it’s week 2 of 2024 and Holy Fuck Is It Windy Out There right now, oh god
Mara He/Him/Mara ( @mararonwe@beehaw.org ) English12•1 year agoI am new here so I have stuff to share, but my big thing right now is…I have had a lot of unexplained chest pain for a long time, and I have a cardiologist that actually has an explanation and her treatment seems to be working, also it seems to be going a long way to helping my depression in a bonus win.
autumn (she/they) ( @autumn@beehaw.org ) English11•1 year agopretty great! had my first agility lesson of the new year with the pups, and they rocked it. got a crate for the incoming foster dog (her name is coco, pics next week). got together with some bike/camp folks and planned our next campout and longer day ride. got to see the fellowship of the ring (extended edition) at the theater. played a first session of a tabletop game called wickedness.
i need to stop being so busy, but at least it’s good busy. 😮💨
Radiant_sir_radiant ( @Radiant_sir_radiant@beehaw.org ) English8•1 year agohad my first agility lesson of the new year with the pups, and they rocked it.
Lucky you! Mine did every obstacle exactly once and then was like “look, now you know that I could do it if I wanted, can I go now.”
Don’t forget the pics!
autumn (she/they) ( @autumn@beehaw.org ) English6•1 year agoi always pick dogs i think will enjoy it, since it’s my main reason for having dogs, hehe. my last dog (passed away last year) was the only one i’ve owned who didn’t really enjoy agility on any level. she was my professional couch potato. she was also much more chill than my other two agility nerds.
Radiant_sir_radiant ( @Radiant_sir_radiant@beehaw.org ) English2•1 year agoCouch potatoes are important too! And from the looks of it she was a pro.
Mine should enjoy agility in theory - she’s super smart, easily bored, very nimble and needs a lot of exercise. I don’t know if she’s being considerate by trying not to expose her clumsy human to such situations or if she just thinks such simple challenges would be degrading to such a majestic animal as herself.
At least our slightly overweight french bulldog (of all things) is ultra-motivated as long as there’s a treat waiting behind every other obstacle.
BasidialTiger ( @basidialtiger@beehaw.org ) English10•1 year agoThere’s a 50/50 chance I just got myself fired for standing up for myself at work, I’ll find out on Tuesday when I go back in, I guess; it really doesn’t matter to me anymore, I wasn’t happy there, just stressed. If I’m not, then that’s cool.
This is definitely the most euphoric I’ve felt in years, I think I’m going to celebrate with a trip to the beach and maybe look for some spots to skate. I think I’ll start self advocating for myself more, too. I like this feeling.
JCPhoenix ( @JCPhoenix@beehaw.org ) English9•1 year agoWe’re suppose to have our first big snow storm of the season, starting today. 4-6 inches (~10-15cm) or more. Currently only like an inch of snow. That said, as is often said in the Midwest: “It’s really coming down out there.”
More importantly, I told my boss, the CEO, about my job offer. I’ve had this job offer on the table for like the last 7mo, but the processing has taken forever (it’s a government job). On Friday, he sent me an email that he’s promoting me to a director (which was surprising to say the least). So I felt that I had to finally tell him. I didn’t want for him to announce to everyone he’s promoting me, only for me to be like “Yeah thanks bossman…I’m out. Cya!” I feel like that might humiliate him. Should I care? Maybe not. But he’s been a good boss to me. I feel like I owe it to him to not put him in that position. I’ve worked for him for like 7yrs total and he’s treated me well.
Obviously he’s less than enthused, but he gets it. I’ve been trying to get to a government job for awhile and to move out of here and he knows this. This isn’t my official notice; there’s a chance that something happens and I lose the job offer. But at least he knows what’s going on. He can figure out if he wants to put the promotion on pause or what.
sub_o ( @sub_@beehaw.org ) English8•1 year agoLooking at the replies on that open ai thread, and how many of people are just going on rooting for ai companies just taking other people’s work without their consent, is alarming, also probably signals that this community might not be for me.
Thank you for everything, and sadly I think I might leave beehaw altogether.
(cue snarky replies, like bye don’t care, etc)
luciole (he/him) ( @luciole@beehaw.org ) English8•1 year agoI understand your sentiment, threads on generative AI get me all worked up as well. I couldn’t resist jumping into the fray and I did have the distinct impression that most users supporting OpenAI’s stance were originating from other Lemmy instances and that many Beehaw based users were against it. My humble opinion is that this specific thread is more representative of the Fediverse’s vibe than of Beehaw’s.
