Started off pride month practically in heat. Spent the last few days having a bunch of gay sex. Emotions be going wild, not sure what’s up. I feel kinda all over the place lately. Maybe I need a day to myself to introspect? Honestly not sure.
Spent the last few days having a bunch of gay sex.
all according to the gay agenda 🏳️🌈
Hey, that’s not Alyaza! (ik they’re probably busy with other stuff ty wallet for making this)
Tried to unalive myself two weeks ago, since then I’ve just been on autopilot. Last week we changed out our core switches at work. What was supposed to be a 2-hour late-night jam ended up a) getting delayed by several hours because our ER had a last-minute critical patient come in, and b) turning into a fucking 25-hour slog of our firewall deciding it was sick of our BS and taking down literally everything with it. Between that extra-long shift and my being kept up for 30 hours in an ER the previous week, my sleep schedule is absolutely toast.
Really glad you’re still here. I hope you’ll be able to catch up on some sleep, deprivation makes everything worse.
Glad you’re still with us.
Bad. Rent is going up so I have to leave town. Probably not going to school anywhere near as soon as I planned because I don’t foresee being able to cut hours anytime soon.
I don’t even want to do all this capitalist bullshit, but I also wish I’d done it years ago so I could be stable now.
weekend before last was a two-day agility/rally training event for the dogs. they all did wonderfully! didn’t manage to get a good video of loki, but i got a few of the others.
- jean: agility
- echo: agility — her first full course!
- echo: rally obedience — her first go at this sport!
we also took the dogs trailer camping this past weekend, which they (and we) enjoyed.
good grief, youtube compression was not kind to your dogs but they are still very cute
hah, yeah. doesn’t help that somebody sent these, i downloaded them, then uploaded to youtube. at this point they might as well be taped with VHS technology. 😂
Not good, as usual. My poor sweet cat is suffering and I don’t have the money or resources or ability to do anything about it. I’m tired of being useless because of my disabilities and I’m tired of being so burned out and in pure survival mode all the time. I wish I had the energy/functioning/mental bandwidth to put some words down about what’s actually going on. If anyone wants to send some good vibes or thoughts or prayers or whatever in the direction of my sweet kitty Ziggy and I, I’d appreciate it. She deserves so much better.
I beseech the ineffable universe to rain down blessings upon you and Ziggy.
As someone who shares essentially the same name with a different spelling, I’m sending all of my vibes in her direction 💜
Your love for Ziggy is so apparent even through this virtual space. You have done so well by her just by loving her the way you do. Perfection is not required. You are a blessing for her. Hope things improve immediately for you both! Huge hugs!!!
Been in this situation before. Sending all the vibes. ❤️
<3 all the good vibes to you and sweet little Ziggy. You are not useless.
Going well enough, I suppose. Made some new acquaintances and had a good time at the farmers market on Saturday. Hoping some others remember they took a card and reach out to us. There’s still plenty to do, though, and there’s a countdown running in the back of my mind until my time gets stretched even thinner.
For now, at least, I am done with the scramble to get things done for market and into the scramble to get things done when not at market.
I’m onto borrowing a bunch of sci-fi movies (like Blade Runner) from the library after realizing that it carries them!
And I’m thinking of giving in and posting in /r/cf4cf, finally… not sure of what the equivalent community might be in the Lemmiverse…
Finished with university until September now, and have most of my grades for this year back (still waiting on one module). Having mixed feelings about the grades, because I know objectively that they’re excellent, yet I still feel like I could have done better. I still got better grades than everyone else. I will acknowledge the two may be connected: when you constantly feel like you could be doing better, you push yourself harder. Even so, I did learn a ridiculous amount this year, and produced some work I’m really proud of.
The end outcome of this is, of course, that I’m exhausted, yet simultaneously having trouble slowing down. Having been pushing at full speed ahead for many months, I’m now feeling weirded out by not having any assignments to do or deadlines to meet. If I had to summarise what my brain is doing right now, it would be:
???
There is also tangible relief to be away from… that guy. I can’t remember if I posted about it at the time but basically he got caught lying about his part of the group project, namely that he had finished it when he had not even started it. So with 24 hours before the deadline, we essentially kicked him off the team and I did his section of the project. A week’s worth of work packed into a single evening. Because he’s using his neurodiversity as an excuse for not doing anything for half the year, they’re probably going to be reluctant to kick him out… but that’s a problem for next September. For now, I’m just going to enjoy not having to deal with the useless, arrogant prick for a few months.
Yeah I remember you writing his part of the project… fair warning, work life is generally full of these assholes and consider this some valuable training. Do not let them slide, make sure you’re representing your efforts (fairly, but firmly) keep your name out front, these shitheads will not hesitate to sling mud at you and your work to save themselves.
