i have had multiple times where my comments were removed for being lightly snarky to a bigot meanwhile they’re allowed unabated making shitty comments about my queerness. like most recently the mods of /c/fediverse on lemmy.world removed my entire post announcing the new sharkey instance at cyberpunk.gay for no reason just because i was less than polite to someone who was being shitty
what gives? this is the fediverse
What Scrubbles said plus you shouldn’t lower yourself to someone else’s level, it just doesn’t work. And as a minority you/we have extra responsibilities regarding our behavior. It sucks, but the fact is that if, say, someone with a foreign background acts shitty they’ll be judged way harsher for it than a native and it rubs off on everyone from that minority.
I don’t mean to invalidate your experience though. It sucks. I know. I receive multiple insults a day, too, but I can’t just go around escalating things. That automatically would make me just as wrong as the other person.
That’s different than self defense of course. But self defense is all about solving a problem, and not seeing it as a personal thing.