I very much doubt you’ll get snark for your comment. That’s just not what Beehaw stands for. If you decide to hang in there some more, I suggest you pay attention to the commenters’ Lemmy instance. Beehaw embodies the hope for a caring web community, but the rest of the Fediverse doesn’t necessarily share the same ideals.
apis ( @apis@beehaw.org ) English5•1 year agoGoing to have a look. Not because I don’t believe you, but because it seems so at odds with the usual vibe here that am wondering whether someone unleashed some bot accounts to push this stuff.
If it is regular Beehaw members, that is for sure unnerving!
EDIT: am too dumb at internet to find it. Tried a search (for “ai” to keep it broad), browsing local and looking at subscriptions which aren’t totally incompatible places for such a topic, but coming up blank. Feel free to fling a link my way.
luciole (he/him) ( @luciole@beehaw.org ) English4•1 year agoPretty sure it’s that thread: https://beehaw.org/post/10948276
apis ( @apis@beehaw.org ) English6•1 year agoCheers.
Majority of participants aren’t from Beehaw.
Bar one person, it seems all of the Beehaw people in the thread have similar concerns to OP.
jarfil ( @jarfil@beehaw.org ) English3•1 year agoMajority of participants aren’t from Beehaw.
How do you see that? Maybe I came late to that thread after it got moderated, or I subconsciously filter out non-Beehaw users, but is there like a counter I could see?
apis ( @apis@beehaw.org ) English2•1 year agoUnder people’s usernames on their comments in a thread.
So like, I recognise you from Beehaw & plenty of other regulars, but underneath “jarfil” it says “beehaw.org”. Useful when skimming a thread to see which instance a given type of view is coming from.
It may be a setting which I enabled at some point - am using the Memmy app.
its_me_xiphos ( @its_me_xiphos@beehaw.org ) English1•1 year agoBeing mindful of hijacking the top commenters concerns, I need to hop on a filtering bandwagon, as I don’t want a front page that looks like r/all. Way better here, don’t get me wrong, but does Memmy help you curate your experience?
apis ( @apis@beehaw.org ) English1•1 year agoMy memory is so bad, that am not really sure.
I blocked a LOT of communities via browser & some via Memmy. I think most via browser as I could search for a topic then block all of the communities that contain that topic in their name.
It is relatively easy to block through Memmy, though you still have to see a post from a community you’re disinterested in seeing in All, then open the community then opt to block it from a drop down menu in the top right. I see in the settings that it is possible to block instances & users, but haven’t tried this yet.
And of course you can choose to avoid All & just view Local or Subscribed.
(Fwiw, also blocked masses of subreddits from appearing on r/all, but definitely have no idea how I did that.)
frog 🐸 ( @frog@beehaw.org ) English4•1 year agoI’ve actually been having the same thoughts as you. It’s always the pro-AI threads that make me feel this way, as the community is otherwise great. It is my sense that most of the pro-AI comments come from users elsewhere in the Fediverse, but… obviously they can still come here and argue about it, even when the majority of Beehaw is on the side of workers, and I don’t see that changing any time soon.
- tygerprints ( @tygerprints@kbin.social ) 8•1 year ago
Well it snowed all weekend but today the sun is out, so I’m looking forward to freezing my ass off in the 20 degree temps outside. And we are having snowstorms every day for the next 6 to 7 days. I hope someone will see my feet sticking out and dig me out.
oh, i guess i have two partners now and i forgot to mention that
Radiant_sir_radiant ( @Radiant_sir_radiant@beehaw.org ) English3•1 year agoCongratulations, I presume?
Is it a poly constellation or don’t you have a name for it yet?Is it a poly constellation
just a fairly straightforward arrangement where all three of us are dating each other
Radiant_sir_radiant ( @Radiant_sir_radiant@beehaw.org ) English3•1 year agoAww, so lovely. It’s not often this actually works out, so I’m genuinely happy for the three of you. There’s no such thing as too much love!
