I care a lot about what other people think (not good) and if someone tries to help or helps me, I can’t stay without saying thank you. I really want to thank people who comment on my posts. But many times I ask a lot of questions and I thus reply to a lot of comments and try to be polite and show how grateful I am. So, now, I have seen many people abandoning their posts after they get their answer without upvotes or replies or followups, I am pretty sure they are better at time management than I am. Now, what do you think?
What is the right way to behave when you post and random strangers help you? I know you all don’t think about me all the time and if you made a comment you probably will forget about it, so is it ok to just upvote and forget even the people who help you? I have an exam in a few months and I should not be wasting my time rn, what would you do if you were in my place?
Don’t say “dont’ create posts” because I like the people here and the answers they give, but yeah, it’s a hell of a job to reply “satisfactorily”. Again, should I just “upvote and ignore”?
Also, I just want to say that people here are amazing. You guys are very helpful! Like, especially on c/linux! Such helpful communities are one of the things that make Linux great and more usable! Thank you to the folks at c/linux btw
Could try editing in how grateful you are in your original posts so you wont have to reply to each individual comment
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You will never find a satisfying answer to this question because there isn’t one and social relationships are not transactional. Acknowledgements are nice, upvotes or comments but no one really expects replies.
thank mate! I will consider this from now on
If you get a lot of replies, too many to individually thank, you could update your post with an “ETA: Thanks for all of the helpful replies” or something like that.
I usually just upvote and thank the especially helpful replies, or the ones that resonate with me.in particular.
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That’s very nice of you, very bad Janet
I care a lot about what other people think (not good) and if someone tries to help or helps me, I can’t stay without saying thank you.
Since you consider this to be a bad thing, have you tried changing yourself? I recommend chillin’ and hangin’ out.
Beef stroganoff and chill?
Beef stroganoff AND chill? this is getting out of hand, now there are two of them!
I usually just throw a “thanks in advance” in the OP ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Eh do what feels natural to you, but if you are short on time don’t go around saying thank you to everyone. Prioritize, how impactful was this interaction in the grand scheme of your life? Did the other person spend a lot of thought and time typing to answer? Those things weigh in too.
It’s ok to not reply and don’t take it personal if people don’t reply.
I don’t usually say it out loud, but I do thank people with either upvotes, faves, following them, or depending on my resources, replying with a vocaroo of me giving thanks if the acquaintanceship is semi-personal. It’s sometimes better.
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This is extremely childish. I don’t think about my waiter once I leave the restaurant but that doesn’t mean that I won’t be polite while I’m there. There are (usually) real people reading your words. That interaction is real.
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It all has meaning if you give it meaning. It has no meaning to you, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t have meaning to everyone you’re interacting with. Knowing the internet, you’re probably better off not caring about the opinion of other internet posters so long as you don’t feed that toxicity yourself, not that calling the internet chucklefucks is toxic, I know you’re just messing around
Just ask and say thank you somewhere. You don’t need to thank everyone. Just thank one or two people or write it as an Edit in your post so it doesn’t look abandoned. And upvote helpful answers.
I don’t like the people who ask open questions and then don’t clarify or reply once, don’t upvote answers and abandon their post. I assume they also don’t read their replies and it’s just wasted time. That’d be the thing to avoid.
Regarding your time-management: Maybe write a list of things to do and a schedule for the remaining days. You can do other things if you also finish your tasks for a day. If you’re behind: focus on the important stuff.
My very small gripe with this sub is that this post will likely be removed over rule 3.
I don’t think so. It’s not a support question, is a genuine and open-ended prompt for discussion. Rule 3 is more to prevent the huge amount of spam of people asking about some extremely specific technical issues that they are having.
I had a post about peoples upvote/downvote habits deleted 2 days ago which wasn’t a support question either. What you’re saying is infact the rule but idk.
Was that because of rule 3 or whichever rule is for reposting of a topic already posted recently?
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Replying to slow your gratitude seems like a nice thing to do, like holding a door open, but hardly necessary or expected. I feel like many people answering questions are just hurling their knowledge into the ether to be picked up by whoever comes across it. They know the op and perhaps more people will see it but don’t expect a response. If you don’t have the time just hit that upvote button, you’ve done nothing wrong. But if you do have the time don’t feel like you are doing something wrong by responding, it’s the unexpected things that are the most precious.
thank you man!
If it’s a one or two sentence reply, then just upvote and move on. If you feel you really got something out of the effort someone took to reply, even just a “Thanks!” comment is fine, but you can elaborate on what you liked, what you learned which really shows appreciation.
Don’t sweat it though, people aren’t expecting anything by default.
I reply “thank you” a bunch. Do it if it makes you happy, don’t if you don’t wanna. It’ll all work out.
