It happened to me recently at work. I don’t even find her physically attractive, and her personality is not what I’m into at all. But I was still somehow attracted to her - and she also was to me. She didn’t like me, and I certainly am not the kind of man she goes for. It’s like we had a strong connection in one area beneath the subconscious or something, but every other area was completely incompatible. Aggressively so.
Anyone else have anything similar?
Schlemmy ( @Schlemmy@lemmy.ml ) 27•10 months agoYes, I’ve been with a girl like that for 2 years. My friends told me that I could get better looking women and found 8t strange I hooked up with her but my god, she got me going. Also, she was a nymphomaniac. That’s the main reason we broke up. Having sex twice a day takes the fun out of it if you’re not a sex addict. I encountered her a few weeks ago. She gained a lot of weight but I still wanted to screw her badly. It’s totally weird.
We are indeed a bizarre species.
N-E-N ( @NENathaniel@lemmy.ca ) 24•10 months agoI find lots of physically hot people are quite arrogant cause they always have people chasing after them
Blaze ( @Blaze@discuss.tchncs.de ) 22•10 months agoReminds me of the late /r/Trashyboners
Very much like that, yes. But unwillingly. :-(
pH3ra ( @pH3ra@lemmy.ml ) 17•10 months agoThat’s the reason I quit drinking
flamingo_pinyata ( @flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz ) 15•10 months agoVery often. There are multiple kinds of attraction, esthetic and sexual don’t always overlap 100%. Meaning to say sexual attraction is not just visual - attitude, vibe, voice, smell, etc also play a role.
And none of it means you will get along with them on the personality level.
It’s just life. Part of interacting with other humans.
That makes sense. There was a brief period that we actually got along, joked around etc. That was cool. Then it went back to the grinding awkwardness.
Mothra ( @Mothra@mander.xyz ) 14•10 months agoYes. Many times. I’m a woman btw. I never got anywhere with these people though, probably for the best. (Not sure if in your case you did?)
As in, hook up with the person? Haha no that didn’t happen. I thought the same as you, probably for the best.
Colour_me_triggered ( @Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee ) 14•10 months agoDisgusted spiteful sex is one of the best types of sex.
I missed out. Damn.
Colour_me_triggered ( @Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee ) 6•10 months agoGo split her in two like a piece of balsa wood, young padawan!
Actually, one of my exes really liked a song called Fuck Me Like You Hate Me. She was also quite hatable. It added some spice in the bedroom, but a high price was paid. I’m not really interested in revisiting that…
russjr08 ( @russjr08@outpost.zeuslink.net ) English1•10 months agoBy Seether? I take it? It’s one of my favorites by them, its got a good beat to it lol
Yes, that’s the one. I prefer their cover of Careless Whisper, personally. That song also has a very strong her-to-me vibe.
cobra89 ( @cobra89@beehaw.org ) 2•10 months agoIs this a John Oliver quote? Lol
Colour_me_triggered ( @Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee ) 1•10 months agoIt does sound like one, now that I think about it.
chrizbie ( @chrizbie@lemmy.nz ) 13•10 months agoInteresting, I have found myself sexually attracted to some older women that aren’t really that attractive physically but they give off kind of a sultry vibe, but I couldn’t say I found them repulsive in any way, does that ring familiar?
Lvxferre ( @lvxferre@lemmy.ml ) 8•10 months agoI get this all the time. In the past I acted on this sort of attraction, sometimes even hooking with the woman in question, but nowadays I don’t do it because it’s more trouble than it’s worth.
russjr08 ( @russjr08@outpost.zeuslink.net ) English8•10 months agoYes. I’m pretty sure its by the same virtue behind “The heart wants what the heart wants” (as in, same underlying concept). There are plenty of times where my conscious and subconscious disagree on what I “want”.
However, it only takes going down the road of “Well what if its not as bad as I think…” a couple of times to solidify the idea that, yes, it can absolutely be as bad as you think…
- manapropos ( @manapropos@lemmy.basedcount.com ) 5•10 months ago
There’s this chick at my gym. She has an amazing body, nice face and everything. I’m taken so it’s whatever, I’m not thirsting over her, but she’s noticeable.
Anyways, one day I’m working out and I hear her talking to someone else. Her voice is so deep and raspy I did a double take to make sure it was her. Instant ICK but I’d still hit it with earplugs
Haha I had a similar experience with an Asian lady several years ago. I was lost and asked her for directions into town. She had the prettiest face, and a dainty little physique. She answered me in a sweet manner… then turned around to her family… and screeched in a loud, twangy, pitchy yelling voice. It completely changed how attractive I found her, but I thought a similar thing about earplugs.
triclops6 ( @triclops6@lemmy.ca ) 4•10 months agoHate fuck
regalia ( @regalia@literature.cafe ) 2•10 months agoThat’s why you call some people bangable, but not wifey.
suckaduck ( @suckaduck@feddit.nl ) 2•10 months agoIf you’re both thirsty and not held back by committed relationships you might as well tap each other. I certainly would and have. Ooga booga sex.