• LadyButterfly she/her ( LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone ) OPEnglish
    9·
    8 months ago

    I know I shouldn’t say this cos y’know, female empowerment, body positive etc…but I don’t think good things. I’ve got middle aged spread starting and I can’t shake it without making massive diet and exercise changes. i used to have great boobs but they really aren’t nice now. I’m not in bad shape but I truly hate my stomach and boobs.

    • dandelion ( dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
      4·
      8 months ago

      I, too, hate my stomach and boobs 😰

      In terms of body positivity, I don’t like the way the advocacy for something like body positivity makes us feel as individuals guilty for our feelings - it’s like we have to deal with feeling bad about our bodies in ways we were socialized to experience, but then on top of that we are meant to feel guilty for having been socialized that way?

      I dunno, I think we should shed the guilt and just recognize it’s complicated, but that feeling bad about your body isn’t the same as perpetuating body norms on others. I think we should at least offer ourselves that respite.

  • Hildegard (she/her) ( hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
    5·
    8 months ago

    I am delighted I get to look like this now!

    I have measurable breasts and trace amounts of hips, the changes are slow but persistent. I am a work in progress; the small steps are adding up. I like how things are now, and I hope to enjoy the things to come as well!

    I gather I’m in a bit of a sweet spot right now. This is all pretty new to me, so there remains a palpable sense of novelty to my reflection, and I’ve not been a woman long enough to succumb to beauty industry propaganda. I do hope to stave that off as long as I possibly can.

    For the time being, pretty satisfied!

  • mycatsays ( mycatsays@aussie.zone ) 
    3·
    8 months ago

    I’ve always been underweight. In the last 5 years in particular, there have been times when my weight was concerningly low. Times when all I could see was my ribs and hips showing through my skin, and despair about ever reaching and maintaining a healthy weight.

    But right now, it’s okay. I’m still not in the range I would consider ideal for my height and build, but I noticed recently that I can’t even see my collarbone anymore. That’s amazing, and right now it’s all I see when I look in the mirror. I don’t know how long it will last so I’m trying to appreciate the small amount of extra padding while I’ve got it.

  • Twiglet ( Twiglet@feddit.uk ) 
    2·
    8 months ago

    I used to avoid looking at it, I had a very toxic relationship with my self image for a long time.

    I used to be underweight when I was younger, then as an adult that learned to cook nice food I got a lot heavier, which was hard as someone with a warped sense of what ‘healthy’ weight was.

    After many years of untangling my issues and accepting my body I started to take better care of myself, I’m still a little pudgy but I like looking at how exercise is changing my overall form and fitness. - I still have a bit of a belly and soft hips but I like having some softness to my shape too. (Also, belly bongos are fun)