A commune or a cult would be better than this circus lol
- dark_stang ( @dark_stang@beehaw.org ) English56•10 months ago
If you can find one that isn’t a weird sex cult, let me know.
- baseless_discourse ( @baseless_discourse@mander.xyz ) English59•10 months ago
On the other hand, if you find a werid sex cult, let me know.
- LoamImprovement ( @LoamImprovement@beehaw.org ) English27•10 months ago
I’d settle for just a normal sex cult.
- baseless_discourse ( @baseless_discourse@mander.xyz ) English25•10 months ago
NEVER SETTLE
- jarfil ( @jarfil@beehaw.org ) English11•10 months ago
If you don’t mind people who never bathe, try these tribes in Namibia:
https://guardian.ng/life/the-namibian-tribe-where-sex-is-offered-to-guests/
- cubedsteaks ( @cubedsteaks@lemmy.today ) English7•10 months ago
god I was hoping it was like tourists show up and just get laid by natives but instead it’s just weird cuckolding.
- jarfil ( @jarfil@beehaw.org ) English5•10 months ago
tourists show up and just get laid
That would be Ibiza… but it only works during summer.
- cubedsteaks ( @cubedsteaks@lemmy.today ) English2•10 months ago
Ibiza
ohh yes! They got the kinda nightclubs you usually only see in movies.
- liv ( @liv@beehaw.org ) English7•10 months ago
That article kind of presents an idyllic/outdated view of the Himba people. Modern life affects them as well and a lot of young people don’t want to live like that.
- jarfil ( @jarfil@beehaw.org ) English6•10 months ago
Interesting, and indeed a dilemma. I basically mentioned it because just yesterday I saw a guy talking about “sex in the past”, and he happened to mention this, apparently in an even more idealized/outdated way.
Basically he said that a bunch of them would go through a “bonding ritual” at the age of 14, and from then on live like a sort of communal marriage, where the woman would shoo out the husband because she had a date with some other guy of the group, and that they were the “happiest people in the world” and would act surprised at outsiders’ focus on their sexual practices.
From the other article, it sounded more like forced marriage and women abuse… and here it sounds like most of them want to get out of there.
Interesting series of takes.
- pjhenry1216 ( @pjhenry1216@kbin.social ) 37•10 months ago
Whoa whoa whoa. Let’s not limit our options prematurely.
- DavidGarcia ( @DavidGarcia@feddit.nl ) English12•10 months ago
you gotta suck a few eggs to make an omelette
- starbreaker ( @starbreaker@kbin.social ) 9•10 months ago
What if it was just a vanilla sex cult?
- cubedsteaks ( @cubedsteaks@lemmy.today ) English1•10 months ago
I’d join.
- ErisShrugged ( @ErisShrugged@beehaw.org ) English43•10 months ago
Does the cult have a good plan for healthcare? If so, please send me your newsletter, manifesto, religious tract, pentabarf, whatever.
- Milksteaks [he/him] ( @Milksteaks@midwest.social ) English10•10 months ago
I’d settle for a cult with a good dentist tbh. According to US healthcare eyes and teeth are separate from the rest of your body.
- loops ( @loops@beehaw.org ) English5•10 months ago
We call teeth “Luxury Bones” up here in Canada.
- Sombyr ( @Sombyr@lemmy.one ) English24•10 months ago
As somebody who was once part of a cult, it’s just the same circus but worse.
- MrGG ( @MrGG@lemmy.ca ) English19•10 months ago
Already planning on it here in Canada once my friends and I have the money for what we want to do.
Farming (+greenhousing) and some cottage rentals on the side.
Peace out, modern society!
- mayo ( @mayo@lemmy.today ) English8•10 months ago
Cottage rentals for income?
Currently my plan is to get far enough into my career that I can spend half my time in city making money and half in the woods
- MrGG ( @MrGG@lemmy.ca ) English5•10 months ago
Exactly, cottage rentals for income. To supplement farming and other ventures, anyway.
I’m lucky that my work is 99.9% remote, so as long as I can acquire a stable internet connect I can continue to work out there if needed. Existing entirely in the woods is incredibly appealing.
- mayo ( @mayo@lemmy.today ) English2•10 months ago
I like that idea. Continuing to make money, no matter if it’s just a few hundred dollars a month, is the main hurdle for me to leave. You’d still need to finance construction but it’s a good long term vision.
I am worried about fire seasons/smoke seasons. At best it shortens the tourist season and at worst I lose everything : /
- MrGG ( @MrGG@lemmy.ca ) English3•10 months ago
Yeah, that lack of startup capital is why I’m not doing it already. A bunch of us are saving to pool money together to self-finance. You can also just start with a couple of nice trailers (which you wouldn’t be able to charge as much for, of course) and gradually work towards full cottages. Some cottages in areas I frequent around here are just trailers and are still going for like $300 CAD a night in the middle of September.
At least insurance should protect you against total loss?
- emma ( @emma@beehaw.org ) English18•10 months ago
I don’t come anywhere near close to meeting the requirements for intentional communities. Chronic illness is a real bastard. I don’t need much and the quality of my life could so easily be improved by just a little help from others, but everyone - even intentional communities - is caught up in focusing on how much others can help them. What I can give is less tangible, and therefore dismissed.
I don’t want to abandon society but I do recognise we’d all be far better off if we lived in ways which were less isolating. Every person/family for themselves harms us all.
