I work at work then at home and literally have no time to do any of that, guess I’m in there too
During weekends I just feel too dead to do anything, especially to approach and be rejected 1000 times before getting a yes from someone that I find out later is a conservative racist with 3 kids from 4 fathers…
Whatever, guess I’ll die alone
2me_irl4me_irl amirite
My husband messaged me on OKC with something along the lines of,“hey this is probably just gonna sound crazy but were we stuck in the psych hospital together about a year ago?”
Yes. Yes we were. And I was a little bummed I hadn’t gotten his number. That was five years ago and we just celebrated our first wedding anniversary. Fucker is still batshit crazy, but so am I.
Instructions unclear, went insane
This is the result of handing dating life off to the capitalist class that uses it to enrich itself. Go to neighborhood potluck or volunteer somewhere to meet people without prejudice. If it doesn’t land you a date then at least you’ll have fun or do something good.
I don’t see how this advice would help the OOP at all.
Happy cake day!
Joining local, small scale gatherings without the explicit goal of getting a date does a few things. For one it makes you more sociable which will help you be attractive in the long run. For another it helps you meet people. For a third, you’ll have fun doing it. All those things develop you as a person which in the long run improve your odds of happiness, and it’s much easier to date a happy, well developed, sociable person than a miserable incel. And you’ll do it without Silicon Valley’s perverse incentives!
My point isn’t that the advice you gave was incorrect; it’s that the person in the meme explicitly would not follow it. The entire joke is that they will never do what is necessary to get a relationship. It doesn’t matter that it’s a sound dating strategy; you’re missing the point.
The meme probably just ironic, but giving such tone deaf advice in a more realistic scenario would definitely come across as condescending. People with genuine issues usually know what they need to do; it’s just that they can’t bring themselves to do it. Telling them what they already know will make them feel bad and won’t make them more likely to act.
kinda unfortunately yeah.
swipes suck cuz one judges people based on images and text, bars and partys suck because, cold approach feels so weird, and asking the one woman thats already feels somewhat close feels odd
Real talk though: the whole process fucking sucks.
People want to find someone, but there are bullshit societal conventions, it takes a shit load of courage and rejection, don’t want to make anyone else uncomfortable/feel harassed; and how do you even find a good match? If anything happens to my marriage, then I have no interest in jumping into this process. A friend has been going through this for years including a bad breakup recently after a short relationship… I got nothing to offer to make it better 🤷♂️
Edit: even worse when you meet someone who is good at this process. “Just act natural, take it easy. It’s about body language. You get a feel for who is interested and it’s just about being confident”… Ok, black magic, gotcha.
Need to get the women who do this too and the men in a room together.
The room is silent for an hour and everybody goes home.
Oh my God. 🤣
That or subtle flirting and waiting for someone to make the first move. Never happens because they were just “being nice”
assumed heterosexuality and gender binary? :<
how about we just put all the people in rooms together with other people wo might find them attractive based on their stated types or just a buncha ppl in general?
Dude, getting men and women in a room doesn’t exclusively mean only hetero pairing.
Only ones I left out are nonbinary people, FOR A JOKE.
There are better things to get upset about
This meme was posted pretty recently.
Dating apps are pretty bad. They’re not optimized for your happiness. They want your money. But they can get you dates, and some of those dates can be good. I’m a pretty average guy who doesn’t date men, and I could get a few dates a month by writing real messages and honestly engaging with people. Some of them were really good.
But no matter what your strategy is, it’s going to have a big “garbage in -> garbage out” factor. I’ve had friends who half-ass the apps, and then wonder why they don’t have good outcomes. I don’t mean paying- never pay for this shit. I mean actually reading the profile and, if there’s something you can engage with, actually write something. Yeah, it’s work, and most of the time it goes into the void. But just looking at it for 20 minutes and writing nothing deeper than “lol” and “hey” is counter productive. It’s like going to the gym and just looking at your phone. You’re not going to get fit like that. You’re just going to feel bad about yourself.
It’s fine to be like “i don’t have the energy for this” and spend your time doing something else. And it’s fine to take it seriously, write good messages, be present, be genuine. But half-assing it is the worst. Half-assing it sucks for you, and everyone you engage with.
This is why I’m switching to people born with wieners.
Just kidding. I’m dying alone
This but unironically, I would meet the wrong kind of people through those old-school approaches anyways.
I went offgrid in 2020 and haven’t dated since. Do not miss it one bit. Life is peaceful in the forest.
Uhm, the internet is part of the grid?
Most people consider the grid as electric. Living off grid doesn’t mean destroying all your tech and becoming a Mennonite. 99% of people offgrid still have a phone. A lot of people have starlink.
I live off-grid, using one of the most worldwide surveillance network run by a technofascist.
😂 not to mention one of the largest targets of malware injection.
But hey, props for independent electricity and water and such! Those are some difficult systems to set up without running into serious downtime/QoL issues.
Do you have a wood burning stove with some of those cool Peltier element fans to passively force convection? They are pretty cool!
I don’t use starlink.
A proper big foot would use cell not this heathen Starlink.
Till my partner is a witch
Sounds like you’re just making excuses for your asexuality.
Entirely backwards- asexual people don’t need to make excuses for it. But someone who’s forever alone with an attitude like the character in the meme is likely to pretend they’re asexual. Simpler that way. No one will challenge it because asexuality is something they don’t understand enough to argue about, beyond a vague notion it would come off as insensitive if they tried.
If they’re lucky. Or it’s crippling social anxiety.
Hey quick question does it count as being asexual if you masturbate? Like, so much masturbation.
Asking for a friend.
Don’t worry you will be in good company
Maybe… If you feel attracted to a daydream scenario then maybe not.
This year I will try to search for someone to be with
- 2021
He has pretty eyes and a non boring face. I’d ask him out at the grocery store if he didn’t have a ring.
I’ve tried these somewhat when I was in better health. With basically no success. Might as well skip the awkward part…
