Mine:
- Learn a second language and keep up with the language your parents speak. You will regret being a brat about not wanting to speak this language especially as your family members pass.
- The only opinions about you that really matter are from the people you respect and who respect you back
- Being a kind humble person, who leads their political convictions with curiosity and not self righteousness is important. As that one person said: “I am no hero and neither are you.”
- Don’t throw out your old media (mix cds, tapes, records, photos, zinee, etc) because you think they’re embarrassing. They either will not be embarrassing later or they will become expensive and you can tell them for mad bucks.
This life has no meaning. Absolutely none. Do what you enjoy. You don’t need a “purpose,” grind culture is toxic and will only lead to burnout. Slow down and listen to the birds sing.
What’s your advice for younger folks? Nihilism!
Optimistic Nihilism, is quite a good philosophical framework.
But I would recommend a mixture of optimistic nihilism and stoicism.
If nothing has any inherent meaning, the things you chose to be meaningful are as valid as any other choice.
If you take nihilism far enough, you loop back around to absurdism instead. And that’s where things go from “why bother? Nothing matters so what is the point” to “why not? Nothing matters so I might as well enjoy life.”
I think Absurdism
do you think that you should do what you enjoy at the expense of another person? like (in an extreme example) to harm/assault/ hurt someone because you enjoy it?
I don’t know why you are being downvoted. This is an excellent question. Personally, no, but that’s because I feel empathy towards other people and enjoy cooperation/community.
However, imagine if you were born without empathy or even enjoyed hurting others. Does that make you a bad person? Our society would certainly see it that way. You would be ostracized/incarcerated for not being the same as others because you enjoy hurting people. But does that make your existence wrong? I don’t think so. To be honest I don’t think there is such a thing as wrong and right, just selfish and selfless behaviors.
All this to say, I would say no and certainly don’t condone it, but if you ask someone else they may say yes. Who is to say that either one of us is right?
Ah…, the conundrums of subjective morality.
Thank you for this response!
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But who defines them? If there is no god to determine that then that belief is entirely subjective. What one person views as good will be bad to another. How do you determine who is right?
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Well, I’m afraid that’s where we diverge in beliefs then. With a god it is perfectly reasonable to believe that, but without one it’s not.
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Civilization and cooperation are intrinsic. The rules of human cooperation dictate rules of behaving. You do not require a god to establish murder and hording of resources and sexual violence as bad. They are defined as malum in sae for reason, in law.
Community sets the rules, adjudication, and punishment regardless of the inspiration of the rule. A god can provide a framework but people can do it too.
Keep learning new things.
Learn cursive and develop your own handwriting.
Writing down things physically makes learning way easier. And keeps your brain young - because, there is a reason why dementia is hitting some people in their 40s.Edit: brush your teeth and floss every day. If you don’t like to floss every day get a water flosser for those days.
Be willing to burn bridges. Some people really do need to be told to fuck off.
Stretch, hydrate, learn. Continuously.
I’ll add: take care of your teeth cuz they’re expensive, and learn to cook before you move out.
Both of these can be outsourced though. You can replace your teeth, and order takeout. You can’t replace your body or your mind.
But in general I agree with you.
Never, ever stop asking why
don’t listen to your elders, they’re the dipshits that have the planet in this mess politically and particularly ecologically, they don’t know shit.
Okay youngins make sure you do the opposite of what everyone says in this threat!
I agree with you but I’m also just being silly . Maybe the better argument is be selective as to which elders you listen to.
As someone raised by a very ignorant silent generation grandfather, there is a middleish ground. Listen to the stories. The lesson you may take may not be the intended but can be instructive. What is important to remember is their world no longer exists so take the advice with a grain of salt. While I am just as mad as anyone else with the mess we have been left, close personal older family and friends can still provide useful advice. Just… Weigh it out with your lived experience. Use what serves you. Edit: spelling
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, Sunscreen would be it
It’s way easier getting in shape young. Don’t put it off.
Start saving for old age now. It might seem like a long way off, and you might not have much money right now to begin with, but being young and poor is way better than being old and poor.
@charonn0@startrek.website The only wealth that matters is time
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but as much effort as you can into math. There is the common trope about it being useless and that is I think due to peoples misunderstanding of it. Math is mental abstraction. Math problems are like excersise. No on complains push ups have not real world value. Its understood that doing them gets your body in better shape to do physical things. Similarly math helps your mind be in better shape to do mental things. Unfortunately you don’t really do it after you are no longer in school so its not bad to try and use it whenever you can. Add your purchases up in your head and try and figure out price per quantity and compare products. do suduko. Also grab elementary logic if you can as it gives a math like framework for reason.
Don’t make trends your identity.
You don’t want to look back on your life and all the photos you have of yourself, just to realize every fashion choice, purchase, event you went to, and way you talked was all because it was seen as cool, trendy, or “normal.”
Live your life in a way that feels right and true to who you are, and what your values are, not what anybody else things is “right” for you to do.
Educate yourself, and question everything. No one is worth following blindly. If you don’t understand the “why” of something, keep digging until you do. Critically thinking is the most valuable skill you can have, so develop it as much as you can.
KILL YOUR MASTERS
If you fear dying you’re already dead. Always for love, never from fear. A better world is possible. Coconut oil is a 1:1 butter substitute that’s both cheaper and better for you
Other plant oils are even better yet, if you don’t insist on the consistency. Except peanut, maybe? I forget.
So vegetable oil?
There’s many kinds, but yes.
I know canola has the lowest saturated fat of them all, which is also why it doesn’t smoke easily.
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People are the most suspicious of the behavior they are most guilty of. The guy who thinks everyone is stealing from him, is probably stealing from everybody else. If it’s your boss, keep an eye on your paycheck. The person who always thinks their person is cheating on them, is probably a cheater. People do this because they’re trying to excuse they’re own behavior - “I only do it because everyone else is doing it to me,” even if they aren’t.
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Commit to doing something difficult, even if it’s just a hobby, like running, working out, playing a musical instrument, writing, painting, learning a language, cooking, reading classic novels, birdwatching, etc. Having something that’s important to you, and investing deeply into it, will fulfill your soul, and give you something good to hang onto when times get tough. And they will get tough. And don’t tolerate people around you who dismiss or are disrespectful about it. It’s important to YOU, that’s all that matters. Their validation is irrelevant.
The first point is not just true for the guilty, but also their victims. Once burned, twice shy.
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Do your best. Make the best choice you can and consciously decide against second-guessing yourself later. Feel free to learn about yourself from any inclination to second-guess, it could be your morals chaffing against your actions.
Be kind. To those you love and those you don’t. Give yourself some grace when imperfections monopolize your focus.
Learn about yourself. It’s going to be a lot easier to make decisions when you know yourself.
