigger can of worms then just staying partners