Hello everyone :3
So back in May I started a new job, accidentally outed by a friend from the beginning (it was an honest misunderstanding), freshly hatched actually. Though unplanned, it turned out to be a good thing generally. One of the cool consequences was that I ended up on the women only ( mail distribution list of my new workplace, which felt really affirming.
They offered an online talk about microaggression which I attended, still very much insecure without showing my face or voice. At this point I’m still pretty scared of going to a public women’s restroom and keep it in until I’m home. I’ve not been to any women only space yet, so this was a pretty nice opportunity. Oh well, I kinda lurked in some online spaces of course, but this did feel much closer to real life.
It was a bit of a… culture shock, but with gender and in a good way? I feel a bit weird saying this, cause it’s just so stereotypical stuff, but I was just so amazed at how this topic got treated with such natural and artless empathy by everyone who spoke. I’m surely able to imagine spaces where men are allowed in which this could happen, too, I just never stumbled into one. And here it just felt like the obvious default everyone casually agrees to? Why is it not like this everywhere?!
It felt like coming home, even in a different way from joining trans spaces, where I do have similar feels. And I broke down crying for ~15 min for not having grown up with that kind of support. I don’t know, maybe I am reading more into this than there really was, I’m still processing this. Feel like something very profound happened to me.
Gonna go to a witchy rope gathering for women on the weekend, which is in actual real life, wonder how that’ll turn out. Super excited, but very nervous, too. Even dreaming about it a lot, which is very unusual for me, can’t remember my dreams at all most nights.
Feel free to share any thoughts, hope you’re all good with your journeys <3
Oh, face mask could really help, facial hair is definitely the worst problem for me presentation-wise…
It really sucks, it’s this trashy terf brainworm that’s crawling through my mind, wish I could just get rid of it. Will get there, either with baby steps or one day when waiting is just not an option, because I sure as hell won’t enter a men’s bathroom.
You’re welcome to, thanks for sharing <3
Oh well, it was only online and I have been an invisible listener. Today definitely motivated me some more, but the real test is the weekend. The place explicitly welcomes transfeminine people, though, so it should be fine :3.
Shaving had been a huge issue for me at first. My skin hates blades, super sensitive no matter what I did. The first shaver I found was so good but they seem to have stopped making, it was called Flawless Legs and had 4 rotating heads. But sadly I dropped it and then the battery eventually went out completely.
But this replacement I found is just as good. It’s a 3 head shaver and gets a pretty close shave. It’s by Vogoe and runs about 30$ on Amazon. I will try to attach a picture. It’s really easy to clean and I swear I need to buy a second one once I get some income. I also got a single head “conair” that has a bunch of attachments and it works ok.
Hm, thanks for recommending, but I doubt it’ll change anything. I shave wet with safety razors which is supposed to give the smoothest result? My skin takes it okay, I just have too dark and thick hair, just can’t get rid of the shadow. Great for laser, bad for a clean shave.