So by the logic of “beauty standards”…I should starve myself, curl my hair, get a tan, cut off both my feet to lose height and then remove all of my ribs to get an hourglass figure? You know…can’t argue with that 🙃
Gladly…would
(except maybe the tan part, I really like being pale 😭)
Close, but its actually “whatever sells you a solution”.
That is exactly what ‘beauty standards’ are. Unobtainable. How otherwise could they constantly sell you stuff to ‘improve’ your look? Fashion, beauty, fitness, wellness sales are 100% dependent on you being convinced to hate yourself enough to buy, buy, buy.
Have to market products somehow.
It’s a selection bias. The only unsolicited comments about your body are from mean people.
I wonder if this is related to the IKEA effect. It was shown that people value something more highly if they helped creating it, like assembling IKEA furniture. Similarly it could be that people like their look better if they actively helped creating it instead of staying how they looked naturally.
Then why do I fucking hate IKEA
That’s a pretty interesting idea, something relating to self determination I imagine.
Creating demand is a centerpiece of a Western world since about Edward Bernays.
Thank you. As a plus-sized girl, this is something that I really needed to see tonight. I’ve been feeling very ugly & disgusting because of my weight.
As someone who is married to a plus-size lady, I can assure you that anyone judging you for that is not worth the time of day. Be comfortable with who you are, if you want to change yourself in any way then do it because you want to, not because of irrelevant dillweeds.
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Some of us vastly prefer plus sized girls.
Can confirm ⬆️ Even more people prefer people that are comfortable with who they are, irrelevant of size ✌️
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Being plus-sized is not a flaw and I hate how badly society treats plus-sized people. That’s disgusting, the shame and fatphobia society directs against plus-sized people…it’s really extreme.
You’re neither ugly nor disgusting. I see you and appreciate you. I hope you are well 🩷
Thank you. <3
I feel a lot better when I am able to go to the gym regularly, but I haven’t been able to go in months because I just can’t afford it since I’m try to go back to school (college) and books are hella expensive.
It’s about making women have low self esteem and always willing to change ourselves to meet expectations. It makes it easier to get us to submit in other ways.
Yeah. I honestly hate it more and more each day :/
I am trans, and my goal is to look as trans as possible. Take that society!
How’s the blahaj collection coming along?
If you take a mathematical average of all women or all men, you get someone out that is quite attractive. A few parameters are deemed more beautiful at the extremes, but if you are: neither overweight nor starving, have slightly wavy hair, are of medium height, have averaged away all illnesses… you’re starting from a good place.
I feel like that’s some serious question?
It is like that coz some wants profits.
It is not enough to sell beauty products, as once achieved, income could drop - You need to pursuit another beauty. And poof, we have a fashion.
Nah, it was still not enough, so, they started to make You feel ugly, so spend more. Follow all these photoshopped ai enhanced pictures from ads everywhere, unreachable standard. Spend.
Fuck it, ignore standard, go get beauty in self from self (whatever that mean, rarely someone can judge self as “good enough” or “damn pretty enough”).
Someone happy with who they are and what they have doesn’t make as many purchases. In a capitalistic society, that’s unacceptable.
Conversely unhappy people who can’t fix what’s making them unhappy will go find people who can tell them something they can fix about themselves to make them happy in a different way.
All potential solutions will be offered and the ones that resonate are the ones that target things we dislike about ourselves, call it out as a Big Solvable Problem, and offer you a solution at retail prices.
So yes, everything on the right hand column is always being offered to everyone all the time, and the ones on the left hand column have enthusiastically self organized and sought their matching targeted self esteem exploit.
A less interesting explanation is that everyone’s comparing themselves to the mean. If any attribute is too different, it needs correcting. Weight, skin tone, number of fingers and toes, etc.
It’s the opposite, you’re comparing yourself to what’s exotic in your community and generally only achievable by the elites.
In Scandinavia, being tanned has been a beauty standard for decades. As most people work indoors.
In Asia being as pale as possible is the aim, as the peasants have been working outside. Being pale was the beauty standard in Europe throughout the mediaeval years, as peasants then worked outside.
Anything that can make you appear well off tends to be a beauty standard, it’s arguably the main reason some circles have obvious hideous plastic surgery as a beauty standard today, it proves you’re able to afford such surgery
To add to that, in the past being overweight and unfit was a sign of wealth. Only rich people could afford to eat and sit around all day. Nowadays it’s inverted; only well off people have the time to eat healthy and exercise regularly
With the price of food, we’ll get there again
The logical conclusion of this is that only men are beautiful
no, there’s also plenty of fun beauty standards that men are required to uphold, and they also change from culture to culture. Most of the ones you see in western nations veer into toxic masculinity.
Kinda accurate tbh. British comedy sketch even did this.
Women’s advertising: everything is going wrong and its all your fault, you need to buy all of this shit
Men’s advertising: Shave and get drunk. Because your already brilliant.
Nah, they get it too, unfortunately.
WHAT, HOW? 😭
I mean, it’s true that I only find men hot, but like…how did you come to that conclusion?? 😭
For some reason this reminded me of the foot binding stuff in the Benedict Wong Marco Polo series, which is legit some of the most uncomfortable scenes in TV ever.