For sure, it’s definitely been valuable experience! I would like to think in a working environment, things would be a bit… easier, I guess, since a big part of the problem was this project didn’t have any effective leadership that could challenge the asshole on his lack of contributions. Whereas I would hope that in an actual studio, department heads wouldn’t let someone produce absolutely no work for months, while blindly believing every excuse which is, sadly, what the leader for this project did. The lecturer knew what was up, because despite taking a hands-off approach, he was watching far more closely than most of the class realised - but he let it play out this way precisely because it’s a good learning experience. Suffice to say, I got an extra few points on my grade because I stepped in at the last minute.
I’m glad they were tracking the efforts of the students behind the scenes, and extra happy that your own efforts were seen and rewarded.
I want to reassure you about your future workplaces, but I’ve definitely had some supervisors/managers who were incredibly complacent about staff issues. One thing I’d add to @Che_Banana’s great advice is to reflect on your responses to those challenges - what did you do that helped to destress you and keep you on track, and what did you do that didn’t? Practicing the helpful ones with less stressful events to ingrain them and improve on them will serve you really well.
And always feel free to vent to us!
Wonderful advice, thank you! I still haven’t really worked out what actually helped to destress me and what didn’t (aside from venting - just feeling heard makes a difference!), because I don’t think I ever really destressed until the deadlines had passed.
Not great! What was supposed to be a regular biweekly update with my team lead turned into me hearing I’m being let go. The company is dissolving my position. Apparently because they believe everything I did to set up data pipelines and structures is so solid they just need someone to maintain it now (which will be a third party).
I definitely saw myself working there for a few years, now I’m back to looking for a job after just 1 year. Feels unfair and all the ‘it’s not personal, we love you as a colleague’ is definitely not helping at all.
At least I won’t have to come out to them which I was dreading… I’ll just introduce myself with new pronouns at the next job ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Back to the LinkedIn hellscape it is
Edit: forgot to mention that the worst part of this to me is definitely this week where we’re still discussing details/severance etc. and I can’t tell my direct colleagues yet. So here I am pretending everything is fine and I’m not actually super depressed about it until I can finally tell them next Tuesday.
I’m so sorry. Let go for good work. What a rotten, unfair situation.
That’s how it feels. They don’t deserve me though 💅
It’s okay. Had another dream where my mom inexplicably comes back from the dead. She even joked about how we’d have to reevaluate how we think of the situation. It’s wild how going back to sleep before my alarm can just ruin the rest of my week. There’s a lump in my throat that just won’t go away. I feel guilty writing these thoughts out, hell I’m tearing up now because I know so many other people have real problems and there’s this fucking election, and my wife’s work is so much more difficult than mine and I haven’t a leg to complain upon.
poem
I wish
to beat my fists against this desk
until they are bruised and bloody
for that is something
I may yet control
Thank you for allowing me to vent. Much love to you all.
That sounds like a real problem to me. I’m sorry for your loss 💔
Thank you ❤ these comments are really helping me through a rough time, and I am so grateful.
I feel the same about my own issues and troubles. Just wana stop by and tell you that your issues are valid. Even though there’s always bigger fish out there. Your issues and feelings are valid and sometimes life is just unfair and fucking hard.
I hope that this can help even a little bit. I try to tell myself this sometimes, but I find it hard to take it to heart unless I hear it from someone else. Hang in there! I hope your week shapes up and gets better
This really did help, thank you so much for your kindness. Your feelings are just as valid friend, and I hope you can take solace in hearing that from someone else, just as I did <3 We’re gonna make it.
You’re very welcome, I’m glad! We definitely can get through this. :)
i feel fortunate to have both of my parents still with me. Not sure how far out you are from that loss, but my understanding is that it’s a grief that never leaves you. My best friend lost their dad 5 years ago, and they STILL have enough feelings about it to fill an entire poetry book (after previously filling a separate poetry book in the 2 years immediately after).
you’re still allowed to be sad about it and have a hard week about it, no matter how long ago it happened <3
Thanks coy, I really do appreciate you taking the time to send some kindness my way. And that’s true, it does get easier but it never really goes away, nor should it I guess. You’re good people <3
When my dad passed away a few years ago, a friend who had been through the same described it to me as waves of grief that get further apart. I’ve found that to be true. Your mom will always be with you but also not, and that absence can be incredibly painful sometimes.
I am done with my exams for one-year predatory course for engineering and civil engineering. I got my grade for the physics exam yesterday and will be getting my grade for the mathematics exam on Friday the 21st of June or the Monday following.
Congrats 🎉
1st day of summer break! Aiming for a good balance of relaxation and productivity, as there are things I need to get done this week. So far it’s working out.
Update: Fire pit time. It’s been too long. Drinking a lovely sour IPA to go with it.
Not awesome.
Dad’s in the hospital for the umpteenth time.
Kid brother died yesterday morning, and even better, may have inadvertently hung himself during autoerotic asphyxiation. (Though, objectively, that seems like a decent way to go, truly.)
🫂
not so bad
slow