- ParsnipWitch ( @ParsnipWitch@feddit.de ) English10•10 months ago
A huge problem is that most neighborhoods and houses aren’t facilitating community. You don’t need a commune or a cult as OP was joking.
I live in a house where one of the apartments is used communally by all the other residents of the house and it changes so much. It doesn’t have a functioning bathroom so the landlords couldn’t give it up for rent. But it has a kitchen, a balcony etc.
- Storksforlegs ( @storksforlegs@beehaw.org ) English17•10 months ago
I dont know, you cant really go shopping for cults. Cults go shopping for you.
- jayemar ( @jayemar@lemm.ee ) English9•10 months ago
In soviet Russia…
- Tehgingey ( @Tehgingey@lemmy.ca ) English17•10 months ago
If you’ve ever heard of WOOFing that’s a great place to start. It’s a work trade program I did years ago, tons of farms around the world. You get room and board, just work the farm for a short term. I traveled across Canada doing that years ago and ended up staying on one for 2 years in the discovery islands off the coast of BC. One of the best times in my life. Now I live in downtown Toronto, wondering why I ever came back ahaha
- the w ( @itmightbethew@beehaw.org ) English16•10 months ago
Why not a commune IN the city?
Not saying this is you, but I feel like a lotta people who wanna live in the country also want all the city amenities - internet, garbage pickup, municipal sewage, etc.
To me, the problem isn’t cities, it’s late stage capitalism - gentrifying neighbourhoods, driving rents beyond reach, displacing communities. Plus its zeal for car-focused infrastructure, conspicuous consumption. All that stuff.
Anyway communal life is very appealing - I long for my college days of living in a house full of peers. Even if i’m off-base with my capitalism ruins the city argument, I think we’d all do better at coping with modern life with a wider support network.
I hear they are growing more popular in the bay area? Gideon Lichfield, outgoing editor-in-chief at Wired, mentions he spends half his year living in a commune of sorts and would like to do it full time in this podcast.
- Kwakigra ( @Kwakigra@beehaw.org ) English13•10 months ago
Very often I would like to abandon my life in reality and become a part of an ideal world which I have imagined. It is surprisingly easy to become part of a rural cult (look up “intentional communities”) so it’s a backup plan I have in mind if necessary, but with people we’re going to be dealing with a different version of the same set of issues. We as a species are nuts.
Lol yeah I love intentional communities, I so want to join one if I could!
- Kwakigra ( @Kwakigra@beehaw.org ) English4•10 months ago
I used to live in a housing co-op and loved it. That being said you are going to have to deal with people intimately in that kind of living situation, so quality of life is greatly influenced by how well you mesh with the others around and things can change.
- MangoKangaroo ( @MangoKangaroo@beehaw.org ) English12•10 months ago
No, but finding a job in a slightly less fucked country would be great once I have sufficient work experience.
You can do it, I believe in you!!
- MangoKangaroo ( @MangoKangaroo@beehaw.org ) English1•10 months ago
Thank you. <3
- ClarissaDarling ( @ClarissaDarling@beehaw.org ) English12•10 months ago
It’s a beautiful dream! Almost a decade ago my family and I left the city and bought land with some other folks. Now it’s just us out here in the wilderness, others are welcome but most people can’t leave the city.
That sounds fantastic, yeah my partner and son are super city dependent they can never leave.
- ClarissaDarling ( @ClarissaDarling@beehaw.org ) English3•10 months ago
We got out of the city before door dash, grocery delivery, etc. so we don’t even know what we’re missing when we trek over a hundred miles to the Costco. I’d imagine that makes it easier!
- Drusas ( @Drusas@kbin.social ) 2•10 months ago
Wish I could do that!
- dylanmorgan ( @dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net ) English12•10 months ago
I’ve thought for a while that it would be cool to buy up a block in a suburb and do urban farming as a community.
- autumn (she/they) ( @autumn@beehaw.org ) English1•10 months ago
see if there are any community gardens in your area. they’re basically what you’re talking about, although usually only the land owner and/or farm manager lives there. my favorite one around here also has a rotating volunteer position who lives on site.
- Erdrick ( @Erdrick@beehaw.org ) English11•10 months ago
My dad did it back when he was a hippy.
He still talks very fondly of the time he spent out in the Arizona desert all those decades ago.A piece of me would like to drop out of society and live in solitude.
While I lean towards being a loner, I realized that I am probably mostly a hybrid.
I enjoy some human interaction, but also love being alone to do whatever the fuck I want.
To me a commune would be too intimate and I think would end up being like a small town type of scenario which doesn’t appeal to me. - ALostInquirer ( @ALostInquirer@lemm.ee ) English9•10 months ago
What about a traveling circus? Bonuses: it’s mobile, it’s a circus by design, it’s inclusive, and goofing around is just part of the culture!
- metaStatic ( @metaStatic@kbin.social ) 5•10 months ago
I’ve always said if you don’t want to work for clowns join the circus
This idea is precious
- Arotrios ( @Arotrios@kbin.social ) 8•10 months ago
Abandon society - yes. Commune - JFC no. Vagabond gypsy caravan? Possibly, but only if there are werewolves and mysteriously sexy tarot card casters involved.
- ihavenopeopleskills ( @ihavenopeopleskills@kbin.social ) 4•10 months ago
I do absolutely horribly in small groups of people for extended periods of time.