transcription: just saw a straight woman CONFIDENTLY say lesbian marriage isnt a real marriage its just “two best friends who get each other off” and like bestie, idk what has gone wrong in your life but thats exactly what marriage is supposed to be, regardless of the genders involved. as opposed to real marriage, where you have two people who dislike each other and dont get each other off.
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Marriage is just formalising the intent to continue fucking your best friend. Sexuality is completely irrelevant.
I’ll never understand the assertion that it’s normal for married people to not get along with their spouse or their spouse isn’t their best friend. What exactly do people think the point of marriage is beyond religious reasons?
Be old/conservative, want to have sex at 18 because hormones, you can’t unless you’re married, get hitched for life to the first attractive person who shows up, wake up in 10 years and realize you married a stranger and you don’t really get along.
accidentally play the long game instead
> build community group for shared hobby
> get a few dozen ppl
> group gradually over years expands to be a lot more
> together with friends make a sidegroup with those y’all like talking with, so y’all dont spam the rest of the community under
> continue chatting about hobbies, gay stuff etc
> eventually you and another realise you like each other
> talk with them more
> oops now you have a date
> meet up irlthats how i got into a queer ass relationship at least, basically the online version of creating/joining a hobby club and realising you like each other.
and tbf, if you think about it, a real good relationship should be that anyways - it’s like having best friends but you do much more than that, like cuddling and mrrrping together :3*
shared interests and complementing personalities help amazingly more, tbh. looks are great, but unless if you’re going for a short term thingy, i feel like personality is something you should prioritise on. but to each their own.
* like yeah there’s fwb but a romantic relationship is a little different. there’s this kind of level of trust where you can be truly yourself and tell each other the wackiest shit.
That is very sweet / romantic imo. ♥️ happy 4 u
Aw good for you :)
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You gotta hit her with one of these:
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Tbf, I do feel spouses have a duty to hold eachother to a higher standard than friends do. For mutual improvement, growth, etc… And shared ownership/finances is huge. And often raising kids. Marriage is a lot more than just friendship, though that is a massively important part.
So I grew up homeschooled with a conservative Christian mother. A lot of people I knew got married from the same small group of families, right after high school, and started having kids right after. (I know 2 sisters from one family that married 2 brothers from another). It’s what everyone did. Nobody gave themselves any time to meet new people, just married someone their age and the opposite sex they’d grown up with. Also, nobody had sex or lived with one another prior to getting married so you don’t really know who you’re marrying. But when you’re taught from an early age that people of the “world” are misguided and will never understand you, that’s what you get. I didn’t fall into this, but my brother did.
I wouldn’t say it’s normal, I think that’s just cope from people who’re scared of being alone or can’t afford to live separate.
I think societal pressure also contributes. Not as common today but it’s definitely still a thing.
it’s revealing right? there’s so much they genuinely do not understand or misinterpret it’s amazing they can get through the day without having yet another crisis about how someone they don’t like gets human rights or does something they think their god doesn’t approve of.
I don’t think it’s all that complicated to consider platonic and romantic relationships different
Marriage is really about tax filing and its propaganda from the sex and chocolate industries to say otherwise.
I love my wife very much that’s why I want to do intimate things together like fill out form 1040 while cuddling.
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Thank you, now I know what having a stroke must feel like.
Oh yeah, conservative christians like to stroke.
what a terrible day to have eyes
I both hate it and love it. Lmao
you based too >:3
What the fuck
I don’t want eyes anymore, thanks mate
I got married and it doesn’t come with any tax benefits 😭
You don’t gotta tell on yourself like that, ma’am.
As the joke goes:
Baby, this relationship is so good I want to get the government involved!!!
However I really feel that marriage is a vestige of the patriarchy and shouldn’t exist.
Yes, people should not get together at all, we should be territorial, like lions.
Not sarcastic or satiric.
