At what point do you call yourself a trans elder? I’d like to know everyone’s opinion on the matter. Trying to determine if I really am a trans elder or not. Thank you.

        • Echedelle (she/her) ( echedeylr@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
          4·
          7 days ago

          the other community was filled with transmedicalist terms and views.

          for example: mtf, assumption that we are either pre-op or post-op (instead of being a goal-based thing), the assumption that we are all women (some are transfem but NB and not women), bodyshaming (assumption that we want and have to get rid of body hair and even comments against people who felt comfy with it, but this happened time ago), the assumption about your transition goals (similar to pre-op and post-op but also that your end goal is having specific genitals), etc

          i felt super uncomfy to even participate in the other community because of that, or even ask serious questions. i saw the shaming, the judgements, the expectations.

          it gave me a major societal dysphoria (societal, not social).

          it was so so cis-normative, sometimes even het-normative.

          • Ada ( ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
            2·
            3 days ago

            It what?

            I’m one of the mods of that community. Not just admin, but also a community mod. I understand why the name makes people uncomfortable. In this case, it came from the name used in one of the trans reddit communites at the time of the initial migration.

            But aside from the name, I would very much want to know about gatekeeping and bodyshaming, because it has no place in the community or the instance.

            If you see it in the future, please raise it with me or another mod/admin.