At what point do you call yourself a trans elder? I’d like to know everyone’s opinion on the matter. Trying to determine if I really am a trans elder or not. Thank you.
imo it’s about relativity to your community - are you able to help and have experience that’s worth sharing more than most?
I believe so; however, it’s a lot of personal responsibility for me. I am up for the challenge!
probably once youve been out (even to just yourself) for x amount of years, theres no universally agreed on number afaik.
for me it’d probably be once youve been out for 15-20+ years
also what’s up with the new community? blahaj already had a transfem comm
Shortly put, there were some people who preferred not posting in that community because they found the moderation policy too laissez-faire.
I personally prefer the “let all flowers bloom unless they’re seriously poisonous” attitude, but even more I like that all transgender people feel comfortable talking about their stuff. And to me it looks like having these two groups is an optimal solution. I’ve got no problem subscribing to both of them :)
I do seem to fit this description. I am going on 19 years of HRT and experience to boot. I will deeply consider it.
Its transfem but stricter? Idont really understand, i read the opening post and mentioned transmed views (which we dont tolerate?) And just general stricter rules on pronouns and engagement?
Feel free to ask any questions, we are happy to answer any asked in good faith :)
I mean i think i got the gist, and the self hating thing totally get that. Im happy theres a place some may feel more comfy with, i just personally think its gonna get confusing lol
the other community was filled with transmedicalist terms and views.
for example: mtf, assumption that we are either pre-op or post-op (instead of being a goal-based thing), the assumption that we are all women (some are transfem but NB and not women), bodyshaming (assumption that we want and have to get rid of body hair and even comments against people who felt comfy with it, but this happened time ago), the assumption about your transition goals (similar to pre-op and post-op but also that your end goal is having specific genitals), etc
i felt super uncomfy to even participate in the other community because of that, or even ask serious questions. i saw the shaming, the judgements, the expectations.
it gave me a major societal dysphoria (societal, not social).
it was so so cis-normative, sometimes even het-normative.
It what?
I’m one of the mods of that community. Not just admin, but also a community mod. I understand why the name makes people uncomfortable. In this case, it came from the name used in one of the trans reddit communites at the time of the initial migration.
But aside from the name, I would very much want to know about gatekeeping and bodyshaming, because it has no place in the community or the instance.
If you see it in the future, please raise it with me or another mod/admin.
Well, hopefully not. We did choose a completely different icon for a reason, hopefully that and the different sidebar is enough.
also what’s up with the new community? blahaj already had a transfem comm
There was a post on the other community going into it a little bit. I’m still not super clear on the specifics but here’s a link to the post.
Please do feel free to ask us questions for anything you don’t understand!
Personally we think it is something like when trans beings are in a position to help others, and are relatively stable in their transition. But that is just our opinion.
Thank you for your insight. I appreciate you
We appreciate that.
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