• Obi ( Obi@sopuli.xyz ) 
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          Yes and no, I do my “dream job” (though the exact definition seemingly keeps getting more precise/evolved, let’s just say I work in my dream field) and that doesn’t stop it from being stressful, and from eating away at my free time much more than any office job could. Even if I love the job, I’d still rather have more time for my kids and mental health.

        • Pip ( Pip@feddit.org ) OP
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          Happiness science and benchmarking is intimately tied to the idea that individuals are responsible for their wellbeing. It tells the lie that you are unhappy because you don’t think right. When in fact you might not have wealth to sustain risks, build a house, start a family. When you might not have an employment contract that allows you to plan a vacation.

          We need less happiness and more material welfare for everybody. It’s a bad word and we should stop using it.

            • Pip ( Pip@feddit.org ) OP
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              Yes, because the parties I go to are not full of empty shells of persons who try to maximize their happiness function. Instead, we appreciate each other’s company without having to tell stories of happiness achievements.

                • Pip ( Pip@feddit.org ) OP
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                  2 months ago

                  We talk about all sorts of things but we don’t try to be happy. You’ll have a much better life once you start caring about wealth and morality instead of your happiness. I promise ;)

                  • vandsjov ( vandsjov@feddit.dk ) 
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                    Do you even know what being happy means? It’s not about laughing or smiling all the time. If you live a life where you fear for your family’s health because you can’t afford healthcare, and can’t send your kids too a good school so they don’t have good future aspects, you would be less happy then if you could be sure that a hospital bill won’t ruin your economy and you can see your kids get the education they want. To be happy doesn’t mean that you don’t try to push yourself to generate wealth. Does not stop you from caring about morality (whatever that means). If you feel like your and your family’s life is safe, secure, and gives meaning, you are probably happy.