I’m mostly fine - still on holiday where it’s too hot to do a lot, so I’m not doing much besides reading a lot and cooking once in a while. Wait, that’s two things already, so I’m actually quite busy!
A friend of my stepdaughter’s (and our inofficially adopted child) is here as well and even though we travel independently and just happen to be staying on the same small island for a while, she and a friend of hers seem to enjoy doing things with us old farts. It feels nice and like family.
Yesterday we’ve also learned that her first time happened when her then-boyfriend decided to take advantage of her being too drunk to say no or fight back. Legally it wasn’t rape but ‘only’ defilement because she’d caused the state of helplessness herself (that law has been changed since), but that’s a technicality. I’m not yet sure what to do with this. I can see that it troubles her, and sadly the only problem-solving strategy she appears to have learned at home is to laugh and pretend the problem doesn’t exist, which is probably not going to get her very far. OTOH we have no right to pressure her into what we think would be the right thing to do. This is going to be a tough one.
Also, the sea has been much too rough for us to go scuba diving from a boat lately, and no dive center on this island would let us rent equipment for a shore dive outside their guided tours even though there’s a perfectly good shore right in our backyard. I could really use some quality time with a bunch of fish now - they’re generally good listeners and hardly ever argue.
I’m mostly fine - still on holiday where it’s too hot to do a lot, so I’m not doing much besides reading a lot and cooking once in a while. Wait, that’s two things already, so I’m actually quite busy!
A friend of my stepdaughter’s (and our inofficially adopted child) is here as well and even though we travel independently and just happen to be staying on the same small island for a while, she and a friend of hers seem to enjoy doing things with us old farts. It feels nice and like family.
Yesterday we’ve also learned that her first time happened when her then-boyfriend decided to take advantage of her being too drunk to say no or fight back. Legally it wasn’t rape but ‘only’ defilement because she’d caused the state of helplessness herself (that law has been changed since), but that’s a technicality. I’m not yet sure what to do with this. I can see that it troubles her, and sadly the only problem-solving strategy she appears to have learned at home is to laugh and pretend the problem doesn’t exist, which is probably not going to get her very far. OTOH we have no right to pressure her into what we think would be the right thing to do. This is going to be a tough one.
Also, the sea has been much too rough for us to go scuba diving from a boat lately, and no dive center on this island would let us rent equipment for a shore dive outside their guided tours even though there’s a perfectly good shore right in our backyard. I could really use some quality time with a bunch of fish now - they’re generally good listeners and hardly ever argue.