I’m mostly okay during the day (I can distract myself with work or hobbies), but at night is when it all hits me. I’ll be okay though, I’ve just started reading book after book after book in bed until sleep comes.

I also know plenty of people who’ve been through much much worse, and they all tell me that time really does tend to heal everything. So I’ve got to be patient I guess.

Another thought that helps is something she herself said, in that she did not wish to be pitied by me. Someone also told me that it’s not my job to “rescue” her, so I can maybe try to free myself of the guilt by pursuing that line of thought, and trying to focus on my own happiness.

Btw, thanks for carrying on through this comment chain with me, it’s really helped me process some things - it sounds like you yourself have experience in this topic