Is it weird to admit I’m not a huge fan of boardgames…? Am I the only one?
it’s weird, but i’ll be weird with you on this. i think the other commenter makes some valid points but there are legitimate reasons to generally dislike a medium. for example, i don’t like waiting on other people to take their turns LOL (on a similar note, i prefer my media to be interactive, so i would also say i don’t like movies or tv shows too much)
however, i’ll also acknowledge that the other commenter had some valid points re: the people influencing the experience and playing co-op board games. which are things i’ve experienced and preferences i have
but sometimes it’s cumbersome to say “i generally only like cooperative board games with cool people” lmfao
I did poly for a long time and wasn’t that into board games. But yeah a lot of poly people are into them.
I’m more into tabletop RPGs, but never achieved the dream of a polycule party.
Nowadays I wouldn’t even recommend crossing the streams that way.
Depending on how broad definitions we run by, then board game can be synonymous with tabletop. Especially for the uninitiated
I’ve found that there’s a weird rift where a surprising amount of people who like board games dislike tabletop RPGs. I think because they’re so open, where board games are more structured and directed.
In the biggest polycule I know, there’s a mix of “likes both”, “doesn’t do RPGs but like board games”, and … I don’t know if anyone likes neither in that crew.
11·5 days agoI recently had a poly breakup. One of my fears was that it would be the end of the campaign I’ve been dming since the the group was me, a partner and a few of their other partners. Turns out we can all be adults and the game is still on. ☺
It’s because we know it isn’t cheating to play within house rules so long as everyone agrees 😉
Tabletop gamers are very social, but still nerds. Typical tabletop game also has a lot of rules that need to be discussed and interpreted before playing, and if you want to regularly play you need 3-6 people who can consistently show up and focus for a number of hours.
Polyamorous people are the sort of people who have a very clear and precise picture of what they feel counts as cheating and what their personal boundaries are, and who before beginning a relationship will sit down and litigate the rules and boundaries of the relationship, revisiting them as needed later on or as people are added to or leave the polycule. The ones who don’t do this tend to not be in poly relationships for long. Additionally, speaking for myself here as an ethically monogamous person, you kinda need to have the spoons to deal with lots of people having big feelings around you (good/bad doesn’t matter, all intense feelings are intense) which weeds out the introverts.
The venn diagram of these two groups of people isn’t a circle, but the overlap is really huge. Highly social, likely autistic, respects rules, likes learning. And add to that people who are dating are already spending a whole lot of time with each other, which removes one of the difficulties of board games.
Me showing this to my girlfriends
Maybe being into board games is the default state and monogamists have a board game deficit
¿por qué no los dos?
Humans are so busy looking for Cause->effect we often miss feedback systems Cause<->Effect
Damn, I guess it’s my turn to feel called out. We’ve got a floor to ceiling shelf that is filled with board games, and we’re looking at getting another.
How much of it is wall-of-shame? Most of my bookshelf, over 90% is wall-of-shame.
ETA Can confirm, I am polyamorous and a tabletop gamer. Rather, I’m poly-compatible. Presently, I’m single and not looking.
ETA Clarification: I’m not actively seeking romance. I am actively seeking gaming groups.
That’s the fun part though. Looking for a gaming group and looking for a polycule are basically the same thing
Another board game or another member of the pocket?
Yes.
Goddamnit. This is so fucking true. Gonna post this to our poly chat.
I mean, you can have a board game playing friend group where you only fuck one or two of them…
I mean, if everyone is fucking one or two of the other members, it’s basically already a polycule
I was into boardgames way before I knew I was poly.
I think they cum together 😉
Board games alter your hormones
it comes from the same origin (the Zen character) which is interested in scientific exchange (board games are a stand-in for this) and organizing (which is significantly furthered by polyamory)
