LukeS26 (He/They)

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Cake day: September 20th, 2023

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  • I can’t claim to know your exact situation or anything, but it could be possible that some of what you see as people thinking you’re gross isn’t really that. If you experience enough mistreatment or hate then other things that might have a different explanation can definitely feel related to it. I’m not saying that as a way to try and minimize your experiences or anything, but sometimes it can help to try and find other reasons that people act how they do. If you have a negative image of yourself then it makes sense you’d imagine any sort of negative interaction is because of that, but people are complicated and there’s no saying what necessarily causes someone to do anything.

    Either way, the people who would bully anyone are assholes. If anyone mistreats someone because they don’t conform to their specific standards then they don’t deserve to have an opinion on you. I know that it’s easier said than done, but try to ignore those people. Your self worth shouldn’t be based on how jerks feel.

    No matter how people act or how you perceive yourself, you are still worthy of love and happiness. There will always be people who find you unattractive for a variety of reasons, just like anyone else. But there are also tons of people who will find you attractive for those same reasons and more. And like I said before, what matters the most at the end of the day isn’t how others feel, it’s how you do. So try to go easy on yourself and remember that one person’s opinion isn’t a fact.

    If you want to change something about yourself to make you happy, go for it! But trying to change yourself to make jerks happy will never work, because they can always find something new to criticize.


  • Hey, I just want to say I’m sorry you feel like this. I know it sucks not being happy with how you look, and it’s hard, but try to step back and look at yourself through someone else’s eyes. You might not be a supermodel, but you know who else isn’t? 99.9% of everyone else. And so what? I find plenty of people attractive who aren’t models, and plenty of models are unattractive to me. And honestly that’s the thing, everyone has different opinions on what is or isn’t attractive. You’ll always be your own worse critic, but try to seperate your personal opinions on beauty from the equation. You aren’t unattractive, you just might not be your type. I remember seeing some of your older posts, and like many people said then, you actually do look good. Dysphoria and self-image problems can make that hard to accept, but don’t let your brain convince you that what some jerks might have said to you elsewhere (or what you imagine people think about you) is more true or important than what people are saying to you here.

    Looking at yourself you’ll see every flaw, every detail of yourself that you can criticize or compare with others. But when others look at you, I promise that’s not what they’ll see. They’ll just see you, and the happier and more confident in yourself that you are, the better you’ll look to them. Being yourself and being happy about that will do miles more than anything else to improve how both you and other people see yourself.

    Trying to fight things like this alone can be hard, so if you’re able to do so, I’d recommend trying to speak to a therapist. They’ll be much better at helping articulate things than any random comment online could. If you can’t do that then reach out to the comments offering to talk. I’d always be down to, and while I can’t personally offer much advice in the way of makeup or clothes or stuff like that, I’d be more than happy to just chat or help out with anything I do know about.

    If nothing else though, I hope you can try and look at yourself through an outside perspective. When you see a stranger on the street you won’t scrutinize them for features of their body you dislike, so why should you do that to yourself? All that will do is magnify those thoughts, so try to find the elements of yourself you are happiest with and internalize those feelings instead. They don’t even need to be physical, they could be clothes, skills, personality traits, events, whatever. Try to celebrate anything and everything that makes you happy to be you.



  • Yeah, seeing people from both sides trashing politicians or influencers who spoke positively about Thompson or negitively of the killer has been so cool to see. There are still the liberals opposed go any type of visible violence that didn’t like the murder, but even most of them didn’t support the statements in support of Thomas. The Facebook post with like 100,000 laugh reactions has to be such a sign that no one is mourning a ceo and no one will care if you get killed. Like it’s facebook, if you get that reaction on facebook you know it’s bad lol. I know it won’t lead to anything on its own, but I hope it makes them uncomfortable at the very least. It’s long since time that the owner class feel a modicum of the pain they cause millions daily.



  • I can definitely see why someone not as well versed in anarchist history could believe that, or if they specifically meant against the insurance industry. Either way though, I think it’s important for people to know about that history of violence that led to meaningful social reforms. So many Americans think that workers rights, civil rights, and everything short of the abolishment rebranding of slavery was won through voting or peaceful protests.

    Too many people believe that somehow a state has some divine morality granted to it, and justice can only happen within the confines of said state. No moral act can be carried out without the government sanctioning it, and any miscarriage of justice by the state is an abnormality.

    There may be a monopoly on violence held by states against their people, but this doesn’t give them some inherent right to be the ultimate arbiters of justice. Something being legal does not make it moral, and just because an act is illegal doesn’t make it immoral.



  • I mean .world 100% sucks lol, and people should definitely move off it, but I’d also like people to move off .ml or any other general purpose instance since centralization on any one instance can cause issues imo. I’m considering switching off of .ee for the same reason. I think it makes more sense to have specific instances for specific things, so that the admins of one instance can have more domain specific knowledge ideally.

    .world specifically does seem like they can’t go more than a few weeks without some kind of drama though lol.



  • I think it’s also the fact that there tends to be a ton of specific labels for different leftist subgroups too, stuff like anarcho-mutualism is similar but not the same as syndicalism, or blanket libertarian socialism, etc. That and the fact that most people will self identify as one of the moderate labels like conservative or centrist or liberal, and do so in spite of their beliefs, not because of them. People who reflect enough on their ideas and desired policies will tend to be a bit more consistent about them and the labels they use to describe them.



  • Yeah based on his goodreads and other social media he’s definitely more of US style Libertarian or conservative. He tweeted some stuff about wokeness and DEI, some of the new athiesm junk about how athiests replace Christianity with worship of social issues, and seemed to like Elon Musk. He also didn’t seem to be fully committed to the ideology though, he had real criticisms of Jordan Peterson and he seemed to be an environmentalist. He honestly just kinda seems like a normal, if privileged, person. He has a mix of political ideas, some which don’t necessarily mesh, and is willing to criticize some of the people he agrees with.

    But if anything him being someone who seemed to like CEOs, who grew up pretty wealthy, being radicalized by the industry is kinda a stronger message about how unless you’re one of the corporate elite you don’t matter to them.