I have ADHD diagnosed in my 30’s, and can’t seem to remember names even seconds after they are said. Sometimes I try so hard that I can’t follow the conversation because I’m focusing on repeating their name over and over so I don’t forget.
Inevitably I focus back on the conversation and the person’s name is lost.
Texting their name to me tends to work, but others tend to find this odd/annoying/off-putting if I halt an organic conversation to text myself their name. And can even find it quite disrespectful.
So, Title
: Have any of you “cracked” how to remember names in active conversation?
When I have a paper notebook on me, I love drawing out a map of names of people in the room, with their name in the place I first had a conversation with them (and maybe again if we moved). Helps a lot with being able to check again easily if I forget, so I can remind myself without having to ask.
But I also agree that learning to be OK with asking is the BIGGEST strategy here. Almost everyone I bring this up with says they’re also terrible with names (maybe 2% are amazing at names?). It’s fine. I say “Can you remind me your name?” so so often and it’s actually fine.