Well there’s also romantic attraction. I know some aros who would love to fuck their best friend without any romance, but alloromantics tend to dislike that because they go and fall in love. Romantic love.
This is me I think. My most long lasting relationship was basically me and my best friend hanging out, living together, and having sex. I loved her a lot but looking back I don’t think it was ever quite in the way she wanted me to. We talked about marriage but it never really sat right with me. It’s been hard to accept that I might be aro. When I think about it too much I just feel sad because I’m afraid the kind of relationship I really want is impossible. Best friends who bang. I don’t want the exclusivity, expectations, or implicit sense of ownership of a romantic relationship. I value my autonomy way too much for that to feel anything but suffocating. I want to just choose to be with my besties every day and oops 30 years have gone by and we’re still together vibing and fucking.
Sounds like what you might want is polyamory
I myself relate to what you’re saying a lot, with the exception of also wanting/having romantic feelings. I just don’t vibe with all that’s involved with monogamy
I mean yeah but not really. Poly is still about romantic relationships and still has a sense of hierarchy. Romantic relationships are still very much prioritized over other relationships, they just add extra layers of romantic hierarchy. Many poly people end up with one primary partner they prioritize over others, with secondary partners needs usually being overridden by the primary partners needs almost by default. It still feels just as exclusive and gross to me. I want multiple sex partners but I don’t want anything to do with someone who thinks they get a say in how I spend my time or with who.
There are many flavors of poly, you sound like you fall into relationship anarchism/solo poly, which is pretty much what I practice, as that’s what appeals the most to me.
I don’t want to have a say in what my partner(s) can or cannot do, it doesn’t feel right to me. I want them to spend time with me because that’s what they want to do, and it’s not appealing to me to essentially make decisions for them. I don’t want to make rules and essentially establish any form for power or control over my partner(s). Maybe it comes naturally to me as I’m already an anarchist politically, I dunno, but either way
It’s about finding the right people that suit you, really, I think
“My marriage is better than yours” <= usually people who feel like shit and see no way out.
Proooooojectiooooooon
as opposed to real marriage where yo have two people who don’t get along and don’t get each other off
I’ve seen so many of these - couples who viciously hate each other yet ‘don’t believe in divorce’
Historically marriage used to be a legal relationship for the purpose of discussing who takes care of the children. Children are really expensive and if it isn’t cleared uo who’s responsible for them, you end up with a situation where nobody seems responsible for them and the children suffer. To prevent that situation, marriage was introduced.
Marriage was the sale of goods in trade for goods or a further trading relationship.
The goods were a woman and a dowry, the trade was two families having a long term business relationship or if it was royalty then a short or long term peace treaty between countries or fiefdoms.
Likely the discussion of children in case of rich families and royalty back in the day, was how many wet nurses and maids were needed to take care of the children so they could be not seen and not heard until they were adults.
I doubt this is true. They probably had more to do with binding households together than any consideration of the well being of anyone involved. Our modern concept of raising children past the age of 6 isn’t even that old.
You still have to raise them to 6 though? And also yeah, binding households together is a significant thing, mostly among nobility. for commoners, that’s not such a big topic, as there’s no “political alliances” to be made.
Appreciate the sentiment and agree with most other comments here.
Even though most people view it emotionally or under whatever religious pseudo authority, marriage is explicitly a contractual relationship similar to a business partnership. That contract creates specific financial and other obligations, liabilities, and privileges that you agree will be overseen by an authority that is in most cases a family court with incredible latitude to make determinations that heavily effect your life and that of your marriage/business partner. So, maybe take it at least as seriously as you would starting a new business with someone.
tbf, I’d rather be good friends with a business partner too. Even if we ended up falling out, at least I’d understand them well and be better able to understand their decisions.
Marriage isn’t committing to have sex with the other. Rape in marriage has been illegal for around 30 years. To me a marriage means committing to a partnership. This reductionist view feels harmful.
This is some real talk!
