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Screenshot of a tweet by @feralhousepuppy: hey so you’ve been calling me “bro”, “man”, and “dude” a lot and it’s really invalidating to my masculinity cause those are all gender neutral things you call trans women :/
Screenshot of a tweet by @feralhousepuppy: hey so you’ve been calling me “bro”, “man”, and “dude” a lot and it’s really invalidating to my masculinity cause those are all gender neutral things you call trans women :/
I really wish there was a word that was as useful as “dude” but without the gender connotation.
I tried swapping to “fam” and “cuz” but those felt appropriated, I tried “gamer” and “chat” but those felt irony-poisoned, “Sis” and “girl” feel performative. So “dude” it shall be until someone tells me it’s bad, and then they get no objective article at all.
I mean the golden rule with how you speak about people is really just to listen to what people tell you about what makes them feel respected
So feel free to use dude gender neutrally if thats how you speak, and if someone says they don’t feel good in it, stop. If youre worried it might not feel great for someone you can always just say you’re used to using it gender neutrally and ask 🤷🏻♂️
“cunt” kinda works
“dude” always felt gender neutral to me (though do note English is my fourth language…).
And if you look at the etymology of the word, gender neutrality makes some sense.
It started out as slang in the late 1800s mocking “hyper-fashionable young urban men”.
Then the early 20th century it transformed to describe tourists from the East Coast on the Western side of the country (see “dude ranches”).
And then in the 60-70s it transformed thanks to surfer slang, back to being male oriented.
I’d say if you’re uncomfortable with the “dude” form of the term… use “dood” instead. Or even “d00d” if you’re feeling l33t h4xx0r.
So in your examples, it went from making fun of a type of men, to referring to the overwhelmingly-male owners of hobby ranches, to referring to male surfers.
When exactly was it ever gender neutral?
No…
You got the second part wrong. It wasn’t the “overwhelmingly male owners of hobby ranches” that were called dudes, but, if you read my comment again, you’ll notice I specifically said the UNGENDERED tourists hailing from the east coast - primarily city folk - visiting rural western areas, ranches.
The 80s and 90s skater culture. We’re all dudes https://youtu.be/iKYXmjfQY4U
I don’t like dude as gender neutral and don’t think I ever will. I’ll stick with “fam,” “friend,” and “homie” (then again, I am Hispanic, so that might not work for everyone)
Comrade!
Tovarășe! Să trăiți!
I prefer homie
just say “baby”.
bae 2
hmm i can see it but that one would be more difficult to read when you aren’t used to it.
when saying it. it’s a very open-mouthed sound so peeps will probably think they didn’t understand you right, while
babyhas a rather distinct and complete-feeling kinda sound i think.EDIT: it would sound nice tho once peeps know you use that sound-word for everyone >v<
ya, “bae” in very district.
Thanks, baby! :D
hmnawawwaw---- yea see, like, that works maybe and when it does it usually makes the recipient excited which is a wonderful bonus ~
Comrade?
Always thought mate was fantastic but it sounds weird when Americans use it
Well, I’m Canadian, but I assure you it doesn’t sound any better coming from us.
America should refer to the continent anyway
Dudette! Though I honestly stick with dude, i use dudette only if it bothers them;
personally a fan of comrade, friend or pal.
but i also really kinda do use guy and dude gender neutrally. Accidentally have called everyone i know dude at some point. P sure i called my mom dude several timea.
but also aware some people dont like that so i makr a point of asking if know/suspect theyve a non cis gender identity, or correct as needed if asked.
people only really take it badly if its the first time meeting and theres doubt to ones priorities. People are generally very forgiving if you establish intent and willingness to respect each other in my experience
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“what up cuh”
let’s go for: hello beings
add.:
I like folks but it’s pleural so only works for groups.
“howdy folks 🤠”
Imo new words should be created for these things. Like how about
zude?