It seems like Lemmy is all about trans women, I’m genuinely curious though why we don’t have more trans men content. I’d say it’s maybe on the order of 10:1 posts celebrating trans fem vs trans masc (obviously not a scientific calculation).
I don’t have a lot of background in a lot of trans spaces so this is coming from a place of ignorance, but do people in the community have any insight as to why it seems to be this way?
Take this one for instance, it specifically says trans women. Why wouldn’t this just say trans people, comrades or something like that? Is there a large descrepancy between numbers of trans fem/masc or something?
Edit. I appreciate what people have said below. Together these responses give a textured albeit 10,000 foot answer to my question, which was what I was looking for. Thanks ya’ll.
From anecdotal experience trans women are more prevalent in these spaces because many of us have a tech background or know someone who does and is active in these places.
Trans men I know haven’t had that kind of connection and are usually less techy and therefore are not in spaces like these.
That said I agree with you that the meme would be cooler if it accounted for all trans ppl alike.
What you’re suggesting seems to align with what other people are saying too. Thank you, I appreciate it.
There’s another reason, tech often allows you to work remotely and without interaction with people which y’know, may or may not be transphobic.
Plus, science fields, arts, etc. tend to be much more welcoming to queer peeps. Awareness helps!
Lemmy is full of tech nerds. AMAB people are encouraged to go into tech, AFAB people are sexually harassed if they go into tech.
Interesting. Yeah that makes sense considering the “masculine” bullshit associated with the tech space. Thanks for your reply.
So here’s my guess. I’m not trans, and what I’m about to say is purely my observation and not based on data.
Folks born with male genitalia doing anything that is not cis and straight is frowned upon more than folks born with female genitalia doing the same.
Society finds two dudes kissing more revolting than two women kissing. It also doesn’t help that folks who transition to become a woman after having undergone male puberty are much more recognizable as trans. Compare this to trans men, who aren’t so easily identifiable as trans.
Hence, trans women have it worse interacting with society compared to trans men. Hence, they crave for a safe space more. Lemmy’s instances tend to be these safe places. Hence, more trans women here than men.
Without doing any research, I feel like I hear about fewer hate crimes targeting trans men than trans women? I’d guess because our society is obsessive with policing women’s bodies. A guy with no beard is whatever, but a woman with some fuzz or stubble is a crime.
(Not to say that trans men don’t have their own struggles)
Obligatory I’m not trans myself, but this is just my understanding of how people justify their hatred
Trans women also get talked about more bc of the transphobic lie that “trans women are just men that want in on women’s spaces to prey on women” and that “trans women are predators.” This is all bullshit. But it’s built upon the patriarchical idea that men have to protect women from other men. Men are simultaneously painted as the protector and the danger and which category they fall into is generally determined by how close they are to the in-group. So cis het non-white men are “dangerous,” but there might be some “good ones.” And white cis gay men can be “okay,” as long as they don’t “make it their whole personality” (re: keep it a secret and never mention it even once). However, trans women are antithetical to patriarchy so they are seen as like the “most dangerous.” Whereas, trans men, while they aren’t part of the in-group, they also aren’t seen as a threat bc transphobic people think someone AFAB can’t be dangerous. Again, this is all bullshit, but it’s bullshit that people who have bought into the patriarchy believe and act violently upon sometimes so it’s important to understand how they got to that so that we can deconstruct it
The thing is also that these transphobes manifest their binary idea of gender into discomfort with trans and nonbinary people, because it questions their narrow worldview.
And some other yet deal with internalised homo- and transphobia, mostly before coming out, or never doing so. I have compassion for that group, and hope they will overcome it. They need to be able to live freely.
Oh, and another part is misinformed due to nillywilly picking the first social media stuff as a “source” (and algorithms often aim for polarising information, since it sells clicks), and not wanting to reach out to y’know, these trans people with respect, to try to understand their perspective.
I see, so because of this asymmetry in treatment by society, there’s an assymetry of suppport in these particular online spaces. Makes sense. I appreciate your input, thanks.
The consensus when this comes up in most of my trans spaces (this topic comes up semi regularly) is that we just tend to be a lot chattier and that probably accounts for a lot of it.
I treat trans women amazing and sadly i got gout for it 3:
For the idiots like me who had to google it: HRT increases the risk of gout.
I was over here like “what, did you fuck a trans woman with your big toe?”
Gout also runs in my family so there’s that too which doesn’t help. Got it in the wrist in my dominant hand which is really fun…
but now you can tap into the legendary power of the gout force!
I treat myself pretty badly, so this isn’t great news.
give urself a hug from me pls :3
That’s a lot of drinking and playing war hammer then.
Guess I’m getting head for 2026 then
Great… Another year of me being completely oblivious and unable to tell people what year it is.
I think I have something akin to face blindness but for gender. Not too long ago I was in a groomsmen for my buddy and his sister was one of the bridesmaids. Im told she was trans, but I had no idea, and he ended up making fun of me for not being aware of it.
Like what do you people want from me? She was in a pretty dress, how am I supposed to know?
Honestly? Based
My super power… Being to dumb to not be an ally.
All gender affirmation will be supported via my innate ability of being an oaf.
It wasn’t that you were too dumb to notice but more that it didn’t make a difference when you found out. And I’m sure she would’ve loved that you thought her dress looked good.
cuddles, memes, and yuri. yeah.
that’s honestly the dream combo
purrrrrrrr~ catgirls too
Oh, delightful! I’m not exactly sure how 2026 is gonna give me sloppy head but I’m looking forward to finding out.
Beat me to it XD
Omg, 2026 actually gave me sloppy head! Everything worked out better than expected!
You and my girlfriend both!
Oh my gf is one of the main reasons 2026 is giving me sloppy head and she most certainly also is getting so much of it <3
I treat other trans people well, but myself quite poorly, so I guess my year will treat me great unless I’m alone?
If I’m going to be treated as a woman by 2026 I’m going to have to call that some kind of misgendering tbh
Thank you
What trans person did I piss off to have my mom die right at the start of the year?
I do hope 2026 will suck my gock