Gaywallet (they/it) ( @Gaywallet@beehaw.org ) English7•1 year agoThis is week 2 of being back at work and it’s nice to have some things I’m working on but also nice to not really have a lot on my plate and not expect a lot to be dropped on my plate anytime soon as everyone’s just starting to emerge from their winter vacations.
I had a nice date the other night with another very non-binary person and there’s something really special and nice about dating people who have so thoroughly rejected the gender binary. It’s a special kind of trans in my heart, and I always find people like this so darn fascinating in terms of how they want the world to perceive them. Seems to have gone well, but they also seem to be very anti dating?? so I guess I’m lucky I made the cut? I have no idea where this is going, but they live nearby which is a plus
As an aside I’m so tired of dating apps and dating in general. People either have impossibly high standards or something about me just doesn’t vibe with most people and like, I get it, but why does it have to be so exhausting? I just want to curl up in someone’s lap and have them run their fingers thru my hair 😩
Radiant_sir_radiant ( @Radiant_sir_radiant@beehaw.org ) English5•1 year agoUgh. One of our ‘kids’ has been using various dating apps for a couple years, and all they did was make her depressed and me immensely grateful that I’ve never had to resort to any of them. They’re such a carnival of vanities, people killing themselves to outbid each other with unnatural selfies photoshopped to faux perfection (while simultaneously assuming that every other person is naturally beautiful without filters).
There should be a dating app or website with a strict ban on images that have been altered in any way.Good for you to have scored a date though! Fingers crossed that there will be a second one.
Gaywallet (they/it) ( @Gaywallet@beehaw.org ) English6•1 year agoI’ve been using a bunch for years. Honestly the vanities don’t bother me the slightest. What bothers me is the way people treat them. First and foremost, the majority of people on these apps aren’t even looking to date! They’re looking to quell their anxiety about whether they are date-able, whether they can find a match in case their current partner dumps them, are curious and want a way to people watch, or just interested in the dopamine they get from swiping profiles. They can’t find a healthy way to use them, so they use it for a little then delete the app because they find themselves addicted then reinstall months later when they find the urge. Or they mute all notifications and rarely open it, then feel bad when someone messaged them a week or two ago and decide it’s better to just not respond. Or they just make a snap judgement over just a few words and refuse to give the other person any time of their day to respond and just ghost. Or they chat for awhile then forget they were chatting because they have no notifications, disappear for a month, then feel anxious about that and rather than apologize just pretend it didn’t happen and delete the chat or match.
It’s just exhausting. I just want to meet people and see who I vibe with and I don’t understand why so many people don’t treat dating apps the same way.
MangoKangaroo ( @MangoKangaroo@beehaw.org ) English3•1 year agoI’ve been debating picking up Tinder or something because I’m having a lot of trouble meeting people in the town I just moved to, but all the horror stories have me conflicted on whether I should even bother. 🙃
Gaywallet (they/it) ( @Gaywallet@beehaw.org ) English7•1 year agoI’d say pick it up and give it a whirl, just set your expectations very low
MangoKangaroo ( @MangoKangaroo@beehaw.org ) English6•1 year agoI have the big sad.
potpie ( @potpie@beehaw.org ) English8•1 year agoThat sucks, Internet friend. Want to talk about it?
MangoKangaroo ( @MangoKangaroo@beehaw.org ) English7•1 year agoYou’re very kind to offer. It’s mostly just self-image stuff that will have to clear out in its own time. I’ve at least got an okay support structure, so I’m not going it alone.
Radiant_sir_radiant ( @Radiant_sir_radiant@beehaw.org ) English6•1 year agoHave a virtual hug anyways (no rubbing, promise). And remember - this too shall pass.
MangoKangaroo ( @MangoKangaroo@beehaw.org ) English4•1 year agoThank you 💜
its_me_xiphos ( @its_me_xiphos@beehaw.org ) English6•1 year agoI’m neutral, thanks for asking. Struggling between a heavy workload and leaping over my last university hurdle. The start of a new year is always a challenge, but one step at a time.
More immediately no one sick, hurt, dying, or dead. So I got that going for me, which is nice.
Sombyr ( @Sombyr@lemmy.zip ) English6•1 year agoJust like every other week of my life, it was mostly good and I had a lot of fun, but just one bad thing happened and that’s all I clearly remember now.
