while noting your experience, i do think it’s good context to have that testosterone for trans men / transmasc folks can also improve their ability to process emotions and also generally their temperance (and personally, estrogen just makes me a goddamn wreck; i get depressed, irritable, cynical, etc)

(i worry that the anecdotes you’ve heard from trans women may be a little biased, as well 😅 i personally tend to think it’s more about the right hormones, than what they are)

there’s plenty about trauma itself that causes behaviorial instability. hormones may be a contributing factor in some situations, but i question how universal it is

i kinda wish this was… more? like, this isn’t not a part of the process, but it’s a pretty limited analysis of why men would be reticent to approach women. there’s a lot of (very real and good) consideration for women’s safety and consent, which situations are OK to approach in and which aren’t, etc

i guess the article is focused on how men feel, which is cool, but i think omitting this point means also missing how those worries feed back into creating those feelings of insecurity of men, too

kinda more like all the fingers merged into one innit?

posts picture of hand with all the fingers merging into one big finger

of course, thank you for the kind answer 😁 hope to see things take off here

it’s so refreshing to instinctively scan a cool image looking for traces of AI generation and not find them 😭

do you mind men participating as long as they don’t center the space on themselves, or do you not want them to participate at all?

i think that they probably had some sort of choice, but i imagine they also needed to work to live, right? very few places in the world let you have food and shelter for free, so i think there’s at least some of an argument that doing this stuff is forced in some way or another. plus, it might (have been sold as) paying better or being safer than the conditions they had previously

they’re hardly the only ones to work in unethical (or downright criminal, depending on how you view it) fields. and i’m not sure holding them in crowded, filthy conditions like this, where they’re spreading disease among each other and sharing something like one toilet to 80 people, makes amends for what they’ve done, or even makes the world a better place

i just think we can wish for justice while still acknowledging that people are deserving of some basic amenities for being people

… can a brother get a source on this??

i guess it’s a good motivation to go actually read the paper. i can’t stand not knowing if the summary i just read was accurate or not (and i’m assuming that you didn’t go double check yourself, either. not hating, but it is a known downside to using AI summaries)

… oh, do you (the reader) want to know if it was accurate? guess you’ll also have to read the study to find out :p

seems especially relevant when talking about a study related to discerning truth from false

it… works but it doesn’t work nearly as well as discord for gaming screen sharing, at least with the bit of testing i’ve done with mh wilds

i need to get like this echidna

no recommendations but i just hopped back on HotS and share your sentiment haha

what are you disagreeing with here exactly? it’s transphobic and i left a respectful comment stating that as a warning for others and a request for better labeling going forward. do i need to justify my reaction to request that hatred be labeled? i don’t appreciate being told i should just brush it off

i left the comment saying such because i think that hateful content should be marked as such, so that people can make informed decisions about if and when they interact with it. any given person may be able to handle such content on a good day or prefer to avoid it on another day. do you disagree that people should be given that choice?

like, i could talk about my individual reaction, but it’s not really relevant to my making the post. i think that labeling content is fundamentally inclusive for everyone, because it’s not just trans people who might be triggered by it. maybe a cis guy didn’t feel like reading about how his fellow men are transphobic at that point in time, especially because he knows how bad society is and being reminded of it fucking sucks for him, too

this is not a controversial take, i genuinely don’t understand why you’re meeting it with such dismissiveness. this community literally has a rule against bigotry, i don’t think asking it to be labeled is such a big deal

this is so obvious to me, i’m hesitant to believe you’re engaging in good faith, but i will answer like that’s true behind the below spoiler. i hope you can appreciate the fact that i have had to go re-expose myself to this transphobia to explain this to you

i wish this article or the OP had given this a cw for transphobia, but we’re here now, so i’m just being the change i want to see

so you would rather be perceived as a gay man than a straight woman?

yeah i’ve decided to leave this community based on essentially the same thing you’ve described. i mean i know people are shitters on the wider fediverse, but i figured the places beehaw federated with were at least decent

i guess not

also, the whole thing of “bot is obviously a drag alt” smacks of the same prejudiced “only one person could have a weird gender identity, it must be the same person”

could y’all please stick to talking about how someone behaves, not how they identify? it’s not that fucking hard

when ppl pretend to be a gender online because of comfort, it seems to me that they feel more comfortable as that gender

i would do some real reflection about this. you talk about gender dysphoria but you don’t make any mention of gender euphoria. do you know what that is? it’s the other set of traits to look for when considering if you’re trans. one of those is feeling more comfortable in a given gender than your assigned gender at birth. another is feeling a sense of wholeness or happiness when picturing yourself with different sexual characteristics. sometimes that also presents as feeling sexually aroused when picturing yourself with those traits

why did you want to avoid being straight so badly?

i think online spaces are good places for exploring your gender identity and i don’t really think it was wrong or disingenuous. you feel like it was, because it’s pretend for you, but it’s offering you a real sense of warmth and comfort, so i don’t see an issue. obviously, please treat the trust that other people may grant you, given that label, with care. be a good person with it, and if they become close to you, consider explaining your situation to them, before misunderstandings can happen

identities are free to take and wear as you please. you don’t owe anyone dysphoria or a desire to transition to be trans, or to be that identity everywhere at all times. it’s just seems to me that you identify as a man/demiboy/etc online, and that’s cool

oh my fucking god i’m so pissed on your behalf, that’s such bullshit!!!

(also a rant, on a related but separate topic) holy FUCK along the same lines, i really hate it when people lurk in the parking lot waiting for someone to leave so they can park there! like wow, yeah, impede the flow of traffic and pressure the person leaving to hurry so YOU can have that space

i hate it so much, it makes navigating an already-packed grocery store even worse. the ppl at costco are SO bad about this 💀💀💀 just go park further away, you already have a minute long walk to the store, another minute won’t kill you!!!

this is my personal bar for whether someone is a good person or not :)

(exception for anyone who legitimately needs the closer parking spots but cannot get the disability parking spots for whatever reason. but they are a TINY minority of people)