Despite my one moment of sheer misandry, which I apologize for…I love you guys ❤️

I probably can’t offer much in the way of comfort…

NSFW, TMI

…I mean, all I can offer is my body, and I doubt you’d want that :P…

…but I really, truly, honestly appreciate all of you guys. Really 💜

Without men, my life would be pretty boring and honestly pointless. And I don’t just mean for sexual reasons…

NSFW, TMI

…well, the sexual reasons are a big and important part of it too, ngl, but they’re not the only reason.

I see and appreciate you. You matter 🩷
To me. To your families. To everyone here ❤️

This isn’t much comfort, but if any of you guys needs someone to talk to, my Matrix account is:
@horny_miisha:chat.blahaj.zone
Feel free to reach out!

You’re not alone. You’re never alone. I love you guys 💜

  • InEnduringGrowStrong ( InEnduringGrowStrong@sh.itjust.works ) English
    7·
    9 hours ago

    If I’m honest for a sec, I’ve been struggling lately.
    Work has been super intense and nothing I can do ever feels like it’s enough.
    Deep down, I know it’s not a me problem, hell, I’m the best damn person for this particular task, it’s just… a lot. That also means I’ll have to lead this thing for a month, away from home this time.
    People see how I fix things and think it’s easy for me.
    It’s not. I’m just used to making shit work at the cost of my own self.
    I’m tired of paying that toll and I don’t know how much longer I can keep it together.

    I recognize this present overwork-dragon facing me, I’ve been down this road before and I know how wholly it can consume me. Not even in a vore way either.
    Being away also means there’s nobody to fuck my brains out or use me as a toy to take my mind off this thing.

    Still, silver linings… this time I’m lucky enough to have my soul-friend-bestie along.
    It doesn’t make it less bullshit, but at least we’re going insane together.
    Anyway, idk why I’m dumping a wall of text here.
    Gotta get back to it… peace.

    • ShadowOfMiisha (she/her) ( ShadowOfMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OPEnglish
      3·
      4 hours ago

      Don’t feel bad about sharing your feelings. Never do!
      I’m sorry you’re struggling like that. I know how rough things can be, but not like this. I’m sorry…
      I’m glad you’re still here with us. And I’m glad you have such a good friend in your life 🫂
      I can’t really offer much, but if you’d like to talk about any of this stuff, I’m here.
      Please don’t give up! You’re not alone in this 🩷

    • velma ( velma@sh.itjust.works ) English
      1·
      4 hours ago

      Work isn’t more important than your well being, you deserve to be seen. I’m so happy to see that you’ve got a supportive partner. You matter. You matter independent of the work you do for others.

      It gets better <3

  • Destide ( sirico@feddit.uk ) English
    9·
    14 hours ago

    I lost my dad to sucicide when I was younger, it’s a deamon that trickles down and has knocked at the door at multiple points in my life. But I think knowing what happens after is what has helped me embrace life as much as I have. The sun will always rise tommorrow

  • YoSoySnekBoi ( YoSoySnekBoi@kbin.earth ) 
    4·
    13 hours ago

    I lost a good friend to suicide a few years ago. Around the same time, I was sexually assaulted by a friend I had confided in about my grief. He got away with it because I was too afraid to speak up, and to this day nobody knows it happened. The only reason I’m still around is because I know firsthand what it’s like when someone you love kills themselves.

    Thankfully, I’m doing much better these days, but I’ll never forget both what being suicidal feels like, and the exact reasons why I’ll never do it.

    • ShadowOfMiisha (she/her) ( ShadowOfMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) OPEnglish
      3·
      4 hours ago

      That’s so messed up…I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I can’t even imagine…
      I’m glad you’re still here 🫂
      If you’d like to talk about any of those things, I’m free. I’m here.
      Please don’t give up! The world is better with you in it. Stay strong 💜

  • Allero ( Allero@lemmy.today ) English
    4·
    14 hours ago
    NSFW, TMI

    …I mean, all I can offer is my body, and I doubt you’d want that :P…

    Girlie, you have a great man and growing following on the naughty side of the Fediverse. You sure about that? 😏

    Also, having a person to talk to can be very important, and it’s cool of you to share this 😊

    • pirc_lover ( pirc_lover@feddit.uk ) English
      7·
      14 hours ago

      It’s even the little things. I am only now learning how to properly take care of my skin because… it’s just not something men are generally taught is important/how to do (in British culture, at least)

      • Allero ( Allero@lemmy.today ) English
        4·
        14 hours ago

        Feminism is good, but I do not think it’s right to fight for men’s rights under this banner. It’s simply too easy to hijack by reminding that feminism is, in principle, about women’s rights (hence the name), and completely lose the part about men from the conversation. This happened before, and it will happen again.