This week I played games with my wife, we both made new friends, which we’ve been hoping for for a long time, went to an in game event and laughed our asses off about how crazy that got. It was really fun.
But then I got sick, severely injured my pinky toe and can’t walk, and had a minor argument with my wife because I woke her up to ask what to do about it, even though I knew what to do already and my anxiety just made me not trust myself.
I really hope the good parts are the parts that stick in my head, but that’s not usually how it goes with me.
Radiant_sir_radiant ( @Radiant_sir_radiant@beehaw.org ) English5•1 year agoseverely injured my pinky toe
Aw man, that sucks both for its effects and for how much people underestimate the consequences. Did you stub it or cut it? Keep it snuggled up to the two toes next to it and make sure there’s a steady supply of chocolate.
Sombyr ( @Sombyr@lemmy.zip ) English5•1 year agoSlammed it into my solid wood coffee table in the dark because I wasn’t paying attention. Broke it, which is the second bone I’ve broken in my life. The first was the same toe, the same way.
The toe is cursed I think.
Flax ( @Flax_vert@feddit.uk ) English6•1 year agoWe’re freezing over here in Britannia 🥶
frog 🐸 ( @frog@beehaw.org ) English6•1 year agoUniversity spring term started again this week, and after being loaded down with three more assignments (including another group project), we also got the grades for one of last term’s assignments. I am very, very pleased with mine - 81%, which probably only really means something to those familiar with UK degree-level grading, but I’m really proud of it (while simultaneously being mildly annoyed I couldn’t do better). Last term’s group project grades will be given next week (though we do know that everyone passed, which is 40% or higher), and I’m expecting that one to be quite a bit lower. I’d like something above 70%, but that feels a bit optimistic given what a disaster the project was.
I’ve mentioned on a number of occasions the guy who was on my team project whose combination of arrogance and laziness made him more of a hindrance than a help throughout the entire project. I had a bit of a blow up at him just before Christmas, the culmination of his obstructiveness, his chronic (but not terminal) verbal diarrhoea, and utter lack of ability to accept that no means no. (“Do not touch my laptop” is pretty explicit, and should not prompt an argument about how it’s fine because he knows how to handle laptops.) Anyway, the outcome of this is that he’s spent the whole week sulking in the corner of the room, not talking to anyone. He also ragequit the class Discord server over Christmas, and nobody even noticed he was gone until today when we were getting set up for the new group project. That’s how much everybody likes him. I feel a little bad because I don’t like it when someone feels like they’re not welcome… even when they’re genuinely not welcome because they’re a dick.
BevelGear ( @BevelGear@beehaw.org ) English6•1 year agoI just purchased my first car today. I’ve never needed a car before because paying for Uber was cheaper, but now with my new job, transportation costs will be lower with a car.
I’m excited and nervous at the same time. I’ve heard about the stress that comes with driving, but never experienced it with a brand new car that I just purchased.
I’m also trying to find a good name for the car, but it should come to me in due time. Overall, I think it’s worth it and that I’ll hopefully feel less stressed the more I drive.
Radiant_sir_radiant ( @Radiant_sir_radiant@beehaw.org ) English5•1 year agoMy driving instructor always used to say “for all its faults, a car is still highly addictive”, and he’s totally right. But of course how much you enjoy driving it depends on where and how much you do that. Congrats anyway! What type of car is it, and what style of name did you have in mind?
BevelGear ( @BevelGear@beehaw.org ) English3•1 year agoIt’s a Nissan Kicks SV, compact crossover, 122hp/FWD. I also chose it for storing my luggage when moving or traveling.
I do like the noise it makes when accelerating and it reminds me of a small dog barking at something 5x it’s size. The car feels light and smooth when driving, as well. I’m heading in that direction so, if you have any suggestions, let me know.
Radiant_sir_radiant ( @Radiant_sir_radiant@beehaw.org ) English3•1 year agoSounds like both a practical and fun car! Here’s to many adventures with it.
As for the name, I have no idea. For some reason, Pierre comes to mind. Maybe because Nissan is french nowadays, or maybe I’ve just rewatched too many episodes of Danger 5 this week.
rozwud ( @rozwud@beehaw.org ) English5•1 year agoIt was ridiculously windy here today too! Getting back into the swing of things at work after some time off and trying to remind myself that I can only do so much at a time and the rest will have to wait.