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Cake day: June 26th, 2023

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  • Okay, I’ll take you up on that and report here since it’s relevant to the discussion. The other day I reported someone for calling a celebrity they disliked an “insane dangerous psychopath” because they didn’t believe her accusation against Marilyn Manson. You told the user they probably shouldn’t do that, but let it slide because you don’t know enough about the situation. All you did was embolden that user who went on to say that the celebrity in question is clinically a psychopath, as if they’re a doctor able to diagnose something like that, and they picked apart her parenting which is irrelevant to what may or may not have happened between her and Manson decades ago. The whole time providing no sources, because the sources for such claims are gossip rags that can’t be trusted. I tried talking sense into the person myself, they called me gross and doubled down that it’s valid for them to be throwing diagnoses at strangers.

    They were not engaging in good faith. When someone resorts to aggressive name-calling and severe accusations they’re unable to back up with evidence, that is bad faith argument and it needs to be more than tiptoed around as you did. I stopped engaging because the both of you made it clear that it would not be possible for me to have a conversation in good faith without having insults hurled at me.

    Why do the rules only apply to some people, and not others? Why let the name-calling slide when the motto is “bee nice”? Is there a case when it’s okay to call someone a “dangerous insane psychopath” and we’re not talking about a convicted felon with APD? Is it because she’s a celebrity that you’re happy to facilitate a space where she’s so aggressively slandered? I’m trying to understand here. Even if you needed the facts before making a decision, It’s easy to search up that Manson has already been tried and convicted of the sexual assault he committed in public back in 2001, that it was at least the second time he committed such an assault in front of his crowd, and that he has a growing list of accusers that is in the double digits now. There’s no possibility that he is innocent in all of it, since at least two cases of sexual assault against nonconsenting individuals were witnessed and one case already convicted.

    I was so put off of this site after seeing your response to this person with an obvious vendetta against Manson’s accuser for who knows what reason. If you keep the users who resort to name-calling and unfounded accusations unchecked, you’re going to lose engagement from the people who behave themselves. If you’re wondering what I’m looking for here in response, a simple “Sorry, I’ll do better” will suffice. And then do better. Delete and ban offensive name-calling and obvious slander that damages the credibility of women who speak out against their abusers.


  • We can have discussion without resorting to armchair labels and namecalling towards people we think we know because they’re celebrities. You have no idea whether or not she’s a dangerous person. You only think you do. What is objectively dangerous is trying to convince others that she’s an insane psychopath because that’s your personal opinion. I’m disappointed that a fellow SA survivor wouldn’t realize this, and I hope you genuinely reflect on your opinion.


  • Thanks, I appreciate your concern but I’m not only relying on Watts. I’ve tried lots of other things in the past, and won’t stop trying anything I can find in the future, even if the usefulness is limited to seeing what didn’t work for someone I can relate to. A lot of this is emotional, and it’s been strangely comforting to know that he struggled with the similar issues.


  • I hear you, I had treatment a couple of years ago and unfortunately it left me with more questions than answers. My eating disorder counselor was a great guy, but he was using a badly outdated program with a terrible success rate, and that’s all that is currently for offer in my area. Currently I have a great therapist, but she specifies that she is not qualified to treat my eating disorder. I’m on medication for it and saw a psychiatrist for my disorder for a couple of years. Overall it’s gotten a bit better than it was years ago, but it’s still far from well managed.

    I thought it would be worth exploring Watts’ speeches on addiction precisely because he did suffer from one. Sometimes firsthand experience can be helpful, and sometimes under the proper conditions we can learn from the mistakes of others. I don’t want to just give up after partially successful medical intervention.




  • I think it stems from lack of empathy and assumptions. People will often assume you’re making a rude choice to not pay attention, and that hurts their ego. It makes them feel disregarded and unimportant. So they respond in a snippy way to express their frustration with you. They have no idea what is really upsetting them is their own assumptions about your behavior. When you break it down like this, it can help you see it’s not about you at all. They’re closed off and inconveniencing themselves as a result.

    People have a really hard time seeing outside of themselves and their own personal experiences. I had one friend in particular who constantly gave me shit for things outside of my control. She was the most effortlessly organized person I ever met, and she figured I was actively choosing my symptoms of ADHD. Even knowing your circumstances, some people are just not going to get it.