You love to see it
You must log in or register to comment.
Fun fact: choking during sex is the second most common cause of stroke in women under 40. Source.
When you cut off blood supply to the brain you start damaging it real fast. There are studies measuring blood biomarkers of neural injury and inflammation in women who report being chocked during sex and it’s clear that choking causes brain damage. According do experts there’s no safe way to do it. It’s just another disturbing, violent trend popularized by porn.
Thankfully my wife is over 40, so it looks like we dodged that bullet.
Thank you for speaking up and posting this source. I know you and I haven’t historically gotten on well, but I fully agree with you here.
Mfw I browse the fediverse daily and am aware of some of the conflict that has gone down between y’all. I am on Lemmy too much lmao
Why does it have to be about violence and porn? Talk about the dangers all you want but that shit just genuinely feels like crack. You get flooded with brain chemicals that feel euphoric. Focus on the important bits about the risks rather than applying stupid moral judgements.
maybe some people like having their brain shut off somewhat, and that’s actually the entire point? maybe not everyone likes being hyper-aware of everything all the time?
Liking it doesn’t take away the risk. There’s a lot of things we do in life that have risk, but we still do them for various reasons.
By all means, enjoy the thrill! But educate yourself and be aware that there is no completely safe way to choke or be choked. And of course always get consent.
I believe their question was WHY do people enjoy it. Which I’m also curious about.
My comment still stands. Some people like it, whether it’s because of porn or not, but it’s really important to know that it is never safe to do.
A couple of reasons. First, from a submissive perspective, it’s a really vulnerable point of the body that can be used to wrest away control. You don’t even need to choke for that feeling. If you don’t understand why the feeling of helplessness can be sexy, you just won’t get this one. Second, there’s a chemical induced euphoria that happens during the act of choking and explodes immediately after that, at least for me, is comparable to an orgasm but NOT an orgasm. It’s especially potent the moment you stop throttling the blood flow to your brain.
The thing is, choking isn’t about cutting off the air flow. Doing that by hand sucks so bad and HURTS. The pleasure comes from pressure on the artery and it happens quick.
Interesting. Thank you, that was very informative!
Happy to help!
Reminder that any sexual choking is now illegal in Australia
I can’t find a source that verifies your claim.
You might be thinking of the ban on strangulation in porn that was passed in the UK recently?
Basically, you cannot consent to it; even if sober, or you sign a waiver.
Though not broadly different from other State and Territory laws the legal firms advice that is linked in the article relates to NSW law and does not indicate that all sexual strangulation is unlawful.
Your claim, and the articles claim, regarding the legality of sexual strangulation is untrue on the grounds that sexual strangulation may be performed in a way that is consensual, does not result in harm, loss of consciousness or death.
It is not explicitly illegal according to Federal, State or Territory law.
Here’s another one:
While the sexual practice was often consensual, Douglas said: “You can’t consent to death or really serious harm under Australian law … there’s that line that is very clearly drawn in strangulation law – and assault law more generally.”
Theoretically, if the stranglee never gets injured, and they don’t tell anyone, then you might not get in trouble. However, since it has such a high injury rate, if they end up in hospital, you might face criminal charges. Even if they have a therapist and say that they are choked during sex, then it’s a mandatory reporting thing at that level too. Just don’t choke people lol it’s extremely dangerous and legally risky
Just don’t choke people lol it’s extremely dangerous and legally risky
Advocating for abstinence is a losing strategy as noted in the article.
I’m not interested in sexual choking, though I do choke people out occasionally in martial arts training, I was interested only in the claim regarding legality.
Blaming sexual violence on porn seems the same kind of cheap virtue-signalling as blaming gun violence on video games.
Being choked feels good. Your partner sometimes asks you to choke them, sometimes in the heat of the action.
The most important thing is that there really is no safe way to do it, and it should be never done. Upvoted your post for visibility. For the sceptics, here is an article (in German) about one medical doctor accidentally killing another during sex.
According do experts there’s no safe way to do it.
I always heard that you/your partner should squeeze the sides of the neck so that it gives the sensation of being choked without actually blocking air/bloodflow
Thought this was a Miisha post
Honestly me too
Remember kids, learn how to do it safely before you try it in the bedroom!
