Idk why I always wake up with either my sides or neck or smth hurting when I wake up but that didn’t happen while I stayed at a hotel. It’s not like I’m an old broken man who should be waking up expecting this.
Be very careful. An expensive mattress, if you care for it, can last a long time and will definitely help with your pains. But just because it is expensive does not mean it is actually good, let alone good for you specifically. There are many types of different mattresses and you should take some time to find one for you.
TLDR: lie down on it before buying.
As a fellow side sleeper who just bought a Purple mattress, just remember to buy a plush/soft mattress. The reason you are hurting is because you are sleeping on your side on a, probably, cheap and firm mattress.
Firm mattresses are for back sleepers. Soft mattresses are for side gang, like us.
I will say Purple is just incredible if you can afford it but try it at a store first before committing. The important thing, though, is to get a soft, well-made mattress.
Dude, I just realized, is your name a play on Søren Kierkegaard?
Yep, it was supposed to be snoren, but I mistyped it.
That’s so funny. I love Kierkegaard, you have an awesome name!
Hope you can find a better mattress to improve your sleep.
Haha thanks. Would guessing ikiru being the kurosawa film be too obvious?
It is obvious, but that’s exactly where I got it from. Haha
I love the film and it made me learn and appreciate the word, but I also love the word used in this way as a kind of homage to living, or existence itself, and a nod to existentialism and phenomenology.
Thats cool! I love Ikiru too, the first half especially.
Have you by any chance read The death if Ivan Ilyich by Tolstoy?
The first half?! I should probably rewatch it in case I’m forgetting something but I think I love life-affirmation of the second half. Not trying to judge but the first half is so depressing. Haha What do you love about it?
But, no, I haven’t read it, unfortunately. I know Ikiru is based off it though, right? I still see Ikiru as a kind of Christ story.
I sleep on my side. I love firm futons. Soft mattresses make me very sore and cause me to have poor sleep. Just because you sleep on your side doesn’t mean you have to have a soft mattress.
There’s always an exception to the rule.
I’ve also had a great night’s sleep on my side using firm futons or even the floor, doesn’t mean that it isn’t better for side sleepers to use softer mattresses.
Now that I didnt know, thanks!
For a side sleeper I recommend going to a mattress store with a friend and your pillow. You lay down on the mattress and your friend checks if your back is straight, it’s easily visible:
Never skimp on anything between you and the ground
Meh I don’t think major mattress companies really justify they wildly inflated prices. This might have gotten better over the last few years, but you used to have to pay $2000 for something you could get shipped in a box from Amazon at $200 for similar quality.
There is an old proverb I heard once. “Don’t cheap out on things that separate you from the ground”
When it comes to things like mattresses, shoes, and chairs do your research and buy the best option you can. It will save you a lot of pain later in life
https://www.bett1.de/anti-kartell
There is a cartell in the matress market. Dont buy pricy ones. Watch the documentation on the youtube link. Its made by public tv from germany.
The link is the store of the dude that stood up and fought against the cartell. And he survived. The united-cartell-angency (bundeskartellamt) found out about the cartell throught this dude and fined the cartels pretty hard. It is still not destroyed sadly and the prices of over 500 bucks for a fucking mattress are everywhere even though it might be a absolute dogshit mattress.
Someone better make a movie bout this guy
Yes, but with caveats. If you go to a big mattress store and buy from the big brands (Sealy, Simmons, Serta, etc.) you are getting a mattress that is cheaply built at a high price due to shitty private equity firms buying up the brands and squeezing every bit of value from them.
I ended up spending a fair bit ($2600 but the “equivalent” at the major chain store was $3400) on a locally manufactured mattress with more expensive materials like latex foam and wool but only after I tried a bunch and found one that kept me nice and aligned. Immediately I stopped waking up with the type of pain that would stay with me all day (I would be slightly stiff for 15 minutes instead), and now that my body is used to it I only very rarely wake up in pain.
The big thing is to find somewhere without shitty sales tactics, and to try a bunch of mattresses out and find out what works for you. I didn’t like the memory foam mattresses, but some people love them. There is a reason why they make firm, medium, and soft mattresses. There are mattresses where the springs are the same all over, or vary based on where people keep their body weight.
Mattress: something firm like a tatami mat with a thin futon on top. Your lower back and hips will be happy.
Pillow: buckwheat husk filled with a dust cover. Your neck, shoulders, and sinuses will be happy.
Ymmv.
All my back pains went away once I bought a high end matress that was soft as a cloud.
Anytime I sleep on a futon, I sleep like shit and wake up with pain everywhere.
OMG, futons should be classified as a torture device.
Before commiting to buying a $1000+ mattress, try getting yourself a foam mattress topper. A good one is only like $100. My wife and I sleep on a old generic mattress with one of these and literally sleep like angels. Every time I come home from a vacation it feels like sleeping on a cloud, compared to a hotel mattress.
I know other people will die on a hill trying to convince themselves that their $5k mattress was worth it. But in my opinion, a $100-200 memory foam topper can make a world of difference.
over the last 15 years or so I would have spent $10k on mattresses of all types… inner spring, micro spring, full latex, a mix of above… all end up with body indentations that cause back pain. In the end I bought a cheap mattress in a box (Koala Brand) that is hard as a brick and a latex topper, it has been wonderful
I bought a $600 foam one at Costco, and it’s the best mattress I’ve ever slept on. Unfortunately, this makes every other bed extremely uncomfortable, so YMMV.
I went to a mattress boutique and ordered my mattress there. I would never do it differently again, I love it every night. The saleswoman took great care of trying the different mattresses to see which one had the backs of my girlfriend and I in the best positions and whenever I’m back from a trip I feel again the greatness of my mattress
Is it worth the money? You’re going to spend something like 1/3 of your time on it. Make it a good one.
I recommend checking out https://www.sleeplikethedead.com/ to help choose a mattress. It’s independent and free of advertisements.
Doing some top quality research here:
Mattress Types and Sex Suitability
I don’t know your age, health, etc, but there are lots of reasons we hurt other than age. Ergonomics, repetitive stress injuries, regular old injuries. It doesn’t take much to compound these issues into something that interferes with your life.
I spent the last twenty years sleeping on a mattress that wasn’t right for my sleep style. It didn’t feel great sleeping on my side and it has a slight divot. I didn’t wake up in pain, but it definitely impacted the quality of my sleep.
I recently moved and bought a new tempurpedic. I went in, went through a calibration test of sorts and tried the top recommended matches. Ended up buying the top match, which was way expensive, but I now consistently get the quality of sleep I used to get at best once a week.
Two things: the mattress was $3k, and I still have chronic shoulder pain I manage with home physical therapy.
I guess my point is, the best mattress won’t fix a problem not caused by a bad mattress. You might need PT, stretching, or some other physical routine to help manage your particular pain, just like I have special exercises for my shoulder that if I stop, it will start hurting again and prevent me from sleeping on my side, no matter the mattress.
So before you throw down money on a mattress, make sure you rule other reasonable things out, and make sure you understand the return policy. E.g., of you remove the tags you can’t return, of there is any discoloration, no return, etc. Just make sure you have the details down pat.
I went from a cheap Amazon mattress to a fancy temperpedic mattress and it was absolutely worth every penny
What I did was I went to a mattress store to try out mattresses to see what I was looking to buy
The mattress I ended up buying was one that I laid down on and fell asleep almost instantly
Just find a local mattress store with a lot of options and start testing them out for yourself
how do you test a mattress?
Mattress stores let you lay down on them.