        It’s very unfortunate that “men’s rights activism” was also hijacked by patriarchal assholes who have nothing in common with actual men’s rights. But masculism as a whole can be remedied, and can complement feminism organically as part of a broader antisexism movement.

        So, ideally, we should agree on feminism being a movement for equality with focus on women’s issues, masculism is the same but focusing on specific issues of men, and both uniting to bash patriarchals and fight for a better, more equal and just future.

      • velma ( velma@sh.itjust.works ) English
        17·
        1 day ago

        Patriarchy absolutely hurts men as well and I don’t want to take away from your comment. I fully support it. And I fully support men revolting against the patriarchy and living how they want to live without the pressure to conform.

        The first major legal win for feminism was about a mother being granted custody because before 1839, fathers were automatically granted custody of their children.

        The Custody of Infants Act of 1839 is often seen as the first feminist legislative victory in a long campaign to reform English marriage laws (Shanley 17, Chase and Levenson 40). While legal scholars have noted instances when a father’s total control over his legitimate children had been limited by judicial rulings prior to 1839 (Abramowicz 1345), the 1839 Act stands as the first major reform to recognize the rights of mothers. The important role played by Caroline Norton in the passage of the Act is also key to recognizing the law as a feminist triumph (Shanley 17).

        Prior to the 1839 Custody of Infants Act, a father had a right to his legitimate children and was automatically granted custody if he and his wife separated for any reason (Bailey 393). Most fathers granted custody or access to the children’s mothers because it was considered ungentlemanly to deny mothers the opportunity to be with their children. Judges could also require a father to grant access or custody to the mother in circumstances in which the children’s welfare would be in jeopardy if they were left with their father. (Bailey 394)

        Source

          • velma ( velma@sh.itjust.works ) English
            17·
            23 hours ago

            That is a perfect example of the patriarchy hurting men. Assuming men are the sole and primary earners in the family can lead to discriminatory decisions like this:

            Stephen Wiesenfeld and Paula Polatschek were married in 1970. Polatschek had worked as a teacher for the five years prior to their marriage and continued teaching after they were married. Her salary was the principle source of the couple’s income, and social security contributions were regularly deducted from her salary. In 1972, Polatschek died in childbirth, which left Wiesenfeld with the care of their newborn son. Wiesenfeld applied for social security benefits for himself and his son, and was told that his son could receive them but that he could not. Social Security Act provides benefits based on the earnings of a deceased husband and father that are available to both the children and the widow. The benefits for a deceased wife and mother, however, are only available to the children.

            In 1973, Wiesenfeld sued on behalf of himself and similarly situated widowers. He claimed that the relevant section of the Social Security Act unfairly discriminated on the basis of sex and sought summary judgment. A three-judge panel of the district court granted Wiesenfeld’s motion for summary judgment

            Thanks for bringing it up!!

      • [object Object] ( panda_abyss@lemmy.ca ) English
        5·
        23 hours ago

        Just like how the men’s rights movement has absolutely dogshit people, the feminist movements also have some who see the movement in a selfish supremacist manner.

        This is why I call myself a humanist or egalitarian, I want it to be clear I see neither sex nor gender as superior, and everyone is deserving of dignity, rights, and respect.

  • Apytele ( Apytele@sh.itjust.works ) English
    9·
    23 hours ago

    This is also partially due to men choosing more violent methods that are harder to revoke. To slightly oversimplify, women tend to OD, men tend to chose guns, and if you OD with pills you usually have a few minutes at least to call for help that you don’t get with a gun.

    So, just remember that part of gun safety and responsible ownership is a) storing the gun unloaded, b) having a trusted friend that you can give the gun to in the event of a mental health crisis, c) knowing your own signs and symptoms that indicate that plan needs to be activated.

  • SomGye ( SomGye@sh.itjust.works ) English
    27·
    1 day ago

    Thank you for your kindness 🙏🙏 on average, men go their entire lives without a single compliment and are expected to silently carry burdens and never show a moment of sensitivity or “weakness”.