Unfortunately, there is no truly safe way to choke. It’s always a risk. But please, please do look into it before choking anyone and always get consent first.
I also have a rule that no choking is allowed if the people involved are under the influence of anything. It’s too risky.
This is exactly what happened to me. I had never been choked, nor had I ever choked someone. Was making out with girl, she was on top of me, and then started choking me. I was so confused and horny. Eventually asked her about it and yes, that is what she wanted done to her. Like Jesus, just say so.
This highlights a big flaw in the golden rule: people want different things
Perhaps unsurprisingly this has been a thing in philosophy of ethics for awhile now. Copper rule gang rise up!
Copper Rule:
Do (or don’t do) unto others as they would (or would not) have you do unto them
Basically treat people how they want to be treated.
There are a lot of commonalities regarding what humans generally want for the non-specific ethics of reciprocity to be useful.
Even more so, what humans don’t want.
Or, for that matter, what non-human entities want. Thanks to the collapse of the rule of law at the federal level, businesses who can’t afford access to Trump are abandoning the US if they can’t pay the expected tribute to Trump, or can’t get in his good graces on ideological grounds. It turns out companies like an economy in which the rules are consistent for everyone.
people into choking want consensual choking.
this was anything but.
generalizations are evil, I’m sure either of us could find someone that is into non-consensual choking
I misread the nickname as Miistakes and thought that this is Miishas alt account
TIL: When people refer to choking during sex, it’s actually choking.
I thought it was just called that way, in a similar way to “choker” being a close-fitting necklace, just lightly pinning down someone by their neck. Not strangulation.
That can also cause damage, just FYI. There’s a lot of invisible damage that can happen to the delicate tissues of the neck and throat.
I do that to myseld with my poorly fitting work clothes xD
What kind if damage are we talking?
When I was in the kink community breath control was a big no-no. There’s a significant enough risk of putting your partner in shock, and in the 1990s police were not very understanding of death by heavy erotic play.
Of course the US may currently be in the stage Russia was in 2011 (and still is) of YOLO high-risk selfies.
Most people that I’ve met as well as myself and my partners don’t actually do breath play of any variety. Just firm pressure applied to the sides of the neck, to reduce risk slightly. I understand it’s still not a completely safe activity, but we’re all consenting adults.
hmm naw not like this, I’d rather like stroke their cheek all nicely and give them a kiss ~
Have you considered putting your hands around their neck and not choking them? It’s very intimate
yeye I know that’s also wonderful. Maybe a bit of movement, a small bit of light scritchies. yeah. mhm thats nice, makes me make sounds—
Yeye, it’s the fun kind of possesive. Like “pay even more attention to me”
ummm maybe not necessarily, I’d like they to kinda shiver a bit, kinda maybe look away and mmmmh lean into it a bit and then!!! then I get to as “hmm baby, can u look at me?” aaaaaah yes <3 <3 <3 and and and once they do, I brush a bit firmer and go “thank you ~”
which cheek?
the face cheek ~
Both?
yeah both is nice.
okay fine, bottom cheeks can also be fun and maybe nicer since usually one doesnt get tenderly touched there.
so maybe its extra soothing? hmm dunno… no I think that would just cause excitement more so than warm comfy feels. tracing someones back should be better for that… maybe
butt rubs are always nice
(also, my autocorrect tried to convince me not once, not twice, but three times that what I really want to say is “butt runs”. which aren’t nice at all!)
yeaaaaa i wanna rub someones — areas and have them tingle all nicely yesssss that’s it, that’s what I want. kinda explore them, see what’s good, what gets them twitching, what gets them leaning in ---------
enough Lemmy for today >v<
If the British government browsed Lemmy, they’d be very upset right now.
I hope they do, fuck the British government.
The comic is Hung Hang flashbacks
https://www.webtoons.com/en/canvas/hunghang-flashbacks/list?title_no=85991
It’s a fun series
Thanks, I’ve been wondering that for years
So uh… For future partners’ sake… What source do I redirect them to to make sure I don’t suffer more brain damage than I’m sure I already have from other things… 👀
I don’t have a source, but the idea is not interrupting airflow or blood flow to the brain.
he died?
